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fatmama

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Pray for this person, please!!
« on: November 19, 2009, 03:07:51 PM »
My ex-husbands live in girlfriend has a problem with him talking to me concerning matters with our children and it's getting to the point where I'm about to cut off all contact with him and our children. She reads his text messages, e-mails, screens his calls (on the phone she brought him). Not only is he not allowed to contact me, the same rule applies to any female because she thinks he is cheating on her. He's not even allowed to talk to his cousin on the phone. This is ridiculous!!

She is 32 years old; he's 42. I on the other hand, am mature enought to try and avoid the situation because I can seriously do without the drama. I have sole custody of our children and I'm desperately trying to avoid taking him to court to get supervised visitations. I prefer to put the money used for attorney fees in our kids mouths (food) and on their backs (clothing), but if it comes down to it I wll.

I'm kind of sugar coating what I'm telling you since her behaviors are a lot serious than I want to expose. If he tries to acess the situation, she cuts herself with sharp objects ("seriously, I am not lying") she has a underlining psychosis (obsessive trash and food hoarding); he thinks her disorder is not a problem, but I defenitely do. "I'm like if somebody cuts herself to release her anger, she'd probably get mad one day and cut others in her presence."

They attend church evey Sunday and I know their pastor well. Should I confide in my own pastor about whats happening or in theirs?

I've prayed and prayed and it doesn't seem to be getting any better, only worst! :(


 

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Re: Pray for this person, please!!
« Reply #1 on: November 19, 2009, 03:23:05 PM »
Well, judging from your side of the story only, I would call him at a time when you know he's alone and express to him your concerns. (It's best to have everything jotted down in writing so you don't become too emotional to remember key points.  Also, if he interrupts you, you'll be able to stay focused and come back to your point without getting off track).  You should jot down his responses as thoroughly as possible.  Before the conversation is done, tell him that you intend to contact his pastor because you've done everything else in your power to keep the situation peaceful and healthy for you and the children.  Lastly, contact his pastor (using the same points you discussed in your conversation with the ex).

As far as I'm concerned, cutting off contact with the children in situations where they aren't being harmed should be an absolute LAST resort, only done after consultation with your lawyer, your pastor, and the Lord. That's a very serious and drastic measure to take, and can cause more harm than good.
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Re: Pray for this person, please!!
« Reply #2 on: November 19, 2009, 05:10:57 PM »
Praying for sister in Jesus Name!  :)

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Re: Pray for this person, please!!
« Reply #3 on: November 19, 2009, 05:28:03 PM »
will be praying.Maybe file a police report regarding her behavior or with family/children's service if there is any possible contact btw her+kids.Start the paper trail!

Another good source is kid's doc/nurses-they HAVE to report potential harm/abuse.

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Re: Pray for this person, please!!
« Reply #4 on: November 20, 2009, 09:34:34 AM »
I will be praying for you...that you acknowledge God in all your ways so that He can and will direct your path.

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Re: Pray for this person, please!!
« Reply #5 on: November 20, 2009, 08:54:58 PM »
Thank You for your advice and prayers ;) I gotta get back on the keyboards and rehearse some more. It's been a long week and I'm exhausted and my finger tips are starting to get sore, but I don't mind...it's for the Lord. :) Until the next login, Be Blessed!
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