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Should homosexual be able to play or sing in the churches

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« Reply #40 on: December 10, 2004, 03:32:36 PM »
First of all 1st LADY....just becasue I do NOT AGREE with how certain men and women choose to interpret the WORD OF GOD....does not mean that I COMPROMISE the word of GOD...AT ALL!

Secondly......you say...

If I see someone lost in a world of sin and I don't say or do anything to try to help them get on the right path then I have blood on my hands. Now if I confess to be saved yet I am doing what I see the unsaved person do I have no right to say anything to them. If I have confessed my sins and repented wholeheartedly and I now live a life of holiness, who says that I can't call sin what it is. We always talk about helping people in love. Where is the love? Love is not allowing someone allow spirits of sin (whatever sin it may be) to hinder those that are really seeking God!

My question to you.....DOES THIS REALLY HAPPEN IN OUR CHURCHES? do we REALLY approach them in LOVE and try to help them get on the right path as you say?  I am sorry but I just don't see that happening.  where is the love when I see posters refer to their brother or sister as a PUNK and SISSY.  That's immature name calling if you ask me.  And if some of the repsonses reflected here in this posting reflects what you may find in the house of God, no wonder you have me and women living such destrcutive lives in secret.  Contrary to how we are instructed t live, church can be some cruel people....and no matter what you do to change and get right....they will never let you out live your past.

It's easy to say to someone things like ...DO NOT!...and STOP!..especially if it's not your struggle.  But  what help do we offer as a body of believer's as a way out of their circumstances?  Even the good reverend FBU says that deliverance is a proces and that it takes time.  where is the support in the process?  So you sit someone down.....then WHAT? And do we truly rejoice in their delievrance and invite them back into the fold?  I say this happens for some transgressions than it does for others.


And can I just throw this thought out there as well to add to the comments I have already made?  For those of you who are so passionate about removing the homosexual musicians and choir members from your churches...are you just as thorough in examining who's songs you sing in your churches?  Do you do background clearance checks on the songwriters of many of the songs your choir sings or of the gospel singers you play in your CDs?  Are you just as thorough and discerning about what is sung and what you listen to? Someone mad emention of Donnie McClurkin's testimony? You think he the only one?

I can tell based on the responses that I have received thus far...that people still are not READY.  Still missing the forest for the tree. :(  :( My purpose was not to change anyone's views, but to at least open some minds...and some hearts to the matter.

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« Reply #41 on: December 10, 2004, 05:28:02 PM »
PROSTR8, You commented...

“Let's be REAL!!! In how many of churches....if someone were to publicly express that they have committed adultery...if they have admitted to using cocaine...they would be embraced...people would receive them with open arms and do what they can to help them on the way to repentance. Things would go on as normal.....they would be hugged and sense the support and love of their fellow members. As long as they come, they would feel support. But would that same sense of love and support be extended to a person who openly admitted to being a homosexual? Would people REALLY believe them if they said that they had been delivered from homosexuality? More than likely...the answer is NO. They would forever be stigmatized and criticized...often to the point of feeling the need to leave the church. That's not what God desires for His people, and that's what God expects fro his church.”

I agree that we have a problem in some churches with demonstrating a loving and forgiving attitude toward certain individuals.  Most people would think nothing of a person keeping an extra $50.00 bill they were mistakenly given by a cashier or bank teller.  We don’t usually preach against making $15,000.00 under the table and not paying taxes on it, even though Jesus told us to render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s.  (Most musicians who play for small churches are paid under the table.)   Some Christians leave Church after Sunday service and rush to the local ALL YOU CAN EAT restaurant and wolf down 7 plates of food and have 5 refills of soda.  This is clearly gluttony, which the Bible says leads to poverty (Proverbs 23:21).  It is also true that while we condemn nicotine, alcohol, and drug addictions, many Church members are addicted to caffeine, prescription medicines, chocolate, sodas, television and even pornography.  

I try to inform people of how all sin robs us as believers.  Sin in any form is deadly.  

Hebrews 3:13
13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

James 1:15
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.          
 
