i just hate it when.............................................................

[monalisa]

we where invited to another church for there homecoming........anyway everything was going fine
until they got to a solo by one of there members......i knew the song she was singing,i haved played it
before for one of my choir members,i wasnt stimbling through the song or missing any notes,i no im not the best piano player,but what i do i do it for god...but anyway not even half way through the song i see her
ball her fist up---i didnt know what that meant,until this other musician told me to stop playing--------
ok if anyone ever been in this situation you know that its somewhat imbarising,i stopped playing--
the other musician told me after church,that she does her the same way,thats why she dont like plaing
for her,lord forgive if i was wrong for this i'm sorry.so after church this so called soloist said to me that
she hope she didnt imbarrised me,and so on and so on and i told her that i know who i was working for
and that she needed to take another look at who she was working for

please anyone do you think i was wrong for that,if so please let me no
but let me remind you , that i knew that song up and down,i wasnt loud i was just right,i was even in the right key

thanks you guys for letting me vent sorry

be blessed
monalisa

[under13]

No musician likes to be told to stop playing, especially during service or in front of people. This hasnt really happend to me YET, but I know it probaly will. When it does happen, I wont make a big deal out of it. Us musicians need to have "thick skin", meaning you dont let situations like this bother you. Everyone goes through this, even the top players who you admire. If I were you, I'd be thankful for the fist and the other musician, cuz I've heard of soloist stopping the song, and asking a "real musician" to come play. Now That would be embaresing.

So keep your head up, and dont let little things like this phase you.

BTW. This is in the wrong forum it should not be in chords request 

[clefnote]

No musician likes to be told to stop playing, especially during service or in front of people. This hasnt really happend to me YET, but I know it probaly will. When it does happen, I wont make a big deal out of it. Us musicians need to have "thick skin", meaning you dont let situations like this bother you. Everyone goes through this, even the top players who you admire. If I were you, I'd be thankful for the fist and the other musician, cuz I've heard of soloist stopping the song, and asking a "real musician" to come play. Now That would be embaresing.

So keep your head up, and dont let little things like this phase you.

BTW. This is in the wrong forum it should not be in chords request 

true THat!! one thing we must learn as musicians no matter how well we know a song, fanciest licks, etc;... when a soloist is singing we must follow them cauz there leading the song they go off in left field what i do is chord behind them & break during certain renditions as to not bring embarrassment.So don't get displease when a singer say & do things do your dislike continue to do ya ministry because the anointing is all that matter.so don't take it to heart.We all go through this! trust me I know!!

[kodacolor]

Wait, she was telling you to stop all together?!  At first I thought she was trying to improvise a break in the song!  Oh wow.  I'm the type of person who tends to take things to heart so I probably wouldn't have responded much better.  But I co-sign with under13

[alquarles]

It definitely happened to me a couple of times, especially when I first start playing.  Everyone does have their own style of singing, and I only know my church.  Now I ususally don't play for a guest choir or soloist unless they ask me to play because I feel like I would mess up the choir/soloist ministry in song.

[joshuag]

we where invited to another church for there homecoming........anyway everything was going fine
until they got to a solo by one of there members......i knew the song she was singing,i haved played it
before for one of my choir members,i wasnt stimbling through the song or missing any notes,i no im not the best piano player,but what i do i do it for god...but anyway not even half way through the song i see her
ball her fist up---i didnt know what that meant,until this other musician told me to stop playing--------
ok if anyone ever been in this situation you know that its somewhat imbarising,i stopped playing--
the other musician told me after church,that she does her the same way,thats why she dont like plaing
for her,lord forgive if i was wrong for this i'm sorry.so after church this so called soloist said to me that
she hope she didnt imbarrised me,and so on and so on and i told her that i know who i was working for
and that she needed to take another look at who she was working for

please anyone do you think i was wrong for that,if so please let me no
but let me remind you , that i knew that song up and down,i wasnt loud i was just right,i was even in the right key

thanks you guys for letting me vent sorry

be blessed
monalisa

hey how are you doing i have not heard from you in a while... Glad to see your still working hard... later monalisa

[Quieter]

MonaLisa keep your head up.  I'm in both places.  I solo and play, but I can't always play what I solo. It has happened to me on both sides.  I have learned to watch the soloist and if it appears that the person singing is struggling with my playing and I feel I'm doing everything right, I lower the music and see what happens, if that person is still having a problem, I stop.  On the other side, when singing, a few times, I have had "great" musicians to play but they were killing me.  I would never want to embarrass anyone, so if I can position myself in a way to let the player know, it ain't working, I do, and if they don't get it and I know the song is sounding terrible, I end the song.  Now as far as the fist thing, uncalled for, but we have all kinds.  If that person keeps looking at me, I know immediately something is not working.  Don't worry it happens.  Be blessed!

[spider5]

Hey, MonaLisa

   don't feel bad this has happened to me, and like you I knew the song, but I am glad the soloist didn't want me to play, because she began to sing out of key anyway. I too play for the Lord, but it does hurt when people tell you to stop playing or make a gesture. However, you did state that the musician at the church, told you that the soloist does them the same way, so it sounds like she just wanted the floor, which is fine, give them the floor, but if they are not standing on a solid foundation they will fall. You just continue to  stay close to God and do what you have been doing, and watch God continue to move in your life. 

[cuteplaya803]

I agree 100% with what you did Monalisa...
I think sometimes singers can definitely have attitude when singing, and there are better ways to tell a musician to stop.
I also agree with under13 100% when he says that musicians must have tough skin! I view things like this, if a singer comes into my church without a musician, then they're on their own because i'm not trying to back anyone up who might tell me to stop because of that fact that emotions can get involved (as in your case)...and I wouldn't want to hurt anyone feelings after the service...lol
So, I do think you did the right thing!!

[monalisa]

thank all you guys for all your comments,i couldnt help it,but i was very upset about it,andi do not regret
anything i said to her after service,i think some people just have to be told,maybe it's wasnt my place to tell
her,i thinkmaybe her musician should have told her a long time ago..................and as i been thinking about
maybe it was a set up,because the other musician asked me if i knew it i told her yeah....and she gave me
the notion like come on,remind you this is the same musician that told me,that's why she dont play nothing for her,her own choir  member

but you know what you guys,that's water under the bridge,im gonna keep on working for the lord until the day i die,no one is gonna stop me-=-------just like the song i never would have made it'
im stronger,im wiser,im better much better halllllllllllllejuah

god bless all you guys and girls,thanks again for the words of encouragement,and if anyone every goes
through this,just keep your head up

monalisa

[musiqisme26]

Here's one thing I have learned, if the person isnt from your church or someone you know then i would let them start singing by themselves and let them give me a hint they would like for me to join in........


also one of my musical mentors got me to realize something alot of us piano/keyboard/organ players dont like to hear, but the lead instrument is always the microphone.......