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Question about a weirdo
« on: September 27, 2007, 08:56:07 AM »
Hey y'all.  I need some advice from those who don't mind reading a lengthy post... lol.

I think I have a weirdo in my subdivision, and I'm not quite at the point of "alarmed," but my imagination is starting to run a bit wild...

Lemme give you the history.

One day, back in February or March, I arrived home to find a red gift bag with a teddy bear in it and a red heart-shaped balloon attached.  Inside, there was a card that said, "Welcome Neighbor" with a brief handwritten note welcoming me to the sub, signed with a full name (first, middle, last, suffix).  About a week later, I was about to throw the balloon and bag out when I noticed that there was a business card inside.  I felt badly because I hadn't seen it prior to that, so I never said "thank you."

I called the guy, thanked him.  Conversation was kinda weird, but not alarming.  There were a lot of weird pauses.  For example, he'd say, "So are you from Atlanta, or did you move here from another state?"  I'd answer, and then there'd be a long, quiet pause.  (hindsight red flag) Then, I would say, "well, okay, thanks again..." and he'd start a whole other conversation, with lengthy pauses in between each Q&A.  At one point, of course, I asked him about church and he told me about his.  I told him about the one I was working with at that time, and he expressed an interest.  I told him that he's welcome to join me any Sunday, and he said that he would like to come that Sunday.  (2nd hindsight red flag).

He did indeed come that Sunday, and as I had forewarned him, I was extremely busy.  He left before I came out of my office, so that week, I called him to thank him for coming and apologize for not speaking to him after service.

Here are the other weird incidents that really started to raise red flags:

1. I got a text msg from him in April asking if I had plans for Saturday night and wanted to join him at the Pink Pony.  I suspected and later found out that this is a nasty, swanky, cheap adults-only club.  I didn't respond to the text.

2. Another occasion, I ran into him outside and after chit-chatting for about 5 minutes, I said I had to go inside.  He said OUT OF THE CLEAR BLUE "I have a new camera phone.  May I take your picture before you go?"   ?/?  Of course, I declined.  That totally weirded me out.

3. One night, I was seeing some friends to their car after Sunday dinner.  Another friend and I were heading back inside my house when he practically ran out of his front door to say hello.  Later on (about 1:30 a.m.) he sent me a text asking if my lady friend and I would like to come over for a nightcap (his words).  I ignored it.

4. About a month after that, he called me several times, starting at 8:00a, and finally left a VM asking when my friend and I were going to come over to have a drink.  He sent a text asking the same thing.  I ignored it.  That evening, I saw him again on my way in, and told him I had a very busy month ahead of me and didn't see it happening any time soon.

5. The following Saturday morning, my phone rang at 7:00 a.m.  I didn't answer, and he called back 3 more times.  I got a text from him asking me what I like to drink because he's on his way to the package store.  I ignored it.  Later when I saw him, he mentioned that he was trying to get in touch with me, but since he couldn't, he just got a variety of packages...

6. A few weeks ago, he sent me a text asking me if I wanted to join him at Magic City (another adults-only club).  I ignored it.

7. This morning, at SIX FOURTEEN AY EMM (that's 6:14 a.m.), my phone rang.  I didn't recognize the number, but I figured if someone is calling me that early, it must be important.  I answered the phone with my I'm-asleep-so-this-better-be-important voice and heard these words:

"LaRue.  Good morning.  If I cooked a nice breakfast this morning(pause), do you promise me you'll come over and join me?  I said, "uhhhh, no. Who is this?"  He said his name.  I said, "Oh, good morning.  Thank you for the offer, but I'm going to have to decline."  He paused, and then said, "Oh well. I guess I'll just go to the Waffle House or something.  I hate to eat alone."

 ?/?  ?/?  ?/?  ?/?  ?/?

Question is... should I be alarmed at this point, or is this guy probably just a harmless weirdo?

And for the record, I have never, ever done or said anything to make this dude think I'm even remotely interested in him, his cocktails, friendship, or strip clubs.  In fact, since the first conversation, I've been very direct and cold towards him because I found him to be very strange and intrusive.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2007, 09:04:48 AM »
I don't know what to tell you, but be careful because that is some really strange behavior. You might want tell someone close to you what is going on between this guy, that way if he tries anything they will know.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2007, 09:05:54 AM »
Awww.....he likes you. :)
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2007, 09:10:20 AM »
I don't know what to tell you, but be careful because that is some really strange behavior. You might want tell someone close to you what is going on between this guy, that way if he tries anything they will know.

