Bad relationship

[waveofthinking]

Hey LGM fam, im a brother in need of advice. A relative of mine has been in a unhealthy relationship for the last 2 years.The problem with the relationship is that he is seeing a girl who is very controlling, selfish and a cheater. I've spoken to this relative a number of times but they just don't seem to listen or see this girl for who she really is. A couple days ago i brought this topic up but they just left angry and haven't been taking to me since..What would you do?..im really concerned because i know he deserves better.

[LaylaMonroe]

Stay out of it and pray.  It sounds to me like you've already said too much. You probably should've posted this BEFORE you said something to them. 

To fix things, I would simply tell the relative, "I apologize for offending you and so-and-so. That wasn't my intention, I just really care about you and was concerned, but I should have stayed out of it. I know you care about her, so I'll leave it alone. Just take care of yourself because you have a family who loves and needs you." Maybe he'll forgive you; maybe he won't; maybe it'll take him some time. But as long as you apologize, you've done your part and that's all you can do.

I could say more, but I'll leave it there.

[BassbyGrace]

Prov 18:19 "A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle"

Your positive support will help more than anything.  And what I mean by that is, support him, uplift him, and love him.  In these relationship type situations, its difficult because you are trying to battle a belief.  Imagine how upset you get when someone says God isnt real.  Its because you believe deeply that He is (well....He is lol) and they have just dissrespected that belief.  On a different scale, this is whats happening everytime you say something. 

[waveofthinking]

As hard as it is to watch someone you love get walked all over. Ill just sit back and show what support i can.