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the fire burning? You guys its a dawg gone shame but around here in central Georgia, subjects like this are forbidden. But we continue to find that more and more married Christians are splitting apart because they were unable to keep their love alive and passionate. They are seeking that love in other places instead of with their spouse. So I want to know especially from those of you who have been married for more than 10 years...how have you been able to keep you relationship fresh, alive and passionate. If this has already been discussed plea (int) forgive mayeee (int) ;D


For example do you try to go on a romantic gettaway every ______
Do you step outside the normal box and try new things_____ [Lawd Jesus I hope this don't get locked..cause I aint tryin to do nuffin wrong] :-[ :-[



NOTE: I don't want you to talk about what you do in the bed room because I don't want this thread locked...I am just honestly asking this question so that we younger married folks can learn from those who have already been where we're trying to go. OK? I hope this doesn't offend anyone either...I just need help.
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2008, 09:20:35 AM »


I honestly dont think there is an effective way to talk about this, w/o being explicit. Well I'm only 13 years old so I'ma stay out grown folk bidness

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2008, 09:26:27 AM »


I honestly dont think there is an effective way to talk about this, w/o being explicit. Well I'm only 13 years old so I'ma stay out grown folk bidness

Scuze me, Vonne.  U13 You know good and doggone well you ain't seen 13 in quite a few, stop frontin'!

Okay, Vonne, you may proceed.  I think grown folks who've been married more than 10 years can keep it clean...

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2008, 09:33:04 AM »
Scuze me, Vonne.  U13 You know good and doggone well you ain't seen 13 in quite a few, stop frontin'!

Okay, Vonne, you may proceed.  I think grown folks who've been married more than 10 years can keep it clean...


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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2008, 09:34:59 AM »
Back in my day (LOL), we made it a point to go on a date once a week.  When money was tight, we'd do a cheap date, like going to the park, going to a dessert shop to have coffee and dessert, or whatever.

Another MUST DO in my book was going on an out-of-town weekend trip every month.  If finances don't allow, you should definitely try to take one every few months.  We found a great B&B in the mountains about 90 minutes away that was only $75/night off season, so for the weekend, we'd spend $150 for lodging, maybe $30 in gas, and our pocket money budget would depend on how we were doing financially.  One time we went and were pretty broke, so we just "stayed in" most of the weekend.... which was fine by us.  ;) ;D  All in all, the trip could cost us as little as $200, if need be.  That's pretty cheap for a weekend trip for 2.  And it works wonders (especially if you're in the mountains and your cell phones don't work).

Another thing you can do is commit to sharing at least ONE meal together every day, and once in a while, do something special.  Either get all dressed and stuff, light some candles, play some music, cook his/her favorite meal whatever...

Another thing we did was "3 Things" every single night before we prayed together.  We would each tell the other 3 of the things we love about the other, and the rule was, even if we were tired, annoyed, or whatever, we still had to do it.  No matter what.  Then, on Wednesdays, we'd add "1 Thing to Work On."

Flirt a lot.  Via phone, text, e-mail, leaving notes around the house, whatever...

Keeping it fresh means doing things you don't normally do.  So, once in a while, do something you don't normally do, whatever that might be.

Communicate daily.  Ask him what HE thinks you could do to keep it fresh...

For now, that's the best I can give you without getting PG-13.
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #5 on: March 07, 2008, 09:39:03 AM »
Our two year anniversary is March 26th.
Thank you Lord....
We're still good....

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I'm sure I'll need this info
later on down the line.
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #6 on: March 07, 2008, 09:39:16 AM »
The most important thing to remember is that as time goes by, our needs and tastes and desires can change. This is why it is so important to communicate with each other. By doing so and tapping into what the other is saying, you can do those things that the other enjoys and also the things that you both can enjoy together. That's how you keep it fresh and hot. 8) 8) 8)
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2008, 09:43:25 AM »
the fire burning? You guys its a dawg gone shame but around here in central Georgia, subjects like this are forbidden. But we continue to find that more and more married Christians are splitting apart because they were unable to keep their love alive and passionate. They are seeking that love in other places instead of with their spouse. So I want to know especially from those of you who have been married for more than 10 years...how have you been able to keep you relationship fresh, alive and passionate. If this has already been discussed plea (int) forgive mayeee (int) ;D


For example do you try to go on a romantic gettaway every ______
Do you step outside the normal box and try new things_____ [Lawd Jesus I hope this don't get locked..cause I aint tryin to do nuffin wrong] :-[ :-[



NOTE: I don't want you to talk about what you do in the bed room because I don't want this thread locked...I am just honestly asking this question so that we younger married folks can learn from those who have already been where we're trying to go. OK? I hope this doesn't offend anyone either...I just need help.

Send the kids to Gramma's for the weekend...then you'll have the house all to yourselves ;D
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2008, 09:46:30 AM »
The most important thing to remember is that as time goes by, our needs and tastes and desires can change. This is why it is so important to communicate with each other. By doing so and tapping into what the other is saying, you can do those things that the other enjoys and also the things that you both can enjoy together. That's how you keep it fresh and hot. 8) 8) 8)

I think that is the key. Young people who arent married, have no problem telling thier partners what they want and how they want it, So why do so many married folks settle for something that isnt satisfying for them. And  agree with the others, yall gotta do stuff togather, It seems like when some folks get married all the fun stops.

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #9 on: March 07, 2008, 09:49:06 AM »
The most important thing to remember is that as time goes by, our needs and tastes and desires can change. This is why it is so important to communicate with each other. By doing so and tapping into what the other is saying, you can do those things that the other enjoys and also the things that you both can enjoy together. That's how you keep it fresh and hot. 8) 8) 8)

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #10 on: March 07, 2008, 09:50:51 AM »
I think that is the key. Young people who arent married, have no problem telling thier partners what they want and how they want it, So why do so many married folks settle for something that isnt satisfying for them. And  agree with the others, yall gotta do stuff togather, It seems like when some folks get married all the fun stops.
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #11 on: March 07, 2008, 09:51:40 AM »
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #12 on: March 07, 2008, 09:54:04 AM »
I think that is the key. Young people who arent married, have no problem telling thier partners what they want and how they want it, So why do so many married folks settle for something that isnt satisfying for them. And  agree with the others, yall gotta do stuff togather, It seems like when some folks get married all the fun stops.


ummm.... how long you been married? LOL


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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #13 on: March 07, 2008, 09:55:43 AM »
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL

Well I do have a few close friends and mentors who are married.





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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #14 on: March 07, 2008, 09:59:11 AM »
Well I do have a few close friends and mentors who are married.

As the song goes, "ain't nothin' like the REAL thing, baby".
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #15 on: March 07, 2008, 10:01:37 AM »
*in best Braxton voice....one finger in the air*

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #16 on: March 07, 2008, 10:13:13 AM »
So I want to know especially from those of you who have been married for more than 10 years...how have you been able to keep you relationship fresh, alive and passionate.

The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.

The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.

We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!

Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of  "What have he/she done for me lately?"

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #17 on: March 07, 2008, 10:40:04 AM »
The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.

The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.

We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!

Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of  "What have he/she done for me lately?"

I was almost scurred to see what PinkPanther T had posted.   :D :D :D :D

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #18 on: March 07, 2008, 10:42:08 AM »
Well played!!   :D :D :D :D :D :D

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #19 on: March 07, 2008, 10:44:02 AM »
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh MANNNN!!!!!  NOT THE GOOCH!!!!

 :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D


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