What do you do if.....

[LaylaMonroe]

CPS should be the call you make AFTER you warn your brother that if he doesn't stop, you will call the authorities, and he still doesn't stop.  After you offer to take your nephew out of the home so they can continue their ILLEGAL and HARMFUL activity, and he refuses, CPS is who you should call.

[Iamluv]

Don't bring CPS into this so quickly, CPS is not always the answer. This is a problem that can & should be handled within the family. You obviously don't know the damage that can happen to this family, with one phone call. your sister in-law will lose her job, you brother will go to jail, & if some family member doesn't take in the nephew, he will be awarded to the state & probably in & out of foster homes until he's 18 & he'll be worse coming out than going in. Now the family is for sure torn apart. You seem to care about your nephew alot, go to your brother & let him know how you feel, get other family members & the church involved & PRAY, a little prayer goes a long way. Make sure CPS is you last resort.

Cosign...

I, don't know what the laws are where your brother is,  but in NY at one time the law was that any child placed in foster care, stayed a mandatory 18 months, no matter what the situation or improvement of said situation.  This young man, because of his drug use may not be considered ''desirable'' and thefore end up in a facility as opposed to a foster home and as previously stated will be worse for it. What he needs are care and nurturing by those who know and love him..not by some ''system'' where a lot of people  (who are often overwhelmed with their caseloads) are ''just doing their jobs'', ''by the book'' and don't really have your nephew's best interest at heart.  As previously stated, only after ALL other options have been exhausted, should cps be called.

[under13]

Eventhough the second quote is from a different thread, I thought you were more of a person who kept to yourself, and turned your head as if it wasnt happening


As far as this thread, I would really watch how to handle this situation. I myself would say something... Thats just me.

Two totaly different situations. There was no child involved in the first case. Dont make pull some quotes from you B-Xalted days 

CPS should be the call you make AFTER you warn your brother that if he doesn't stop, you will call the authorities, and he still doesn't stop.  After you offer to take your nephew out of the home so they can continue their ILLEGAL and HARMFUL activity, and he refuses, CPS is who you should call.

Yup. You can also try calling the narcs, but I dont know if that always works, I dont think we cant just go around acusing people of selling drugs, even if its true.

Whatever you do, you gotta do it fast. If they are slinging out of the house, then you dont know what might happen there. What if they get robbed and your nephew is there? You will feel guilty knowing that you coulda, woulda, shoulda done something sooner. So you gotta do something this week. preferebly Monday Morning.

Are you ready and able to take this kid into your home?

And the fact that the mother works for cps, is pretty crazy. You wouldnt beleive the things some of us these people w/ connections get away with.

So before you go talk to the parents, ask God to guide your words and actions

[LaylaMonroe]

Cosign...

I, don't know what the laws are where your brother is,  but in NY at one time the law was that any child placed in foster care, stayed a mandatory 18 months, no matter what the situation or improvement of said situation.  This young man, because of his drug use may not be considered ''desirable'' and thefore end up in a facility as opposed to a foster home and as previously stated will be worse for it. What he needs are care and nurturing by those who know and love him..not by some ''system'' where a lot of people  (who are often overwhelmed with their caseloads) are ''just doing their jobs'', ''by the book'' and don't really have your nephew's best interest at heart.  As previously stated, only after ALL other options have been exhausted, should cps be called.

But, even in NY (and this is probably the case in most states), they will attempt to place the child with a family member before putting the child in foster care.

For whatever it's worth, GA doesn't have that 18 month rule.

There's no denying that this is a very difficult situation, and Rochelle has a really tough decision to make.  But, to me, it all comes down to what is best for this child?  Is he safer at home with his criminal parents or with another family member or (worst case scenario) in foster care?

As I recall, Rochelle's parents are very helpful with her own children, so I'd like to think they'd also be willing to help with their other grandchild, if it became necessary.  Rochelle might be willing to keep him herself.

I guess it's just hard to answer this without knowing whether he will go to foster care as a result of the call to CPS or to a family member.

[Iamluv]

But, even in NY (and this is probably the case in most states), they will attempt to place the child with a family member before putting the child in foster care.

For whatever it's worth, GA doesn't have that 18 month rule.

There's no denying that this is a very difficult situation, and Rochelle has a really tough decision to make.  But, to me, it all comes down to what is best for this child?  Is he safer at home with his criminal parents or with another family member or (worst case scenario) in foster care?

As I recall, Rochelle's parents are very helpful with her own children, so I'd like to think they'd also be willing to help with their other grandchild, if it became necessary.  Rochelle might be willing to keep him herself.

I guess it's just hard to answer this without knowing whether he will go to foster care as a result of the call to CPS or to a family member.

I, agree wholeheartedly and sincerely with what you're saying.  I'm praying that that someone in the family will be able to give him the love, support and home that he needs even if only temporarily, until all other matters are worked out.  My point is that because of his age, there's a possibility that he would be placed in a ''facility'' as opposed to a foster home and I, feel that, that would do more harm than good.  In any event, I am praying and touching in agreement with all prayers that God move Mightily in this family's circumstances, in Jesus' Name.