the answer is unattainable, or you could say it's different for each of us...i got married when i couldn't NOT fall in love with her. i figured the Lord was telling me to 'wise up...you're a moron to let this one go'!
dj
Tying the knot, CJ, is not like turning 18 and being able to vote, or 21 and being able to drink LEGALLY. It's not scheduled or determined by a certain age, nor by certain "feelings"!
I like dj's quote but I will say the answer IS attainable! But, only when 2 people come together and agree, this is God's will for their life.*
At times it may seem as if you're chasing the wind, but when your lifemate/helpmeet comes along, you will KNOW!
Whether you do the right thing in taking and making that step, will be between you and God, but trust HIM and not yourself.
The Lord will not lead you where He's not prepared to go! It's a good question, but you've got to get, AT LEAST, a toe hold on your OWN place in life before you bring someone else into the picture.
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Life, meaning One in God TOGETHER, yet being whole & complete before the union!