Questions for Men (or anyone with a good answer) Why???

[sjonathan02]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww, that's beautiful. Your wife is blessed to have you. There you go again with the perfectly composed post. I think you hit on a good point which is ... the looks may be what first attracts a man but after that there's got to be much more depth to keep the interest alive. So, once he's fallen in love with you for your beauty AND your substance then when you're not looking so great he still thinks you're beautiful because he's sees beyond the surface.
Ahhhh, what a lovely thing to ponder.

You know, I'd swear that you said that was a problem when cats would approach you after coming from the gym or what have you? 

Anyway.....

[littlelamb]

5.  I had man with a cane track me down and hand me his phone number.  He looked like he was  70 yrs old.  Besides that, older men approach me, both white and black, and seem alot more confident then the young guys.  "Duds" seem  to have more confidence to approach you as well.  I mean those thuggish ruggish guys with the gold toofus.  I always want to say, why me.  Anyway, I agree w/whoever said there is a shortage of black men.  I believe the ratio of black men to women is lower than indicated.  There  are alot of jailed and or gay black men (sad, I know).   

Littlelamb, I can relate to you as far as being a late bloomer.  It does help to keep you chaste and virtuous!  The guys were few and far between, now they are banging down the doors.  You really do meet a lot more duds in this process.  I don't think I have met a good guy that was single yet.  There always turns out to be something terribly wrong! 

For real, there is a shortage of godly men that have it together but I don't think they are non-existent. I will say that I do have hope. If I didn't I would have gave it up a long time ago. All you need is one. I have to remind myself of that daily. Just ONE. There is one. I'm sure there's more than one but you want that special one just for you and he's out there somewhere. He may not be hip to you yet but he's coming. HOLD OUT ... Help is on the way.

[Steely]

You know, I'd swear that you said that was a problem when cats would approach you after coming from the gym or what have you? 

Anyway.....

Indeed...

[LaylaMonroe]

This thread is just severely flawed....   

[sjonathan02]

This thread is just severely flawed....   

PPWWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

[BigFoot_BigThumb]

We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:

1.   How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?

2.   Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?

3.   Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).

4.   How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?

5.   Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.

6.   How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.

To answer #'s 1-3, I just personally dig a woman with natural beauty.  I cannot stand a woman that is overdone.  I do not like weave, too much makeup, fake contacts, way too tight clothing with an attitude, etc.  Aint nothing like a hot, sweaty woman.  You can't get anymore natural than that. 

#4.  Only you can answer that.  Maybe you secretly like that type of guy that comes at you.  Go on and get you a Romey-Rome.

#5.  That just what you call an old PLAYA!!!!!!!!!  The second part of it is why do young girls hook up with older men?  Mainly it's about money.


#6.  The great one are married already because they ARE great.  While you're geting your hair, makeup and nails done all of the time, those women are out there snatching the good ones up.  You snooze, you lose baby!!!!!!!! 

[LaylaMonroe]

#6.  The great one are married already because they ARE great.  While you're geting your hair, makeup and nails done all of the time, those women are out there snatching the good ones up.  You snooze, you lose baby!!!!!!!! 

May I have a "PWAAAHAHAHAHAHA" on Aisle 9, please?   

Hilarious, BFBT!!!!

PPWWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

Wow, I had no idea that was PWAHAHA worthy....

[sjonathan02]

To answer #'s 1-3, I just personally dig a woman with natural beauty.  I cannot stand a woman that is overdone.  I do not like weave, too much makeup, fake contacts, way too tight clothing with an attitude, etc.  Aint nothing like a hot, sweaty woman.  You can't get anymore natural than that. 

#4.  Only you can answer that.  Maybe you secretly like that type of guy that comes at you.  Go on and get you a Romey-Rome.

#5.  That just what you call an old PLAYA!!!!!!!!!  The second part of it is why do young girls hook up with older men?  Mainly it's about money.


#6.  The great one are married already because they ARE great.  While you're geting your hair, makeup and nails done all of the time, those women are out there snatching the good ones up.  You snooze, you lose baby!!!!!!!! 

Just about the best thing you've ever posted on LGM. Real Talk.

[littlelamb]

All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...

[under13]

All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...

Thats LGM for you. I guess we just wana have fun.