As Christians, we are to warn the Church of the affects of sin, and empower them to walk free from it.  Christianity is a message of hope for all people, not a word of condemnation.

Romans 8:1
1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

Most people in the Church can quote John 3:16, but don’t know what the next verse says.

John 3:17
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.

As the Church, our job is not to be ministers of condemnation, but of reconciliation.

II Corinthians 5:18
18 And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;

I do understand your position.  I preach the love and compassion of God, but I also know that God is a holy God and requires holiness and obedience from His people.  

I Peter 1:14-16
14 As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance:
15 But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;
16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.

I John 2:3-5
3 And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments.
4 He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
5 But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.

I want to address a few of your statements and clarify/defend my position.

You said ...

“However...as much as you say it's no DIFFERENT than saying that God hates lying, the degree to which you spend time expressing that belief is quite the contrary. It's just not fair.”

The reason I spend so much time on the subject of homosexuality is because that is the subject at hand.  If the post were on the subject of lying, I would have commented on the following verses in great detail:

Psalms 31:18, Psalms 52:3-4, Psalms 58:3, Proverbs 12:22, Proverbs 19:22, Proverbs 26:28, Ephesians 4:25, I Timothy 1:9-10, I John 2:4, 22, I John 4:20, Revelation 21:8.

The subject of this post was relating to the problem in the Church with homosexuality and the involvement of homosexuals in the music ministry.  We can not discuss every problem that exists in the Church at the same time.  The overall objective of this post was to get an idea of how those viewing this site felt about the issue of homosexuality in the Church (What’s wrong with the Church?).  I don’t feel that it is wrong for us to discuss our convictions on the subject, nor is it wrong to condemn homosexuality, especially since the Bible condemns it.  “...Yea, let God be true, but every man a liar...” (Romans 3:4)

Also, you stated...

“There is a MARKED difference between identifying something as a SIN and expressing your own PERSONAL DISLIKE for someone's behavior or lifestyle.”

Although I agree that there is a difference between identifying something as a SIN and expressing your own personal dislike or disgust for someone's behavior or lifestyle, my question is, “Is it wrong to dislike sin?”

The Bible tells us what our attitude should be towards evil things:

Romans 12:9
9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

The Word Abhor comes from the Greek Word apostugéō which means to hate, abhor or detest with horror.

We are told that our love must be sincere and without hypocrisy, but we are also to hate that which is evil.  This abhorrence is not limited to homosexuality; but homosexuality definitely qualifies as an “evil thing.”  According to James 1:15, sin will ultimately destroy those who allow it to be birthed in them.  Personally, I hate sin and what it does to people.  That’s why I preach against it in every form, not just homosexuality.  

You also made a very bold statement when you said...

“More often than not...whether you truly admit it or not....as far as the people you have "identified" as being homosexual...you hate them just as much as you hate the sin they practice and you wrongly hide behind the BIBLE to support your distaste for them.....and I am CALLING IT OUT!”
 
You are assuming that I hate the people I’ve identified as being homosexuals.  To use your own words, “...are you merely basing your judgment on innuendo and rumor?”  I think it is unfair of you to accuse me of hate, especially since I have not used the word hate nor any related terms in reference to homosexuals.  I hate homosexuality just as God hates it, yet I have just as much compassion for homosexuals as I have for alcoholics, drug addicts, and liars.  What you are “calling out” seems to reflect something you have personally experienced in the Church.  It seems to me like you have been wounded in the Church by the judgmental attitudes of some person(s) in the Church.  I’m not saying that I think you are a homosexual, but it seems awkward for you to make statements filled with assumption and innuendo after accusing me of doing the same.  

I won’t pretend like there aren’t people in the Church who have a problem showing love to certain kinds of people, but that doesn’t make them wrong for taking a stand against sin (homosexuality).  

I’m not hiding behind the Bible to support my distaste for homosexuality, I’m simply “earnestly contending for the faith that was once delivered to the saints.”        
 
You also made an interesting statement...

