Ive been married for 12 years, Ive had more bad years than good...my husband and I have been separated several times...we are both saved and both know what the word says about married...my husband continues to cheat and now he has left again to be with another woman...when he gets tired of her, he starts calling me and begins to beg to come back...I have let him come back several times, but this time I just can't bare to be hurt again...I feel, I have grounds for divorce, but speaking to other leaders...some say you've married him , wait until God work it out...others say I'm justified in getting a divorce...my heart is no longer in this married...I just want to be right in God's eyes...
You know....its always hard to give advice to someone who's married. You never want to feel like you will contribute to its ending, but somethings need to end. Yes, that's easier said than done. Only your husband, you, and the Lord know what's going on in your marriage. I haven't been married for 12 years, but I got a few under my belt. So if I may.
Pray to GOD to be released from your marriage if it's his will. Sometimes we are meant to go through somethings...and sometimes we are meant not too. No one can give you that answer...you have to find it yourself. To me, cheating on your wife/husband.....makes a marriage null and void. If im not mistaken..that's the one thing that can allow you to get a divorce...other than the death of a spouse. You have to come to terms that your marriage may be over. Only God can give you that peace. Trust, there is too much out there that he can bring back to you. You are worth more than that. So when i say pray for release, I mean pray for peace about your descion, pray for guidance, pray for your husband, the one he's cheating on your with, and most of all pray for yourself. He may release you from worrying about it, or he may release you from the marriage in a whole.
It's not your lost. Anyone who would cheat on a faithful spouse doen't deserve that spouse in my book. My mother is still married to my dad...and although I love them both very dearly...I wished my mom had left my dad a long time ago. Countless women after women. Nobody deserves that. She stay because she felt her children needed both parents...and she stayed because shed loved(loves) this man. So no...this board won't shead anymore light on what you need to do. Im sure you've proably talked to your husband till your blue in the face. Seek couples counseling...or if he won't attend...seek it for yourself.
Stay blessed and keep praying!!!
