What can we married folks do to keep........................?

[Redy2bUsed]

Wow, is that right?

Everyone....

RUN!!!!!!!!

 

[Redy2bUsed]

Especially considering the fact that he's NOT married.

Not married????

And giving advice in a
"Married folks" thread???

I'm confused.

[Fenix]

Wow, is that right?

I KNEW i should have added a smiley face to show that i am just kidding. My sense of humour tends to border on the cynical at times.

[LaylaMonroe]

I KNEW i should have added a smiley face to show that i am just kidding. My sense of humour tends to border on the cynical at times.

Naw, even with the smiley face I would've said the same thing... lol... you know, since I was among the first to answer the question and all.... 

[sjonathan02]

Not married????

And giving advice in a
"Married folks" thread???

I'm confused.

Obviously, so is the unmarried person trying to dispense marriage advice.

[funkStrat_97]

I think she wants to know what to do AFTER the kids have left for grandma's house.

Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed.  But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things.  It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated.  Men just want to get....you know.  But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life.  Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you. 

[LyricTenor]

Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed.  But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things.  It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated.  Men just want to get....you know.  But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life.  Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you. 

This preacher I heard some years bacc called this "Makin' That Deposit".   

[joshuag]

The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.

The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.

We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!

Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of  "What have he/she done for me lately?"

I was going to say something like that sisT...
Here goes my 10 cents...
When your first get married your all happy go lucky.. for some people they think sex all the time...(just being honest) but as time goes on we have that moment after the honeymoon is over and we look at the other people and think to ourselves i have to wake up with this person for the rest of my life. They STOP doing the things that got you there. In a marriage it is 100 both ways. If both of you spend the time trying to please the other there in will always be passion and romance, fleshness. it is when we stop the problems come. Also if you both are making each other happy the debil cant and dont have room to mess with you. never forget why you fall in love with your wife or husband. There smile when you are down, those special words they say that just brightens your day.

[chevonee]

Well played!!   

Look at MR LT!!!!!!!!

[chevonee]

WOW! The Friday insanity is on and poppin today huh?   
Y'all got me rollin in here.... communion fam?? 

Sorry Vonne... this has been officially JACKED!!!  

Tell me about it 

[Fenix]

Obviously, so is the unmarried person trying to dispense marriage advice.

I am going to ask Under13 to teach me how to post pics. Once i learn, my vengeance will be sure and swift. 

[uriahsmusic]

..Chris Rock had it right....Ya dont need sparks!...the 3 S's  Sex, supper and silence does it for me!.....Take care of the basics and a cruise wont be needed!....dont make me ask for it either!

[Fenix]

  Men just want to get....you know.  But the bottom line is...THE BOTTOM

A man after my own heart.

[chevonee]

Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed.  But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things.  It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated.  Men just want to get....you know.  But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life.  Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you. 

This preacher I heard some years bacc called this "Makin' That Deposit".  

Now this is very good info right here!!!

[chevonee]

The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.

The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.

We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!

Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of  "What have he/she done for me lately?"

This is the wisdom of a diva...thank you so much for your help. This is exactly what I was looking for. My husband and I are still newlyweds (6 years) and I want to keep it that way. So many CHRISTIAN homes are being destroyed over the little things that we sometimes omit for selfish reasons. We are concerned enough to want to do everything that we can to avoid the pitfalls that have been set up to destroy our marriages. 

[LaylaMonroe]

Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed.  But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things.  It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated.  Men just want to get....you know.  But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life.  Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you. 

I just took the opportunity to peruse that site.  Dude, that's some good stuff (even though I totally disagree with some of that stuff they said).  That's a great site, overall.  Thanks for sharing!

[chevonee]

..Chris Rock had it right....Ya dont need sparks!...the 3 S's  Sex, supper and silence does it for me!.....Take care of the basics and a cruise wont be needed!....dont make me ask for it either!

I hope this isn't your recipe for marital sucess...please tell me you're kidding

[bigblackdrummer]

Just be each others best friend no matter what! Im finding that there's no friendships anymore its just married and that's wrong. I honestly hate not having a best friend and just a wife! Friendship is way more important then sex! Fall in love with and marry your best friend!

[chevonee]

Just be each others best friend no matter what! Im finding that there's no friendships anymore its just married and that's wrong. I honestly hate not having a best friend and just a wife! Friendship is way more important then sex! Fall in love with and marry your best friend!

Sounds gr8 BBD!! Thank you for sharing this! God bless!!

[uriahsmusic]

I hope this isn't your recipe for marital sucess...please tell me you're kidding

....I am dead serious!....Unfortunately because most women dont believe what I just said...They wind up with straying hubbies!....If you take care of your men in those ways ...he will take care of you...or at least try!
Most men are like little pets...they dont need much...so while you are confusing your version of his needs with what he really needs....he is out subliminally looking for the basics to be fulfilled.....and all the time wondering why you dont get it!
.....Women need to read the book about men from Mars and women from Venus....(might be the other way around)....Just cuz you think my answer isnt Politically correct....or Sensitive enough for the modern woman doesn't mean it isnt dead on point....

.....Women...you want to keep your man....Treat him like the base animal that he is....get the Basics right...(ask grandma..she had it right!)...and the rest will follow!....Remember men are like little puppy dogs....feed em....rub their belly and dont yell at em....and he will obey!...get any of those wrong...and expect to get bit!