“...you are quick to play GOD when administering judgment against one group of sinners while not exposing and expressing the same amount of disdain for those who engage in other types of sin.”

The Bible tells us how to deal with unrepentant sin in the Church.  His instructions include more than love and forgiveness:

II Timothy 3:1-5
1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: FROM SUCH TURN AWAY.

The Bible is telling us to turn away from them.  How much clearer can God be?

I Corinthians 5:1-2, 5, 9, 11-13
1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
2 And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you.
5 To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.
9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
12 For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
13 But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.

Paul told us to do several things to this person practicing unrepentant sin:

•   Deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh
•   Do not keep company with fornicators
•   Put away from among yourselves that wicked person
 
Verses 12 and 13 are not very clear in the King James Version, but the NIV clears it up beautifully.

I Corinthians 5:12-13 NIV
12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the Church?  Are you not to judge those inside?
13 God will judge those outside. Expel the wicked man from among you.

These instructions apply to all sin, including homosexuality.  Of course, this must be balanced with Matthew 7:1-5, 18:15-17; Galatians 6:1-3; James 5:19; I John 1:8-10.

The Church has the right to make a judgment (decision) when it comes to a person practicing sin unrepentantly.  If it is known that someone is involved in a sin that brings reproach on the Church, the Church has the right to expel them in obedience to the Word of God.  

Judgment is committed to the saints.  I also agree with 1stLady that when we judge, we are to JUDGE RIGHTEOUSLY.  

I Corinthians 6:1-2
1 Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints?
2 Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters?

I also want to respond to the charge of being irresponsible.  You commented...

“...when you put information like that out there...in the position of leadership you are in...you only feed the flame of hatred in the ear of some uninformed person.... The examples you give give a DISTORTED view to more likely than not MISINFORMED SAINTS who will not see the whole context, yet will run rampant with it. That, my friend, is irresponsible.”

I’m not giving a distorted view of anything.  This is reality.  There are closet homosexuals dating heterosexual women in the Church who transmit diseases (some deadly).  There are homosexuals in the Church that molest little boys (and girls).  There are closet homosexuals in the hierarchy of many Christian denominations.  All of these are facts.  Look at the Catholic Church and its problem with homosexual priests who molest children.

You stated, “You are right......not all homosexuals are pedophiles and child molesters. In fact, ask any child protection agency and they will say the vast majority are heterosexual.”  

At this point, I would like to give a few quotes from the Family Research Council article titled, “Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse.” Issue No.: 247 by Timothy J. Dailey, Ph. D.

However, despite efforts by homosexual activists to distance the gay lifestyle from pedophilia, there remains a disturbing connection between the two. This is because, by definition, male homosexuals are sexually attracted to other males. While many homosexuals may not seek young sexual partners, the evidence indicates that disproportionate numbers of gay men seek adolescent males or boys as sexual partners. In this paper we will consider the following evidence linking homosexuality to pedophilia:

•  Pedophiles are invariably males: Almost all sex crimes against children are committed by men.

•  Significant numbers of victims are males: Up to one-third of all sex crimes against children are committed against boys (as opposed to girls).

•  The 10 percent fallacy: Studies indicate that, contrary to the inaccurate but widely accepted claims of sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, homosexuals comprise between 1 to 3 percent of the population.

•  Homosexuals are over represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children.

•  Some homosexual activists defend the historic connection between homosexuality and pedophilia: Such activists consider the defense of "boy-lovers" to be a legitimate gay rights issue.

•  Pedophile themes abound in homosexual literary culture: Gay fiction as well as serious academic treatises promote "intergenerational intimacy."

“The evidence indicates that homosexual men molest boys at rates grossly disproportionate to the rates at which heterosexual men molest girls. To demonstrate this it is necessary to connect several statistics related to the problem of child sex abuse: 1) men are almost always the perpetrator; 2) up to one-third or more of child sex abuse cases are committed against boys; 3) less than three percent of the population are homosexuals. Thus, a tiny percentage of the population (homosexual men), commit one-third or more of the cases of child sexual molestation.”

