Question for the men...women can join in too!

[funkStrat_97]

OK.  Here is what every man expects from a wife:

* Sex
* Laundry/Valet service
* To be left alone during televised sporting events
* A gourmet chef

Failure to deliver any ONE of these items (including cooking) is a potential deal breaker.  She may be fine beyond comprehension, but lets fact it: beauty fades.  So good looks might give you a slight advantage and compensate somewhat for a lack of wife-skills, but they can only take you but so far.

[2KlubKlarity]

No no no...don't get me wrong. I believe men should know how to cook also. I cook well enough being a bachelor and all. However i just think it is very important for a woman to know how to cook well. Cooking is one of the few things that a family can do together that involves INTERACTION with each other.

I take a serious stance in women knowing how to cook, cuz its not just about cooking great food for your family, it teaches your kids that whatever they need is close to home and they don't have to go far to look for it. I believe when children or the husband see a wife cooking, it solidifies in their mind that they don't need to leave home for anything. After all momma's got it covered. All the love they need is right here at home.

At least thats the way i view it. 

That is pretty nice there!



I'm just saying it should be equal.

But really, I can cook, but don't ask me to fry up no chicken or porkchops on a daily basis....I have some tragic flashbacks with hot oil and bare skin!

[sjonathan02]

That is pretty nice there!



I'm just saying it should be equal.

But really, I can cook, but don't ask me to fry up no chicken or porkchops on a daily basis....I have some tragic flashbacks with hot oil and bare skin!

Stop cookin' nekkid. 

[2KlubKlarity]

Stop cookin' nekkid. 

I did! Hence this is why I don't go "comfortable" around the house anymore (4hg's thread). See, it should make sense now! 

[THE WOLFMAN]

ummm...yeah....

[2KlubKlarity]

ummm...yeah....

to what are you ummm...yeah'ing? hope not me

[sjonathan02]

I did! Hence this is why I don't go "comfortable" around the house anymore (4hg's thread). See, it should make sense now! 

*in my best Braxton voice*


Ahhhhhhh............

[THE WOLFMAN]

ok....perhaps i need to put the pitch of my "ummm" in parentheses...



referring to the lack of  relishing the idea of the consequences of preparing bacon without any vestements....

[Fenix]

Stop cookin' nekkid. 

I did! Hence this is why I don't go "comfortable" around the house anymore (4hg's thread). See, it should make sense now! 

You mean to tell me that you intentionally went into your bedroom, took of ALL your clothes, walked OUT of your bedroom, and decided "hmm, i think imma cook me some chicken"?

 

[sistagurl]

I've been a good cook from the beginning (I got it from my momma, lol). My husband didn't expect me to know how to cook. I surprise with the first dinner I cooked for him.  But I don't want to be expected to cook all the time. My husband cooks "sometimes". But that's fine cause I ain't gonna eat his cooking anyway..

All you men who are talking about "how fine is she", yall kill me, lol. Yall are hopeless!!

[MissRiss]

If a person can't cook...take cooking lessons. It's as simple as that. To be good at anything it takes practice. I think both men and women need to know something about cooking. As a woman, I try to know a little about so called men's work too...such as cutting the grass, changing the oil,etc. When you have been single for a while, you learn how to a lot of things.

[nessalynn77]

If a person can't cook...take cooking lessons. It's as simple as that. To be good at anything it takes practice. I think both men and women need to know something about cooking. As a woman, I try to know a little about so called men's work too...such as cutting the grass, changing the oil,etc. When you have been single for a while, you learn how to a lot of things.

My dad made sure we knew all of that stuff, he used to make us do it along with him and my brother.  He'd say, "You might marry a lazy man!"  LOL, silly.

[minor23]

nah it dont matter, luckily i know how to cook for myself.

[BigFoot_BigThumb]

I do believe it is important.  Can't marry a woman who's idea of dinner is bringing home a 10-piece bucket every night with Oreos for dessert.  My son's mother can cook.  GOOD LAWD she can cook!!!!  I can cook too, but she still aint used to my exotic marinades and food choices.  It would be so nice if we could share calamari under the stars.  Then again, since she doesn't like it, that's just more for me.

