Question for parents!

[JustBritt]

What if your child's father or mother (mind you, you're not in a relationship with them), was the type of person who would do ANYTHING for their child, loves to spend time with their child and all that other good stuff was accused of molesting your child by that child.

Your child has NEVER made mention of it before until AFTER you've gotten in a serious relationship with someone else. Your child has ALWAYS loved spending time with her father (or mother) and there was never any signs of foul play.

Would you believe your child? Would you go so far as to try to put the father (or mother) in jail without really finding out the truth?

[phbrown]

... I'm assuming you wanted an older parent ... nevertheless I want to answer so feel free to ignore what I say


Yes, I would believe my child ... but I would be skeptical and start seeking an answer. No i wouldn't put them in jail. No proof

For some types of molestations it is possible to have a doctor examine them so I would go that route first assuming it is possible to determine from a physical examination... even though that in itself can be traumatizing.

[JustBritt]

No, your response is fine lol.

I'll type another scenario tomorrow when I get my internet back up. I got booted out and the password is in my parents room. Ugh.

[LaylaMonroe]

Unless my child was a pathological liar or had some other psychiatric or mental health issues, I would believe my child.

My own daughter always struggled with lying. I believe it was (is) a spirit because sometimes it seems she really can't even help it. That girl will lie about anything, everything, something and absolutely nothing. When she started developing, I stopped letting her stay overnight at my SIL's house because my nephew was getting kinda wild and my BIL is unsaved and kinda questionable. My biggest fear was that one day she would accuse someone of something and I wouldn't know whether to believe her. To avoid that, I stopped letting her go there.

But anyway, you have to know the child and react accordingly. If the child isn't a liar or otherwise problematic, I would believe the child and let the police sort it out. Even if she's lying, it's better to err on the side of caution.

[chevonee]

Unless my child was a pathological liar or had some other psychiatric or mental health issues, I would believe my child.

My own daughter always struggled with lying. I believe it was (is) a spirit because sometimes it seems she really can't even help it. That girl will lie about anything, everything, something and absolutely nothing. When she started developing, I stopped letting her stay overnight at my SIL's house because my nephew was getting kinda wild and my BIL is unsaved and kinda questionable. My biggest fear was that one day she would accuse someone of something and I wouldn't know whether to believe her. To avoid that, I stopped letting her go there.

But anyway, you have to know the child and react accordingly. If the child isn't a liar or otherwise problematic, I would believe the child and let the police sort it out. Even if she's lying, it's better to err on the side of caution.

This.

[LaylaMonroe]

I just wanted to clarify in case anyone misunderstood me. Even with a child who lies, I would still contact the police. I would just let them know that my child lies a lot so I don't know what to believe.

[lordluvr]

I would definitely err on the side of caution and fully investigate.  And yes, I'd involve the police.