FELLAS...AM I BEING TOO "FORWARD"

[changedman]

You know how you have that one female friend who is not your girlfriend, and you don't like her "like that" but she is just so dang COOL!?

Well, there's a girl/lady I work with who is EXACTLY that way!!  When things happen, she never lashes out at me with "you were wrong...blah blah blah".  In fact, she understands me more than my mama who brought me here (at times).

She is cool to talk to about ANYTHING!  She never comes in the door without asking me how I'm doing.  If I am unusually quiet, she comes over to the desk or e-mails me to ask what's the matter and genuinely cares enough to offer a kind word of advice when needed.

I see her as being someone "cool", and I try not to notice the fact that she is SUPER FINE with BEAUTIFUL LONG HAIR!  It's strictly a frienship thing with her.

She is a single mom.  I bought her and the boys gifts for Christmas.

When I was first coming down the flu and we thought it was sinuses, she surprised me by coming in to work with three packets of cough drops and my own box of Mucinex (which is not cheap).

She is just a cool little sweetheart...divorced...never asked if she had a man because I only see this girl as a cool friend...

But I really want to have some flowers delivered to her for being such a "sweetheart" on Valentine's Day...

AM I BEING TOO FORWARD?

[LEYLAH]

interseting!!!

[Keys410]

You know how you have that one female friend who is not your girlfriend, and you don't like her "like that" but she is just so dang COOL!?

Well, there's a girl/lady I work with who is EXACTLY that way!!  When things happen, she never lashes out at me with "you were wrong...blah blah blah".  In fact, she understands me more than my mama who brought me here (at times).

She is cool to talk to about ANYTHING!  She never comes in the door without asking me how I'm doing.  If I am unusually quiet, she comes over to the desk or e-mails me to ask what's the matter and genuinely cares enough to offer a kind word of advice when needed.

I see her as being someone "cool", and I try not to notice the fact that she is SUPER FINE with BEAUTIFUL LONG HAIR!  It's strictly a frienship thing with her.

She is a single mom.  I bought her and the boys gifts for Christmas.

When I was first coming down the flu and we thought it was sinuses, she surprised me by coming in to work with three packets of cough drops and my own box of Mucinex (which is not cheap).

She is just a cool little sweetheart...divorced...never asked if she had a man because I only see this girl as a cool friend...

But I really want to have some flowers delivered to her for being such a "sweetheart" on Valentine's Day...

AM I BEING TOO FORWARD?

Do ya thing homie. If she starts feeling you from those flowers what you going to do?

[themidiroom]

Sounds like a nice gesture.  Like keys asked, what happens if she thinks you are romantically interested after that?

[under13]

Just talk to her. Its a lot cheaper than flowers.

You said you dont know if she has a man?

So what if you send flowers to her house and her Man sees them?

You work in the same office as her, so Sending them to her job is probaly not the best idea.

I suggest asking her to go to dinner (or lunch since yall work togather) and telling her how you feel


We might all have to chip in and buy Herman this book

[changedman]

Sounds like a nice gesture.  Like keys asked, what happens if she thinks you are romantically interested after that?

I will quit my job and run like "Hades"!

I don't like her like that.  But she is so dang COOL!!!

And I never hear her mention a man.  She is ALWAYS here or in class (going back for her Masters I believe).  Her "social life" (from our conversations) is consumed in her two boys (football, karate, blah blah blah).

I just wanna do something to show her that I think she is so dang special!!!  Not in a romantic way, but in a cool friend-like kinda way.

[joshuag]

dude that is too late i think she likes him more than she is letting you know. Secondly, MAN be honest you like her more than just a friend too... take it slow and let it happen on its own time. She is moving slowly and so are you... you are building this is a good thing to see...

[w42879]

dude that is too late i think she likes him more than she is letting you know. Secondly, MAN be honest you like her more than just a friend too... take it slow and let it happen on its own time. She is moving slowly and so are you... you are building this is a good thing to see...

I agree!

[Keys410]

I will quit my job and run like "Hades"!

I don't like her like that.  But she is so dang COOL!!!

And I never hear her mention a man.  She is ALWAYS here or in class (going back for her Masters I believe).  Her "social life" (from our conversations) is consumed in her two boys (football, karate, blah blah blah).

I just wanna do something to show her that I think she is so dang special!!!  Not in a romantic way, but in a cool friend-like kinda way.

Fine,caring, and educated...What's the problem?

dude that is too late i think she likes him more than she is letting you know. Secondly, MAN be honest you like her more than just a friend too... take it slow and let it happen on its own time. She is moving slowly and so are you... you are building this is a good thing to see...

I agree with Dr. Phil... I mean Dr. G

[changedman]

Just talk to her. Its a lot cheaper than flowers.

You said you dont know if she has a man?

So what if you send flowers to her house and her Man sees them?

You work in the same office as her, so Sending them to her job is probaly not the best idea.

I suggest asking her to go to dinner (or lunch since yall work togather) and telling her how you feel


We might all have to chip in and buy Herman this book

Going out says "I wanna get to know you better and possibly date you".

I wanna do something that simply says "Tracy, thank you for being so d*** cool" plain and simple.

If I get flowers, they will NOT be red roses.  They'll be something "friendly-like".

[joshuag]

Fine,caring, and educated...What's the problem?


I agree with Dr. Phil... I mean Dr. G

hahahaha!!! thanks man, you silly....

[organplaya04]

Dang mane you had me going until you said she had kids!!! 

[Keys410]

Going out says "I wanna get to know you better and possibly date you".

I wanna do something that simply says "Tracy, thank you for being so d*** cool" plain and simple.

