We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
Cool, you started another good relationship post. I think we are seeing eye-to-eye on these issues. All of your questions are on point.
1. When a guy approaches me at my worse I assume he has low standards. That makes me somewhat disinterested. On the other hand, it can be sort of a compliment.
2. Sometimes I think guys are intimidated to approach a classy, good lookng woman.
3. A woman should always look her best. Especially single women (no comment on married people). Hair, nails, and clothes should always be together. Do not listen to people who think coming outside looking a mess is attractive. I think it is pretty gross. I would never be caught outside (or inside) wearing sweats and a do-rag. Sweatpants are the single most unattractive item anyone can wear. That is just not my style. Must remain ladylike at all times.
4. I agree, when you reallly like someone the feelings tend to not be returned. However, this is rare for me since I lose interest rather quickly. Guys always find a way to turn you off. Whether it is something they say or do
5. I had man with a cane track me down and hand me his phone number. He looked like he was 70 yrs old. Besides that, older men approach me, both white and black, and seem alot more confident then the young guys. "Duds" seem to have more confidence to approach you as well. I mean those thuggish ruggish guys with the gold toofus. I always want to say, why me. Anyway, I agree w/whoever said there is a shortage of black men. I believe the ratio of black men to women is lower than indicated. There are alot of jailed and or gay black men (sad, I know).
Littlelamb, I can relate to you as far as being a late bloomer. It does help to keep you chaste and virtuous! The guys were few and far between, now they are banging down the doors. You really do meet a lot more duds in this process. I don't think I have met a good guy that was single yet. There always turns out to be something terribly wrong!
