None! I discuss issues and decisions with my husband, who doesn't control me.
People shouldn't become dependent upon the Pastor or anyone they consult. Even in counseling, I don't make decisions for people or tell them what they need to do. My job is to guide them to make a decision based on God's Word. Decisions are personal and should be made by the individual.
People can become dependent to those who give counsel (pastors, teachers, counselors), but a good leader should make sure they don't become a god the people who they desire to help.