“The actual percentage of child sexual abuse victims who are boys very likely exceeds the above estimates. Many researchers echo the view of the Journal of Child Psychiatry study, which refers to the "under-reporting of the incidence and prevalence of sexual abuse in boys."

“Homosexuals Comprise Less than 3 Percent of the Population.”
 To read the entire article, go to http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS02E3
I’m not trying to get people to hate homosexuals; but I’m not willing to change the reality of this issue either.  No homosexuals should be allowed to corrupt the flow of worship in the Church, nor should they be put in a position to endanger anyone in the Church (male or female/adult or child).  

The only reason I’m placing great emphasis on homosexuality if because, once again, this is the subject at hand.  We’re not discussing preachers who prey on teenage girls in the Church.  If that were the discussion, I would talk about one of my family members (female) that was raped by a male preacher in his 40’s when she was 16 years old.  However, since the subject is homosexuality, this is where I spending my time.  

I know that there are other issues in the Church.  But I’m not willing to minimize what the Bible says about homosexuality, nor am I willing to compromise with the devil on this issue.  It was wrong yesterday and it’s wrong today.  I can’t lower God’s standard of holiness.  

One of the problems I’m having with our discussion is that you have not once actually said that you are against homosexuality.  You have not even agreed that it is a problem in the Church.  While I agree with much of what you say, it seems that you almost justify homosexuality and condemn those of us who oppose it.  It would be easier for me to receive what you are saying if you made it clear that you are against homosexuality and in agreement with what the Bible says on the subject.  Maybe you would like to discuss whether or not homosexuality is a sin?  

I’m having a hard time figuring out why you are so sympathetic towards homosexuals.  You seem to be very defensive of them.  In one of your previous replies, you made reference to that fact that you are not afraid to publicly share your viewpoint.  Why would you need to be afraid to say that the Church needs to examine itself?  This is an open forum?  

Brother, I’m not writing any of this to attack you or to accuse you of anything.  I just enjoy engaging in intelligent dialogue and defending the clear teaching of Scripture.  I want to stress the fact that I’m not here to condemn; I’m just not willing to compromise.

Revelation 21:8
8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the ABOMINABLE, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone:  

Holy, holy, holy, is the LORD of hosts,

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« Reply #42 on: December 10, 2004, 06:13:13 PM »
To add on a bit, it is Scripturally wrong to say that homosexuality is no different than any other sin.

First of all, sexual sins themselves are in a different catagory than other types of sins. The Bible tells us in the Book of Corinthians that all other sins are done without the body, but a sexual sin (fornication) is a sin against the body.

Any minister who has done any counseling at all knows that when a person is struggling with a sexual sin, it is an entirley different ballgame than a person who is trying to overcome lying, drinking, gambling, etc. So to lump homosexuality and fornication in with other sins is not right from the get go. So let's put that aside if we are going to stick to Bible doctrine.

"Well, then homosexuality is no worse than any other sexual sin, then." Wrong again.

In the Book of Romans, the Bible speaks of homosexuality as that which is against nature.

Again, I don't think anyone is saying that the Church should kick out, alienate, or shun those trapped in such a lifestyle. Many people are untrained to deal with this, and as a result people are hurt. The only way to deal with this or any other sin is to decide that we are going to go by what the Bible says, and not what the modern day world says.

Last question; is anyone under the impression that we wouldn't have a problem with an adulterer or a drug addict or a gambler ministering in church? Who said that this would be allowed? Of course these sins should be dealt with, just like the issue of homosexuality should be dealt with.

Be Blessed . . .   :lol:

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« Reply #43 on: December 10, 2004, 06:57:34 PM »
I would like to respond to something PROSTR8 said in his reply to 1stLady.  PROSTR8 said...

“...where is the love when I see posters refer to their brother or sister as a PUNK and SISSY. That's immature name calling if you ask me.”

