Cohabiting couples adopting kids---what say ye?

[BEATBOXERZ]

Hm, how many "saved-sanctifiya-holy-goat-filled-fied-up-baptised" folk do we know that has NO BUSINESS havin and raisin kids.

Ain't that the truth...

[Jmanley1116]

The point is this, not everyone in on earth are Christians. We live in a pluralist society. This is a issue of legalities. And so what if this is a Christian website. We discuss about plenty of other topics on LGM and especially in the lounge, so whatever with that arguement. The fact is that children out here need good homes. What are you gonna do about it? Do you have the authority to deny and stable couple who have been together for years the right to adopt a child who is in need of a family?

Don't get mad and all hostile with me for asking you the question?

And read the topic about since you forgot what we were talking about...

...not getting mad, Bruh.  Not at all...we are family, and life is too short to be mad.  My opinion was asked and I simply gave it.  If dealing with marriage and kids...I always go to the Bible.  Politics is politics, sports is sports.  Marriage, Family, etc.  That is God's stuff...that is what God created and has a special place in the kingdom.  When I asked that question...it was in jest. 

The question was asked behind Christian principles, I assume, or else it wouldn't have been phrased the way it was.  Should co-habiting adults adopt?  In my opinion, no.  Why?  They are not married.  What would the world say....sure, why not...as long as it is a good environment.  I can't be caught between two opinions on this.  I have to go with how God has the family set up. 

   

[lockslie1]

But are we going to ensure that these unsaved single people who wish to adopt are being chaste?  Yes, there are some unsaved people who believe in no sex before marriage, but they are far outnumbered by those who feel (and do) otherwise.  And since sex between consenting adults is generally legal; why should they be denied the opportunity to adopt?  The goal of adoption is to provide orphaned chilren with a loving, stable, family evnironment, but ther are no guarantees.  People get divorced, people make bad decisions, people change, people cheat on their spouses (even among the people of God).  The only reason that I can think of for mandating that potential adoptive parents be married is for the legalities that may arise in the event of a break up.

I think we are on the same page fam if I am reading this correctly. If you read my first post I never said single people shouldn't adopt. All I said about that the person who wants to adopt should be honest with themselves and think about the child and if they have a problem personally that they know is not good for a child then hopefully they are willing to change or reconsider bringing a child into their situation until it's straightened out.

Now as far as co-habitation....that type of situation gives the child the idea and mindset that this is the way it is supposed to be and you are responsible for that child. Both the saved and unsaved will come before God one day and will have to give account for their works so I'm sure a gay couple or co-habitating couple can do a decent job parenting an adopted child, but God has the final say whether you believe in him or not and whether you are saved or not. God's way is the only way and it's the things are supposed to be even though the majority may not do it.

[BEATBOXERZ]

...not getting mad, Bruh.  Not at all...we are family, and life is too short to be mad.  My opinion was asked and I simply gave it.  If dealing with marriage and kids...I always go to the Bible.  Politics is politics, sports is sports.  Marriage, Family, etc.  That is God's stuff...that is what God created and has a special place in the kingdom.  When I asked that question...it was in jest. 

The question was asked behind Christian principles, I assume, or else it wouldn't have been phrased the way it was.  Should co-habiting adults adopt?  In my opinion, no.  Why?  They are not married.  What would the world say....sure, why not...as long as it is a good environment.  I can't be caught between two opinions on this.  I have to go with how God has the family set up. 

   

Just know I never said I disagreed with your point as a Christian Man... I've been with my woman for 16yrs. 11 of them married and I do believe in traditional marriage and traditional values. I voted yes on prop 8 out here in California. Some folks got a little upset with for that one.
 I have a God daughter from a teenage girl who got pregnant way too young and was out there. We promise to make her child ours if she wasn't able to take care of her. We wouldn't ever not give her back if she wanted her child back if she ever felt she was able to provide for her. That's the agreement we made with her. But that's another topic though.
God is Good and we really don't understand his depth. We are still drinking baby milk as far as his word concerned. No matter how old and wise we may think we are.

[kodacolor]

Where you in my child's class when they taught abstinence.? Did you see the papers she brought home?

Again, they taught her that it was wrong. They went through several reasons why, without pulling out the Bible. I read the papers, and my child talked with me about the talk. I even went to the school and spoke with the teachers, because I was shocked and very pleased with their stand. So I went to personally thank them for taking that stand.

Dude, they taught it in my kids school, so please don't tell me they didn't when you weren't there.

There needs to be more programs like this one because I know when I was in 11th grade (which was too late for a lot of us) they just gave us some information on sex, body parts, condoms, and let us run with it.  There was no "that's good" or "that's bad" because the parents in my area were notorious for calling into the school for stuff like this. If you taught the kids it was wrong then you go calls from parents saying that the teacher was trying to 'force their religion' onto their kid and if they taught, 'wait until you're in college' parents called in and complained about teaching their kids bad habits.  I doubt it if any of those parents actually talked to their kids for themselves, though.

[Fenix]

There needs to be more programs like this one because I know when I was in 11th grade (which was too late for a lot of us) they just gave us some information on sex, body parts, condoms, and let us run with it.  There was no "that's good" or "that's bad" because the parents in my area were notorious for calling into the school for stuff like this. If you taught the kids it was wrong then you go calls from parents saying that the teacher was trying to 'force their religion' onto their kid and if they taught, 'wait until you're in college' parents called in and complained about teaching their kids bad habits.  I doubt it if any of those parents actually talked to their kids for themselves, though.

My school never once gave us "the talk". I think they figured we pretty much knew what it was all about. 

[kodacolor]

My school never once gave us "the talk". I think they figured we pretty much knew what it was all about. 

**very off the subject**

I was flipping through the channel last night and kind "King of the Hill" was on.  My first thought was, "Hey!  Fenix!!!"      (yeah, I know I'm a dork.  Carry on)

[Fenix]

**very off the subject**

I was flipping through the channel last night and kind "King of the Hill" was on.  My first thought was, "Hey!  Fenix!!!"      (yeah, I know I'm a dork.  Carry on)

  You think?

 

Yeah Hank Hill is my homey. Dude is as cool as they come. 

[under13]

You think?

 

Yeah Hank Hill is my homey. Dude is as cool as they come. 

Hank Hill is wierd. The other day they showed the episode when he voted for Bush. That just shows what kinda person he is

[Fenix]

Hank Hill is wierd. The other day they showed the episode when he voted for Bush. That just shows what kinda person he is

Yeah, well, if Hank Hill is weird, the...then your head is weird.

 

[SisterT]

WOW!! Leave and come back, & this bad boy is 3 pages long. Interesting and great dialog.

[churchyreal]

Hmmmm so this thread relates to the one we've got going on now.