Somebody needs to get into a REAL Bible study and FAST! 
YEAH....maybe if I can enroll in some people's definition of a Bible study, I'll run across the page that doesn't say "HE THAT FINDETH", but "HE THAT SETTLES FOR THE FIRST THING THAT COMES HIS WAY AND AGREES THAT HE IS WORTH HAVING WHEN SO MANY OTHERS HAVEN'T"?
The way to FIND is to SEEK. SEEK does not mean SETTLE! I can have options and choices without taking them TO BED, if that is what you are implying.
If I don't feel like being bothered at this point, I don't have to be. If I want to see a movie or eat alone, that's my choice and I don't owe anyone an explanation of how or why I choose to do so or how long I'll be gone, with who, or whatever. It is literally my choice.
When I go see a movie with MRS RIGHT then I'll know who she is and BAM!! THERE IT IS!!!
But until then, an option only hurts a brutha when he sleeps with all the options. Eating chicken with options never hurt anyone. Can we say the same thing about settling? I didn't think so!
Y'all have a good weekend, hear!?