[B3Wannabe]

I'm with jlewis.

This is one of those unwritten roles, that people know about, but don't want to acknowledge the importance of it.

I may get beat up, but....

Women are expected to cook, clean, and take care of children. The level of which they have to do each of these depend on who they married and the society they live in.

Men are expected to work, lead the family, and provide protection. The level of which we have to do this depends on what type of woman we married and, again, the society we live in.

Sometimes our roles blur, but generally they stay the same. Young couples like to live in equal relationship, but from my experience, it only lasts so long. These days a lot of people don't want to be EXPECTED to do certain things, but I think it's the fear of some form of mistreatment (being taken advantage of, abuse, or neglect). I love my wife, and I know that she does a lot more work around the house than I do (as far as the things I addressed in a woman's role), but I never neglect her. I'm thinking about surprising her with a trip to Thailand. I just need to get someone to watch the gremlins for a couple days. (She doesn't read LGM that much, so I'm not worried about her finding out.)

I do believe it is important.  Can't marry a woman who's idea of dinner is bringing home a 10-piece bucket every night with Oreos for dessert.  My son's mother can cook.  GOOD LAWD she can cook!!!!  I can cook too, but she still aint used to my exotic marinades and food choices.  It would be so nice if we could share calamari under the stars.  Then again, since she doesn't like it, that's just more for me.

I'm like you too. I can cook, but I can't do "normal" food. Anytime I cook, it has to be gourmet-type food. Who wants to eat gourmet food all the time?! I know I don't!

You know, that just gave me a thought: all men want an exceptionally beautiful woman, but if you put one next to her that can "get it done", across multiple levels, she looks like a toy.

[under13]

(She doesn't read LGM that much, so I'm not worried about her finding out.)

She probaly reads your post all the time. I know I would read what my spouse says online

[B3Wannabe]

She probaly reads your post all the time. I know I would read what my spouse says online

Nope. I know her.

Besides, I know if she did, she would respond....especially to this one.

She's taking a class right now on gender roles and sexual behavior. We talked about this stuff already. I, actually, quoted a lot of what she said.

[Mysteryman]

Well, it kinda matters to me, but it isn't a deal breaker because she can always learn to cook from me.

And this is wear most people make the mistake. She can always learn to cook. The problem is when she doesnt want to learn or do anything. It's in character.

[giftedone88]

I'm with jlewis.

This is one of those unwritten roles, that people know about, but don't want to acknowledge the importance of it.

I may get beat up, but....

Women are expected to cook, clean, and take care of children. The level of which they have to do each of these depend on who they married and the society they live in.

Men are expected to work, lead the family, and provide protection. The level of which we have to do this depends on what type of woman we married and, again, the society we live in.

Sometimes our roles blur, but generally they stay the same. Young couples like to live in equal relationship, but from my experience, it only lasts so long. These days a lot of people don't want to be EXPECTED to do certain things, but I think it's the fear of some form of mistreatment (being taken advantage of, abuse, or neglect). I love my wife, and I know that she does a lot more work around the house than I do (as far as the things I addressed in a woman's role), but I never neglect her. I'm thinking about surprising her with a trip to Thailand. I just need to get someone to watch the gremlins for a couple days. (She doesn't read LGM that much, so I'm not worried about her finding out.)


I'm like you too. I can cook, but I can't do "normal" food. Anytime I cook, it has to be gourmet-type food. Who wants to eat gourmet food all the time?! I know I don't!

You know, that just gave me a thought: all men want an exceptionally beautiful woman, but if you put one next to her that can "get it done", across multiple levels, she looks like a toy.

Yeah i thought about that when i read these last couple posts. Maybe it's just a generational thing.

I actually think the general society expects men and women to live by the above rules because that's what most of our parents did.  However, being a part of that younger generation (late eighties-early nineties), I think we do things a lot different than those before us.

[kodacolor]

OK.  Here is what every man expects from a wife:

* Sex
* Laundry/Valet service
* To be left alone during televised sporting events
* A gourmet chef

You want her to park your car?