WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE MARRIED?

[jeremyr]

Married life is good my friend.  Very good.

It takes some adjusting, but it's great to have someone to talk to about your day, fix or have them fix you breakfast, talk to, laugh with, pray with.

Imagine it like this.  It's like having your best friend around all the time with privileges.


Not to mention when you're married you can "Get your grown up on" and God smiles

[Redy2bUsed]

Married life is good my friend.  Very good.


Not to mention when you're married you can "Get your grown up on" and God smiles

Say WORD!!!!

[changedman]

But what about the other things?  Not "particularly" the GROWN UP things?


I have some friends who got hitched because they "didn't want to burn" according to scripture.  But what about the parts of love that go beyond 2:17?  Do those exist?

[Redy2bUsed]

Before my grand mother passed in 2005...
My grandparents wer married for 63yrs.

They argued all the time....
But they wouldn't have it any other way...

Because they were in love with each other....
And in love with Jesus....

Even when my grand-dad was out there....
in his younger days...
My grand mom played her part..
Why??
Because she honored her devotion
to her husband...
And she honored her covenant with God.

See my grandparents came from the ol' Skool....
Even when things were bad....
Divorce was not an option....
They knew thta bad times come with marriage....
Its a natural thing....
But with those bad times came more and more love for each other...

[sjonathan02]

But what about the other things?  Not "particularly" the GROWN UP things?


I have some friends who got hitched because they "didn't want to burn" according to scripture.  But what about the parts of love that go beyond 2:17?  Do those exist?

of course they exist; jeremyr gave you most of them.

You may be looking a bit too deeply at this.

[jeremyr]

You may be looking a bit too deeply at this.

+1

Marriage is a life longer friendship/partnership commitment.

I think some people get the false impression that it's anything more than that. It's not like you get married and all of a sudden life takes a drastic turn.  No You live and grow with your best friend and have them to consider in everything you do.

[changedman]

+1

Marriage is a life longer friendship/partnership commitment.

I think some people get the false impression that it's anything more than that. It's not like you get married and all of a sudden life takes a drastic turn.  No You live and grow with your best friend and have them to consider in everything you do.

That last sentence is leading where I think I'm trying to go.


LOOKING DEEPLY?  Yes.  Deeply enough to develop some relative points for a storyline.  I don't want to make it just be sexy, funny, and musically entertaining....there has to be a level of realism that makes helps couples who are not where you guys are get there.

I could be like most playwrights and write based on what I "think" it should be like or what I would imagine it to be like.  But like most other plays, mine would be entertaining but lack realistic depth...a crime I don't wanna be charged with in this particular venture.

[gtrdave]

IN SHORT?  HOW DO YOU KNOW 19 YEARS LATER THAT SHE IS "STILL THE ONE"?


WHAT IS IT ABOUT HER THAT FLOATS YOUR BOAT, MAKES YOU TICK, SENDS YOUR ROCKET INTO SEVENTH ORBIT (not sexually, just in general)?

Well, here's the thing first off...it's not so much that in 19 years from now I'll still know that "she's the one", it's that because we made a commitment to each other and before the Lord, she WILL BE THE ONE 19 years and 29 years and 39 years from now, God willing.

Ok, it's time to be bluntly honest here but it'll help me make the point...we were separated many years ago...twice, actually...because at the time I wasn't mature enough to recognize the commitment that I had made and figured that when my boat was not feeling floated or when she wasn't making me tick, it was time to jump ship and give up on the relationship. And if you want my super-honest opinion on the matter, I think that FAR TOO MANY PEOPLE are looking for that instant thrill of a fresh relationship to last a lifetime.
Sorry but it does not happen. After a while the warm fuzzy feelings wear off, she'll do something to tick you off and then that's when real life kicks in...and you start thinking to yourself "THIS is not what I signed up for".

Long story short, I had to spend some time away from her and in the counsel of some very wise Godly people to realize that she was the one for me...maybe not so much because I said so but because my Lord said so...and we were able to reconcile and become the people whom I believe that God created us to be. Through us and our commitment to each other we have been able to be a witness to the life-changing power and the life-restoration that can ONLY come from a supernatural loving God.
I'm to love my wife and Christ loved the church, laying my life down for her and so that's what I try my best to do. Boat floating, rockets, ticking, etc...all that's nice stuff but it's temporary and it comes and goes like the waves...but a relationship that is built upon the Rock, the firm foundation of Jesus, THAT is the one, imho, that will last a lifetime.