The words punk, sissy, faggot, gay blaze, flammin, homo, sodomite, queer, etc. are all words used to describe homosexuals.  While none of them are politically correct, these words are synonymous with homosexuality.  Referring to a homosexual (in general) as a sodomite, queer or sissy doesn’t mean that we can’t show the love of God.  Why should we have to come up with some cute name to refer to what God calls abominable (i.e. disgusting).  Just like a whore (hoe) is a whore (hoe), a sissy is a sissy.  That’s what they have chosen to be.  

Furthermore, a practicing homosexual is not my brother or my sister anyway.  There’s no such thing as a saved homosexual or a homosexual Christian.  The body is the temple of God and was not designed for sexual immorality.  We don't have the right to take God's temple and make it into a house of harlotry.          

I Corinthians 6:15-20
15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.
16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

Food for thought – The bible uses strong, offensive language to describe sinful people, even insulting words.  Read the following verses...

Isaiah 56:10-11
10 His watchmen are BLIND: they are all IGNORANT, they are all DUMB DOGS, they cannot bark; sleeping, lying down, loving to slumber.
11 Yea, they are GREEDY DOGS which can never have enough, and they are shepherds that cannot understand: they all look to their own way, every one for his gain, from his quarter.

Matthew 3:7
7 But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism, he said unto them, O generation of VIPERS, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to come?

Matthew 12:34
34 O generation of VIPERS, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.

Matthew 12:38-39
38 Then certain of the scribes and of the Pharisees answered, saying, Master, we would see a sign from thee.
39 But he answered and said unto them, An EVIL and ADULTEROUS generation seeketh after a sign; and there shall no sign be given to it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas:

Matthew 23:33
33 Ye SERPENTS, ye generation of VIPERS, how can ye escape the damnation of hell?

Luke 9:41
41 And Jesus answering said, O FAITHLESS and PERVERSE generation, how long shall I be with you, and suffer you? Bring thy son hither.

Matthew 7:6
6 Give not that which is holy unto the DOGS, neither cast ye your pearls before SWINE, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

Philippians 3:2
2 Beware of DOGS, beware of evil workers, beware of the concision.

II Timothy 3:6
6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive SILLY women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

In the Bible, sinful people are called dogs, dumb dogs, greedy dogs, blind, ignorant, vipers, serpents, swine, evil, faithless, adulterous, perverse and silly.  Can we rightly call Isaiah, John the Baptist, Jesus Christ or Paul immature?  God forbid!!!  

I’m not suggesting that we get into name calling, nor am I condoning it.  I’m just submitting the above verses.  I have used some terms for homosexuality that may be offensive (Sissy, Punk, etc.).  My intention was not to offend.  I also used the words “pimp” and “playboy” to refer to men that have relationships with more than one woman at a time.  But, If I have offended you (PROSTR8), I apologize.  

As a side not, BBoy is right on in everything he has posted.  1stLady, keep preaching the truth.

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« Reply #44 on: December 10, 2004, 07:05:54 PM »
My previous post should have ended with...

As a side note, BBoy is right on in everything he has posted.  1stLady, keep preaching the truth.

God bless

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« Reply #45 on: December 10, 2004, 10:41:34 PM »
ALLOW ME TO RESPOND FBU....

First of all, let me to apologize for I was referring to you specifically but rather the universal YOU.  

Secondly, you did a fine job of finding an article to support your argument for linking homosexuality to pedophilia.  I’m sure I can GOOGLE and find just as many articles to refute it.

Now allow me to explain where I am coming from to prevent any false assumptions as there has already been more than enough of that.  No sir, I am not a homosexual.  I’m not even an instrumental musician….YET.  However, I have experienced some things that have disturbed my spirit, and I have had to do some deep soul searching as to how reconcile my own faith in God when I encounter other’s religiocity.  These incidents caused me to become particularly passionate about this issue.

It has been five years since the passing of one of my best friends from Grad school.  He was already HIV + when I met him.  We completed our doctoral program, graduated, went our separate ways, but remained in touch.   He eventually died from an AIDS related illness.  I had to fly down to TN to help his friends with funeral arrangements because his family all but abandoned him and refused to have anything to do with his funeral saying that “he deserved what he got.”  He was not even allowed to be buried through his home church.  What a way to go.  I’m sure they had scriptures to back up their actions as well.  However, that is something his parents will have to deal with for the rest of their lives.

