Weddings are a tough call! Hey, if folks know you,
most expect you to do it for free. They don't ask how much do you charge, just "Can you be here on such-and-such day?" And when you show up, they assume that your being there is a gift to the bride and groom!
You know what I'm saying! And, whatever you would want to charge, it's probably best to negotiate that up front because once you get to the wedding, you can actually find yourself forgotten when they go passing out the checks to the cake baker, the decorator, the hairdresser. I once drove over an hour to do a wedding and got nothing more than a pat on the back and a "gee, thanks!" So, unless you ask up front, you may find yourself doing it "pro bono!"
I try to avoid getting sucked into the wedding vortex! LOL Maybe I'm bad for feeling that way, but I hate doing weddings.
It costs you two evenings away from your family, the
worst of the two being the
wedding rehearsal. You're sitting there yawning and rolling your eyes while the two mother-in-laws argue over where the flower girl's going to stand.
Hey guys, I'm not usually this "Bah Humbug!" Honestly! I love being a musician, just not at a wedding, that's all! hahaha
Wedding song suggestions...Here and Now (L. Vandross), Unforgettable (N. Cole), Because You Loved Me (C. Dion), At Last (E. James), I Believe in You and Me (W. Houston). Most all of these you can download the soundtracks online.
The worst choice for a song I was ever asked to do at a wedding was the Theme from the Titanic. The marriage lasted less than six month...call me superstitious, but I wouldn't recommend putting a song about a
sinking ship in the ceremony just before the exchanging of the vows!
