ATTENTION PK's

[uniquepraise]

Greetings all!

I am doing a research project and would like your participation in completing it.  For any and everyone who's a PK (preachers kid) please take time and answer the following questions.  You may email them to me and they will not be posted.  If you need more information about what happens to what you send Ill be happy to let you know.

Email: uniquepraise@hotmail.com  

QUESTIONS:

There's a saying that Preacher's kids are the worst kind.  
1.Do you believe this is true or false?
2.What are your best/worst experience of being a PK?
3.What would you like your current/former church to know about you?
4.What would you like for your parents to know about you?
5.What would you like the Christian community to know about PK's in general?

MY ANSWERS:
1.I believe that this statement is false. I believe that "saints" hold PK's to a higher standard than they do their own simply because the PK's parents are in the spotlight.  We are all human and make mistakes and error in judgments there is no reason why the nation should know that a PK had a car accident when Bro. John Daddy's son went to prison.

2.I have had good and bad experiences as a PK.  My parents resigned in 1997 from pastoring so my adult years have been less "critiqued" My worst experience is being molested by a saints child, my best is being seen as an individual not as "Pastor F's child"

3.I would like for my former church to know that should always get to know an individual before judging them whether PK or not.  

4.There were a lot of things that went on I never told my parents about during the 18 years of ministry.  Although they felt at times they were protecting me a lot of things got through that I’m just now at age 26 releasing.

5. I would advise the Christian community to respect PK's and give them support.  They have a tough job of being in the spotlight and critiqued on every little thing.  Don’t make a big deal out of their failures but LOVE and FORGIVE them.  Treat them as you would want others to treat your children.  Take time to get to know them, avoid spreading or giving ear to gossip. If you take time to get to know them then when you hear mess you can put it where it belongs.

Thanks for you help and I look forward to hearing from you all.  (I have one upcoming on muscians too so be looking out for it!!!)  

[BBoy]

I am not a PK, but I was raised in the church as a missionary's son. I would like to say that the people in the church need to realize that the preacher's kids are the preacher's kids, not theirs.

Many times the stress put on the PKs is incredible because everyone thinks they need to know what grades the PKs are getting in school, they have an opinion on whether or not the PK should be dating, playing sports, if the PK has a girlfriend or boyfirend it is all over the community, people think they should have an opinion on whether or not the PK should go to the prom, the clothes the PKs should be wearing . . .  8O

Let their parents do the parenting.

On the flipside, some preachers do tell way too much of what is going on in their homes. Yes, that is a big part of the problem. You don't share you kids with the church, they are YOUR kids.  :wink:

If you're a preacher and the child comes to you with questions about dating, that should go no further than you. Preachers should NOT get up in the pulpit and tell the church to pray for your high-natured son or your fast daughter, because the devil is after them.  :roll:  That has got to be one of the stupidest things that preachers and pastor's wives do.

Just my 2 cents . . .

Be Blessed . . .  

[blessedone]

I am a PK. I agree with BBoy.

I can say there is lots of stress being a PK. Dito BBoy :lol:

[c3hamby]

Greetings all!


QUESTIONS:

There's a saying that Preacher's kids are the worst kind.  
1.Do you believe this is true or false?
Can be, but it doesn't have to be.  When a pk turns out bad that makes the news, if they turn out good, who cares? The whole preacher's family is held up to a higher standard.  

2.What are your best/worst experience of being a PK?  Church my dad grew up in didn't believe in dancing.  So never got to do any of that.  Once my dad kept me from seeing Count Basie on a Wed night-he died 2 weeks later, but then a stupid rock band came into town on a Sunday night, and he let me go see that :?  We moved around a LOT, once every 2-3 years.  Best thing about being p/k was regular involvement in a church, and discovering of talents I have.  

3.What would you like your current/former church to know about you?  Preachers are always telling their congregations not to take their word for it, that they are humans in every other way. If people really heard this they would treat preachers and their families just like everyone.  All people, whether they are preachers, deacons, musicans are people just like everyone else, capable of making mistakes.  

4.What would you like for your parents to know about you?  My parents did the best they could with what they had.  Everybody is doing the best they could.  Obviously in hindsight there are many things I'd like to change about what happened, but can't do that now, so, here I am.

5.What would you like the Christian community to know about PK's in general?  Preachers, don't abandon your family for the sake of the Word.  If you're not taking care of your family at home, you can't take care of the church.    

MY ANSWERS:
1.I believe that this statement is false. I believe that "saints" hold PK's to a higher standard than they do their own simply because the PK's parents are in the spotlight.  We are all human and make mistakes and error in judgments there is no reason why the nation should know that a PK had a car accident when Bro. John Daddy's son went to prison.

2.I have had good and bad experiences as a PK.  My parents resigned in 1997 from pastoring so my adult years have been less "critiqued" My worst experience is being molested by a saints child, my best is being seen as an individual not as "Pastor F's child"

3.I would like for my former church to know that should always get to know an individual before judging them whether PK or not.  

4.There were a lot of things that went on I never told my parents about during the 18 years of ministry.  Although they felt at times they were protecting me a lot of things got through that I’m just now at age 26 releasing.

5. I would advise the Christian community to respect PK's and give them support.  They have a tough job of being in the spotlight and critiqued on every little thing.  Don’t make a big deal out of their failures but LOVE and FORGIVE them.  Treat them as you would want others to treat your children.  Take time to get to know them, avoid spreading or giving ear to gossip. If you take time to get to know them then when you hear mess you can put it where it belongs.

Thanks for you help and I look forward to hearing from you all.  (I have one upcoming on muscians too so be looking out for it!!!)