Most recently, I encountered something that I had never seen occur in a church.  I had heard about this stuff happening, but I thought this was something you’d find in some storefront church down south somewhere. During regular Sunday service a few months back, my then pastor mounts the pulpit as normal to preach the sermon.  Instead of proceeding with the sermon, he gets this look in his eye, and says…..I CANNOT GO ON UNTIL I ARREST THIS DEMONIC SPIRIT IN THE HOUSE TODAY.  PARENTS COVER YOUR CHILDREN.  SOME FOLKS ARE GOING TO GET FREE TODAY.  THIS SPIRIT OF HOMOSEXUALITY IS COMING OUT.  Then he gets out of the pulpit and points to this young man  who only joined church the Sunday prior.  He calls him into the aisle from his pew, tells him to raise his hands, and lays hands on him.  The young man falls to the ground.  Yet when he tries to get back up, the pastor lays his hand on his head again and the man falls down.  This goes on about 5 or six times.  Then the pastor says that if you are dealing with this spirit of homosexuality you better come out of your seat now or I am coming to you.  A woman comes down from the balcony, and he lays hands on her.  He waits, and true to his word, when no one else comes down, he goes and starts laying hands on about five people in the congregation….all men of different ages.  Then, when he gets back in the pulpit, he lays hands on one of his own ministers.  

You could hear a pin drop in that sanctuary that day.  I was in total shock.  He had done a spontaneous laying on of hands before, but he had never specified what he was doing it for before.  I had never felt so cold in God’s house as I did that day.  Needless to say, much turmoil occurred as a result of that Sunday service.  

Of course, that young man who was called out and who had just joined church the Sunday before, never came back.  I saw him over the summer while at the grocery store one day.  I never met him before, but I felt a need to go up to him and speak to him.  All I could say to him was that I was I church that Sunday, and I offered the brother an apology.  I don’t know why.  I didn’t do anything to him, but I didn’t know what else to say.  I asked if he had found another church, and he said that he had not and had no intentions of doing so.  Now I want someone to explain to me how the actions of the pastor and the results are in the will of God.  I saw no love in that AT ALL.  He went on to say that the pastor tried to contact him for two weeks after that, but he never returned his calls.

As for his associate minister that he also laid hands on, he has since left feeling that his ministry had been compromised.  He has a lawsuit pending with the pastor and the church for defamation of character.  One of the other gentlemen that the pastor touched (identified) is a teacher in the community and some of his students were in service.  I can only imagine the grief he got for that.

I have since changed ministries.  This church is in another different city, yet he heard about what went down that Sunday.  I have had several conversations with him about it because I wanted to be fully informed about the next church I joined.  Of course, no church is perfect, but I never want to experience anything like that in my life again.  Abandoning church was never an option for me.  My love for God is too great to let something like that run me away.

That’s where I am coming from.  I am not expecting anyone to understand or sympathize.  What has already been stated by others in this post speaks volumes.  You cannot post up enough scriptures to influence to believe that their actions were Bible based.   I’ll stand by my initial statements that sin is sin and that singling out one group is counter-productive to the overall body of Christ, and in many instances can do more harm than good. The ten commandments are not multiple choice….lol. I stand by my statements that we are falling short when it comes to providing an environment that LOVES the sin out them...particularly when it comes to this issue. It’s not the correction of sin that I have a problem with…it’s how its done that I find problematic.



Good night and God bless you all!

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« Reply #46 on: December 11, 2004, 01:39:48 AM »
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All of this time I have been arguing about the fact that homosexuality is wrong.  I’ve been trying to prove that the Church should take a stand against it.  And while I still hold to everything I previously posted, I think I finally understand where you are coming from.  You are not necessarily opposed to the message, but the methods.  