Does my wife still "do it for me"? Yes, she does. She's beautiful...maybe not always on the outside and I mean that according to the world's standards, the same standards that when applied to me could make me look super ugly, you know? But she is beautiful mostly because I get to see her as no one else does; as the awesome gift from God to me. 

[changedman]

THANK YOU DAVE!!!!  THAT WAS VERY INFORMATIVE!!!!


You know what else is driving me to do this? 

There is a show on MTV (can't remember the exact name), but it tracks the lives of men and women who have babies on the way.  It almost glorifies being "babies-mamas" and "babies-daddies".  Many of the couples on the show are live-in couples and seem to be doing well with it (give or take a few).

For the guy who has his "gal" and a good living situation and sees the need for nothing further, I want to write a play that ministers to his mind (and her self-esteem at the same time).

But for the couples already out there who are losing the "edge" to stay together, I want there to be something in the production that SPARKS something for them too.

That's why I am reaching as hard as I am.

[chevonee]

Marriage means security, protection, good 2:17, and errr ummmm you get the point..

[Redy2bUsed]

Marriage means security, protection, good 2:17, and errr ummmm you get the point..

[Redy2bUsed]

Where did this 2:17 come from???

[joshuag]

hahaha

[chevonee]

Where did this 2:17 come from???

It came from de Lawd!!
Oh Glory Hallelujah....Thancha Jesus....

[changedman]

It came from de Lawd!!
Oh Glory Hallelujah....Thancha Jesus....

Folks on LGM iz alwayz goin' IN for 2:17!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Lord Jesus!  LOL!

[LEYLAH]

Well, i am engaged, and MY wedding is going to be MARCH 16, 2008!!!

The reason i picked that date was because of the BIBLE VERSE "John 3:16" aka "MARCH 16"

I am hoping marriage life will be awesome!

[Redy2bUsed]

It came from de Lawd!!
Oh Glory Hallelujah....Thancha Jesus....

Ohhh Lawd.....
 

[gtrdave]

Well, i am engaged, and MY wedding is going to be MARCH 16, 2008!!!

The reason i picked that date was because of the BIBLE VERSE "John 3:16" aka "MARCH 16"

I am hoping marriage life will be awesome!

Just like unmarried life, it will be what you work for it to be. 

[LEYLAH]

Just like unmarried life, it will be what you work for it to be. 

Umm, okay!

[SisterT]

What is it like being married---for me it's a taste of heaven right here on earth.

My man fulfills the call of God--he represents the relationship that Christ has with the the church. He's unselfish, sacrificing and loves his wife as Christ loves the church. When I see him, I see Christ.

Christ is awesone....my man is awesome
Christ love is everlasting....my man's love is everlasting.
Christ is forgiving...my man is forgiving
Christ is real....my man is real
Christ is magnificent....my man is magnificent.

I got more than I could have imagined, and thankfully, I can honestly say, I have a man who is doing marriage by The Book.

We both realize that marriage is a high calling, and thus, we respect what God has ordained.

But also---2:17 as an awesome benefit of marriage---because when you do it in God's timing, you get to experience the fullness of 2:17.  Anything else is a really bad copy of God's blessing. And as with all copys, it gets distorted.

I love being married to my husband---we fit together. Here's a lil something I wrote about the high calling of marriage:

The High Calling of Marriage

When we think of a calling, we think of one that has been called to preach the gospel. Preaching God’s word is a higher level of calling, and it carries the responsibility of being committed and dedicated for a lifetime. The call to preach never expires.

Marriage is a high calling. Marriage carries the responsibility of being committed to a life long relationship with a spouse. Just as any call by God, marriage is for a lifetime.

My kids all had the toy where you would fit different shapes in it’s matching slot. The kids would become frustrated when they could not get a shape into an unmatched slot. They soon realized you can’t force a shape into a slot that it did not match. It just won’t work!

The person who is called to be your mate will be the only person who fits the slot of your heart. Forcing yourself to love a person just to get married will not work. The two will become frustrated because they were not a match for one another.

Instead of searching for the right person who fits your heart, why not become the right person by God’s standards. Callings are God-focused and takes the attention off of self. Too often singles look for what they want in a mate, without considering if they themselves are a worthy mate. Search the scriptures and consider what God requires of you as a husband or wife. Make sure that you will be able to be what God expects you to be within a marriage. Make sure that you are called to marry your beau.