Yeah, I think it's pretty strange too.  This morning just kinda sealed the deal for me.

I want to tell him directly not to call me anymore, but I'm afraid that if he's not all there, that might set him off...

I did tell a friend about it, and I've also recorded most of this stuff in my journal.  And now you guys know... lol.

Awww.....he likes you. :)

Yeah, I kinda figured that... but the question is should I be concerned?
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #4 on: September 27, 2007, 09:11:59 AM »
As the queen magnet of dudes like this...I might be alarmed also. If you keep declining his offers, he might get psycho on you...not to scare you. You might want to let him know that you are not comfortable going to those places and tell him "Hey, if you gotta contact me, please reach me by email". Or...change your number, but if things get really crazy...move! lol, but really I hope it doesn't resort to that. I know I had to change my number and it just so happens I was moving anyways...so it worked out, but this dude definitely scares me a little.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2007, 09:17:25 AM »
LaRue this gentleman definately has some issues.  First of all we all need to pray that God will cause this guy to step away.  Amen.  Secondly, pray about sending him a letter, and just telling him that your life belongs to the Lord, and that you are not interested in anyone, and that you really cannot open yourself up to having dinner, or going out to a nightclub, or anything else of that sort with any man.  I would stress to him that your life is completely dedicated to the Lord.......

Got me.  You are a beautiful young woman, and this gentleman thinks you are for him, and I definately don't think you are putting to much into this.  You are seeing very clearly, and that check in your spirit is right on sister.  I would take precautions coming, and going from the house.  Never come in so late that no one is aware of you coming, or going.  Always make sure that someone knows when, where, and how you are doing things, and where this dude lives, and the situations that have been surrounding him. 

I truly will be praying for you that God will give you much wisdom in how you handle this guy, and that the fear of the Lord will hit him, and he will leave God's daughter alone.

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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2007, 09:21:30 AM »
He invited you to Magic City!  :o

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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #7 on: September 27, 2007, 09:25:00 AM »
He invited you to Magic City!  :o

Don't think you have a weirdo know you have one...



Exactly...

Awww.....he likes you. :)

And i'm mad this was all you had to say...lol. I am shocked!
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #8 on: September 27, 2007, 09:29:02 AM »
Let me just throw this one out there......

Maybe dude is just trying different approaches (as one fails, he tries another).  I can understand being cautious, as all women should be....but I don't think this necessarily makes him "wierd".

.............corny, and played-out...but not necessarily wierd.  He's the kind of guy that you could tell.."Hades will freeze over before I agree to go out with you!"

............and his response would be...."OK.....so you're saying I've got a chance???"
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #9 on: September 27, 2007, 09:40:39 AM »
Let me just throw this one out there......

Maybe dude is just trying different approaches (as one fails, he tries another).  I can understand being cautious, as all women should be....but I don't think this necessarily makes him "wierd".

.............corny, and played-out...but not necessarily wierd.  He's the kind of guy that you could tell.."Hades will freeze over before I agree to go out with you!"

............and his response would be...."OK.....so you're saying I've got a chance???"

I don't know sax...if he stayed on the other side of town, I wouldn't be so alarmed, but this dude can be peeping in her windows and then go back home and get a cup of coffee and start the day like nothing happened. I was thinking maybe you should go out with him at a very public place (in 2 separate cars...and also have a friend there) and just see how the "outing" goes. Then the next day let him that we should be neighbors and friends and nothing else.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #10 on: September 27, 2007, 09:43:50 AM »
It's a little strange, and corny as sax said.  Phone calls aren't bad but repeated calls at odd hours of the day is a red flag.  I'd think that if I wanted breakfast with you, I would set that date up a day or two before, not call you at 6 doggone 14 in the morning.  Okay, that last part just made me a little upset.

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I don't see why I have to be doing this kind of.......
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #11 on: September 27, 2007, 09:44:06 AM »
Let me just throw this one out there......

Maybe dude is just trying different approaches (as one fails, he tries another).  I can understand being cautious, as all women should be....but I don't think this necessarily makes him "wierd".

.............corny, and played-out...but not necessarily wierd.  He's the kind of guy that you could tell.."Hades will freeze over before I agree to go out with you!"

............and his response would be...."OK.....so you're saying I've got a chance???"

You really think so, Sax?  Like, if I were your daughter or sister, would you really feel that way?  I was kinda hoping somebody would say that, so I can ease my worries... this morning, I couldn't even go back to sleep after that call, it had me so shaken up.  I'm not like, afraid, but I'm just wondering what COULD happen... one day, dude could take his weirdness to a whole other level... I could come home and this dude is sitting in my livingroom with my dog on his lap or something weirdER... lol.