In light of your last post, I have to agree that there is a serious problem in the Church with the way we have handle the issue of homosexuality.  I’ve had a few people come in our Church and I discerned the spirit of homosexuality.  In every instance, I told them privately that I knew what they were dealing with and I prayed with them for deliverance.  After praying, I told them about the freedom I experienced in Christ and that Christ can free them if they confess their sin TO HIM, renounce it and walk free from it.  I also let them know that the temptations will not stop immediate, but as they resist the devil (temptation), it will become easier in time.  

Our Church is small in number (about 100 people), but we would never allow anyone to attack people in the way you described.  The young man who had just joined the Church no doubt came there because he wanted some help.  Everyone struggling with homosexuality is not trying to hide out in the Church; many want help and desire to be delivered once and for all.  Unfortunately, they know they will never be able to openly ask for help because of people like the Pastor you mentioned, and others who can not separate their hatred for homosexuality from their responsibility to minister to all people without discrimination.  

The point you seem to be trying to drive home is that the Church should not make homosexuals seeking deliverance feel as though they are less than others or that God does not love them the same.  While I believe that all sexual sins should be taken very seriously, our approach needs to be balanced with the love and compassion of God.  Balance is the key.  We should not have a relaxed attitude toward homosexuality or any other sin, but we must seek to (excuse my Greek) love the HADES out of them.  I am still strongly against a practicing homosexual participating in the leadership of the Church, but I would never reject someone seeking help in walking free in Christ.  

I’ve recently be confronted by an unsaved man that left his wife and children for a 16 year old girl.  He also was involved in bestiality (internet, not actual participation).  At first, I had a hard time talking to him.  I was trying to encourage him and minister salvation to him, but I could help but think in my mind, “What kind of man would leave his wife for a teenager and on top of that watch women perform abominable acts with animals for enjoyment?  He must have a reprobate mind.  There’s no help for him.”  It was at that moment that God began to deal with my heart.  He reminded me of several passages of Scripture.  Two verses stuck out in my mind:

Matthew 9:12-13
12 But when Jesus heard that, he said unto them, They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick.
13 But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.
 
God reminded me that the Church is like a hospital.  Hospitals are filled with all kinds of sick people.  Some have illnesses that are easily treated, while other sick patients will need the help of specialists.  Some patients are in and out and recover rather quickly, and yet others have extended stays accompanied with slow recuperation.  A doctor can’t get upset with a patient for being sick; his job is to treat the illness.  As Christians, our job is similar to that of a nurse.  Jesus is the Great Physician, the Balm in Gilead, Jehovah Rahpa, the God of Healing.  We are simply vessels or instruments at His disposal.  Usually the doctor diagnoses the disease and prescribes treatment; but the nurses are responsible for providing the daily care the patient needs in order to make a speedy recovery.  The doctor gives the orders and the nurses carry them out.  The doctor (Jesus) has told us to walk in love and peach the gospel to the lost.  At times nurses have to administer medications intravenously.  This can be painful to the patient, if administered improperly.  The nurse’s (Christian’s) job is to provide an atmosphere of comfort and security in order to facilitate healing.  Jesus will do the healing if we create the atmosphere.            
 
I still adamantly stand on my position against homosexuality and homosexuals working in the Church.  However, I also realize that a skilled doctor or nurse must be prepared to offer the same amount of care to a person with a common cold as they do to a person dying of cancer.  Regardless of whether the disease is communicable or incommunicable, all patients (sinners and struggling Christians) need to be cared for and supported indiscriminately.

We have spent a great deal of time identifying the problems on both sides of this issue.  Perhaps now we can collectively devise a systematic plan to bring about a resolution.  As Christians, we should be solution-focused in our ministerial endeavors.  We must help those that are seeking help, but without compromising the integrity of God’s Word or Christianity itself.  We should preach against sin in any and every form, and yet help those struggling to overcome sin to experience freedom in Christ.  

This may be my last response on this subject, but I want you to know PROSTR8 that I appreciate the time you have taken and the stories you’ve shared.  It’s not always easy to share personal things, yet I feel it was very beneficial.  

God bless you,

Your Brother in Christ,
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