Just chiming, in on how it could be. I had an issue with sending messages to yahoo accounts from my gospelbasslines.com domain... Yahoo automatically disregarded it as SPAM. People were contacting me through my site, but when I responded it was deleted by the server. Not saying it happened in this situation, but saying stranger things have happened.
I recieve over 100 emails a day, and I am not even big time... Far From it... So I can only imagine what named folks inboxes look like.
My point is perception may not always be reality. I have personally been accused of being a certain way, and when someone approached me about an issue, and we discusssed it, they saw a totally different perspective. I know there are ego's out there, I am not blind to that fact, but I believe there is atleast a few folks in NY, who will be willing to help with you cause, I would begin to pray that God put those folks in your path.