I hope you're right because I really would feel better if that's true.  But, if he ISN'T weird, what's with the 6:14a phone call and 1:30a texts?  Why not call at a decent hour?  What's with the request to take my picture?  What's with the text at 7 on a Saturday morning asking me what kind of packages I want...  ?/?  ?/?  ?/?
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #12 on: September 27, 2007, 09:47:27 AM »

I hope you're right because I really would feel better if that's true.  But, if he ISN'T weird, what's with the 6:14a phone call and 1:30a texts?  Why not call at a decent hour?  What's with the request to take my picture?  What's with the text at 7 on a Saturday morning asking me what kind of packages I want...  ?/?  ?/?  ?/?

he's a freak...lol! How about you just talk to him...clear the air and ask him.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #13 on: September 27, 2007, 09:50:12 AM »
Sounds weird to me...

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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #14 on: September 27, 2007, 09:50:58 AM »
It's a little strange, and corny as sax said.  Phone calls aren't bad but repeated calls at odd hours of the day is a red flag.  I'd think that if I wanted breakfast with you, I would set that date up a day or two before, not call you at 6 doggone 14 in the morning.  Okay, that last part just made me a little upset.

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I don't see why I have to be doing this kind of.......
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LOL!!!!!  Does that mean you're coming to ATL to handle this for your little sis????  ;D
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #15 on: September 27, 2007, 09:54:06 AM »
Let me just throw this one out there......

Maybe dude is just trying different approaches (as one fails, he tries another).  I can understand being cautious, as all women should be....but I don't think this necessarily makes him "wierd".

.............corny, and played-out...but not necessarily wierd.  He's the kind of guy that you could tell.."Hades will freeze over before I agree to go out with you!"

............and his response would be...."OK.....so you're saying I've got a chance???"




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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #16 on: September 27, 2007, 09:56:07 AM »
LaRue this gentleman definately has some issues.  First of all we all need to pray that God will cause this guy to step away.  Amen.  Secondly, pray about sending him a letter, and just telling him that your life belongs to the Lord, and that you are not interested in anyone, and that you really cannot open yourself up to having dinner, or going out to a nightclub, or anything else of that sort with any man.  I would stress to him that your life is completely dedicated to the Lord.......

Got me.  You are a beautiful young woman, and this gentleman thinks you are for him, and I definately don't think you are putting to much into this.  You are seeing very clearly, and that check in your spirit is right on sister.  I would take precautions coming, and going from the house.  Never come in so late that no one is aware of you coming, or going.  Always make sure that someone knows when, where, and how you are doing things, and where this dude lives, and the situations that have been surrounding him. 

I truly will be praying for you that God will give you much wisdom in how you handle this guy, and that the fear of the Lord will hit him, and he will leave God's daughter alone.

Thank you, SB... that's very good advice.  I think that's what I'll do (not the letter part, he might memorialize my words... lol), the next time he calls me, I'll tell him I'm not interested because I'm focused on Jesus, etc... I wanted to say something like that this morning, but at 6:14 ay emm, it wasn't gonna be about Jesus... lol.
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #17 on: September 27, 2007, 10:05:25 AM »
he's a freak...lol! How about you just talk to him...clear the air and ask him.

Now that's what I really wanted to say!!!!!!.................I might have missed something......Is one of those clubs a "scip club"????

If so.......that's different!!!!  Tell him "Look, the calls at odd hours, and the venues that you are selecting are making me feel nervous. So,  I need to know if you are Ted Bundy crazy, R Kelly crazy, or just Martin Lawrence crazy so I'll know which crew to put on alert stand-by!"
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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #18 on: September 27, 2007, 10:05:28 AM »
LOL!!!!!  Does that mean you're coming to ATL to handle this for your little sis????  ;D

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Re: Question about a weirdo
« Reply #19 on: September 27, 2007, 10:08:49 AM »
Now that's what I really wanted to say!!!!!!.................I might have missed something......Is one of those clubs a "scip club"????

If so.......that's different!!!!  Tell him "Look, the calls at odd hours, and the venues that you are selecting are making me feel nervous. So,  I need to know if you are Ted Bundy crazy, R Kelly crazy, or just Martin Lawrence crazy so I'll know which crew to put on alert stand-by!"

Majic City is...I heard my roommate talking about it when she went to Atlanta. I'm sure i'll get questioned about knowing this...lol.
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