If I get flowers, they will NOT be red roses.  They'll be something "friendly-like".

Now there would have to be a reason you dont want to date her... Please enlighten us... Cause this just dont make sense to me. A woman as sweet as you described and pretty..I would have to take a chance

[changedman]

No, she is not "the one for me", she's just "that girl".

Every fella has "that girl" in his life.  Kinda like if all of us were best buddies with Queen Latifah.  Feel me?  Queen is "that girl"...just plain cool in every sense of the word.

YES!  SHE IS FINE!!!  But that's not the focal point.

When the whole issue was going on with the "stalker", she knew.  I wouldn't dare try to date her when she knows about THAT fiasco.  That makes me look like the office playboy or something.

Plus, I know me, these days I RUN FROM COMMITMENT!!!  Ain't no sense in taking her or nobody else down through there.  I just said in the other post...I TRUST NO ONE!!!  Especially not romantically. No way!

I just think she's cool and if she doesn't have a man, then the dudes in Memphis are really missing out on a good woman (not me, but the other ones).  She's good people.

She's not just "nurturing" with me...it's everybody who sits in our area.  She'll leave and go get food for folks.  She'll give another female her sweater if it's cold in the office and one of them is freezing.  She's just an all around cool, sweet girl.

I just wanna do something cool and nice for her.  This is NOT a preliminary to a "will you be my girl" type of thing.  Trust!

[Jmanley1116]

You know how you have that one female friend who is not your girlfriend, and you don't like her "like that" but she is just so dang COOL!?

Well, there's a girl/lady I work with who is EXACTLY that way!!  When things happen, she never lashes out at me with "you were wrong...blah blah blah".  In fact, she understands me more than my mama who brought me here (at times).

She is cool to talk to about ANYTHING!  She never comes in the door without asking me how I'm doing.  If I am unusually quiet, she comes over to the desk or e-mails me to ask what's the matter and genuinely cares enough to offer a kind word of advice when needed.

I see her as being someone "cool", and I try not to notice the fact that she is SUPER FINE with BEAUTIFUL LONG HAIR!  It's strictly a frienship thing with her.

She is a single mom.  I bought her and the boys gifts for Christmas.

When I was first coming down the flu and we thought it was sinuses, she surprised me by coming in to work with three packets of cough drops and my own box of Mucinex (which is not cheap).

She is just a cool little sweetheart...divorced...never asked if she had a man because I only see this girl as a cool friend...

But I really want to have some flowers delivered to her for being such a "sweetheart" on Valentine's Day...

AM I BEING TOO FORWARD?

Dude...stop it....Just friends.  Bruh, you may as well just get her a ring for VD.  She came in to work on her day off just to bring you cough drops and Mucinex...she's digging you and you are OBVIOUSLY digging her.  If all's well with you, dude...I'd get the flowers and pursue (in holiness) her like Peppe 'le Pew.

[under13]

Going out says "I wanna get to know you better and possibly date you".

I wanna do something that simply says "Tracy, thank you for being so d*** cool" plain and simple.

If I get flowers, they will NOT be red roses.  They'll be something "friendly-like".

Aint that what you wanna do? Date her

Do yall have a lunch hour at your job? If so, ask her if she wants to go to the diner (or other cheap restaurant). Thats a start at least

Or you can get her a $50 gift certificate to her favorite restaurant. If she ask you to go there with her then she might be interested in you, if she doesnt ,then she probaly dont wanna go out

[Steelpulz]

I will quit my job and run like "Hades"!

I don't like her like that.  But she is so dang COOL!!!

And I never hear her mention a man.  She is ALWAYS here or in class (going back for her Masters I believe).  Her "social life" (from our conversations) is consumed in her two boys (football, karate, blah blah blah).

I just wanna do something to show her that I think she is so dang special!!!  Not in a romantic way, but in a cool friend-like kinda way.

Send a card with the flowers expressing your sentiments.....oh, and don't send red roses

[joshuag]

No, she is not "the one for me", she's just "that girl".

Every fella has "that girl" in his life.  Kinda like if all of us were best buddies with Queen Latifah.  Feel me?  Queen is "that girl"...just plain cool in every sense of the word.

YES!  SHE IS FINE!!!  But that's not the focal point.

When the whole issue was going on with the "stalker", she knew.  I wouldn't dare try to date her when she knows about THAT fiasco.  That makes me look like the office playboy or something.

Plus, I know me, these days I RUN FROM COMMITMENT!!!  Ain't no sense in taking her or nobody else down through there.  I just said in the other post...I TRUST NO ONE!!!  Especially not romantically. No way!

I just think she's cool and if she doesn't have a man, then the dudes in Memphis are really missing out on a good woman (not me, but the other ones).  She's good people.

She's not just "nurturing" with me...it's everybody who sits in our area.  She'll leave and go get food for folks.  She'll give another female her sweater if it's cold in the office and one of them is freezing.  She's just an all around cool, sweet girl.

I just wanna do something cool and nice for her.  This is NOT a preliminary to a "will you be my girl" type of thing.  Trust!

all i am will say, when she asks you out in a few weeks ( i.e lets go to lunch together) dont say i told you so

[vtguy84]

Dude...stop it....Just friends.  Bruh, you may as well just get her a ring for VD.  She came in to work on her day off just to bring you cough drops and Mucinex...she's digging you and you are OBVIOUSLY digging her.  If all's well with you, dude...I'd get the flowers and pursue (in holiness) her like Peppe 'le Pew.

[changedman]

Exactly.  I am going to do flowers and a card that says "you are a cool girl...i'm glad we are friends...i appreciate you for being you the way only you can...happy valentine's day".


Plain and simple.