[LaylaMonroe]

All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...

Ehhh, it's nothing personal, sis.  We are notorious for hijacking threads, or making jokes where the OP didn't intend anything to be funny.  All in all, you got a lot of good answers to your questions, many of which substantiated your experiences.  This site (and this world) is full of people with different experiences, different ideas, opinions, thoughts, etc.  You can expect, now and forever, that you will get a variety of different responses here, some of which will help you, some of which will make you laugh or cry, and some of which you can just ignore.  

In this thread, there's just a lot of stuff that is contradictory, off-base, or just plain wrong, and once you get to know the LGMers, you'll see that there isn't much that gets by without notice...  

[HandsBlessedbyGod]

We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:

1.   How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?

2.   Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?

3.   Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).

4.   How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?

5.   Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.

6.   How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.

I really need to be working on my sermon, lol, but this question really caught my attention.  So I figured that I would give my $.02 to the matter. Here it is:

1. I'm really not sure what men you've been coming across, but personally, I'm more attracted to a woman who has put forth an effort to look nice.  Don't get me wrong, I want to be able to see all sides of a woman.....dressy, comfortable, relaxed, casual, whatever.  I enjoy a woman who dresses up, but I ask that she does not do it all the time.  Because there is another side that is hidden that I want to see. But first impressions to me are without a doubt important.  And a sweaty woman just doesn't make a good impression on me the first time out.

1b. A lot of men are intimidated by a beautiful woman for whatever reason.  How do I know?  Because I use to be one of them.  But if I seen you after you had made the effort to do yourself up, then I would without hesitation talk to you.  Not saying I wouldn't talk to you otherwise, but you get the picture...

1c. Simply, yes, I'm interested in those things....

4. Oddly, I have this problem with women.  It's the most unattractive (physically, spiritually, and mentally) women who want to be with me.  And they are so straight forward about wanting me and will even say that God sent them to me.  Ummmm......no!!  But because I have this problem, I'm just as baffled as you are.

5. I want to talk to women who I find an attraction with, no matter the age (in a sense).  However, I'm naturally attracted to older women, because of their maturity.  I don't really go for the idea of talking to women who are 19, 20, 21. (I'm 25).   But women in their thirties hold my attention longer than anybody else, it seems.  That's not to say that if God wants it to be, that I wouldn't be with a younger women.  But to answer your question, older men just like young meat, lol.  It's kinda sick in a way when a man in his 50's tries to holla at a woman in her 20's.  But on the flip side, there are some women who like that.

6. I ask this question myself when dealing with women.   And I'm actually looking! Lol. All the good ones are either married, live too far away, or just don't want to be with anyone because of past hurts.  So who does that leave?  Just the stalkers, those with bad attitudes, those who don't even think about Christ, those who live their lives in clubs and get drunk (which I am not attracted to at all) and so forth.  The good, SINGLE women (with no kids, lol)  , hide so darn well!! 

Be blessed in the Lord! 

[3rd-Day]

I wish I would have gotten here earlier.

For the record.........that whole sweaty not funky but just coming from an evening 3 mile run with the ipod on the sleeve and the nike jump suit with the fresh nike shocks on look..hair pulled nice and neat in a bun or a nice natural..........teeth all white and shiny..........still cute even with no make up...........still got a couple of leftover white chunks of powder fresh deodorant under the armpits .......not on all women but some women........Its kind of uuummmm....................... well......


Why yall lookin at me like that!!!!

[LaylaMonroe]

I wish I would have gotten here earlier.

For the record.........that whole sweaty not funky but just coming from an evening 3 mile run with the ipod on the sleeve and the nike jump suit with the fresh nike shocks on look..hair pulled nice and neat in a bun or a nice natural..........teeth all white and shiny..........still cute even with no make up...........still got a couple of leftover white chunks of powder fresh deodorant under the armpits .......not on all women but some women........Its kind of uuummmm....................... well......


Why yall lookin at me like that!!!!

*SMH, hitting the light switch on the way out the door*  LOL 

[BigFoot_BigThumb]

All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...

Who's joking?  I'm telling the truth.

[Mysteryman]

still got a couple of leftover white chunks of powder fresh deodorant under the armpits

Too much deodorant. Talk about breaking out.