Why is it that:
1. when a guy talks to me, he thinks telling me "i like big women" will get him in the door?
Could it be that some of his friends, buddies, etc. have said the same thing, got the results they desired, and told him? When problems happen to us in life, it is not ALWAYS the other person’s fault. What have you done to welcome the fact that it is not permissible to approach you in this manner?
2. guys think just because a woman is plus sized, she will take any man?
Could it be (just POSSIBLY) because in our society that happens every day? Why “think” or second-guess the obvious? No, it may not happen with EVERY woman, but it does happen with MOST! Real talk. Anyone who has low self-esteem or a poor self-image (whether hidden or expressed) seems to settle for less than they deserve, because LESS is what they FEEL they deserve.
3. an intelligent, nice-looking woman (such as myself ) that is independent has a hard time getting a date?
Could it be (again I say, POSSIBLY) because YOU are trying too hard to make it happen when the Word says “he that findeth”. We are both single, which means that until God provides something different, we are to concern ourselves with how to please the Lord (not our fleshly desires). Some people will reply to this in a very passive way, but I say WE have to take responsibility for OUR actions and REALIZE that sometimes we play the most influential roles in our own downfalls. Real talk.
4. guys think I'm lonely just because I'm alone (or without a man)?
Saying that you have “a hard time getting a date” would NATURALLY make someone think (the key word is “think”) that you are lonely. Otherwise, you would not see it as being a “hard time”. Instead, you would realize that all things happen IN God’s time, not ON our time, and be content with where God has you FOR NOW.
5. guys knock on my door unannounced (and uninvited) thinking they can come in?
I would be pressed to ask…have there been other occasions where they WERE allowed to show up and come in? If so, we can not get mad when they do NOW what we have allowed PREVIOUSLY. We can’t open the door for the enemy and then get mad when he comes in.
Does being an intelligent, nice-looking, independent, plus-sized single mother make me a target for those men who just want to "get theirs"? UGGGGGGHH!!!!!
NO ma’am. It does not. However, if you truly believe within yourself that you are intelligent and nice-looking in spite of being plus sized (which I believe about you as well), then you should know off top that you are NOT a target for anything except the will of God being done in your life. Plain and simple. His ways are not our ways. His thoughts are not our thoughts. But He loves us so much that everything we are forced to endure in life prepares us for the GREATER that is to come LATER!
I encourage you to change your outlook on the situation (and yourself, if need be) and hold on until GREATER comes.
SIN (according to yesterday’s sermon at GCT) is man’s attempt to fill a LEGITIMATE need the WRONG way. Sometimes the LEGITIMATE need we have to be loved causes us to settle for the WRONG WAY of getting the love we legitimately need.
I also urge you to “be careful”. Someone will read this very post and “feel” the presumed loneliness that lies underneath. So, when you get the PM’s from guys who claim to be “not like the rest” and want to offer you a solution to your issue, will you fall into the trap again?
There is a way that SEEMS right to a man (and a woman, too), but the end thereof…
Need I say more?
