When my mother died (30 yrs. agao) she left verbal instructions of how things were suppose to be done, needless to say they still have been done. She had 9 living children, one can't make a move or decision unless we all agree .............as of today...........we dont agree.
Sad............you dont have to own lots of property or have a huge bank account to have a Will.............it will save a lot of heartache and your spouse/children from having to deal with the courts setting up administrator & etc.
I'm dealing with this right now from a childhood friend who recently lost her Mom, her dad passed about 5 years ago. There was a verbal agreement that whoever helped the mom the most (so silly) i.e., doctors appts, household chores, etc. would get the house that the mom lived in.
Well this friend, had her older daughter living with the mother, so it became the granddaughters responsibility to care for the grandmother.
Now almost 3 weeks after the mother's passing, all the siblings are in a scabble about who gets the house. When she called me and asked me what should she do, I told her it's not a lot she can do. The deed was in both parents names, who are now deceased, and with nothing in writing, this is now a probate matter.
Even the daughter and the mother are at odds, because the daughter lived with the grandmother for the past 2 or 3 years. Presently, the granddaughter is still living in the house, but not in peace
She didn't like my answer, but I told her unless someone get's a hold to their senses and the situation, with 4 surviving children this house will be eventually sold and the proceeds will be split 4 ways.
Meanwhile, the house note and other utilities still need to be paid, and no one wants to pay them for fear that they may be investing in something they won't get in the end.
As of last night no one is speaking! And yes, these are "Christians" cuttin' up somethin' fierce
I beseech you all, Get a will!
