You asked for a clear answer, so what I am saying is this. We need to examine the order of things in their importance. This whole topic started because I had read about a girl drummer who was trying to serve God with her gifts/talents/abilities and was running into a lot of problems because she was trying to wear pants when she was playing the drums.
From what I read, she ended up leaving that church. I don't personally know her. I don't know what happened to her. But I can tell you that I don't like what happened to her.
Truth be told, the Lord has freed me from the chains of slavery. I am not the man I once was and I continue to grow into who He created me to be. I was once in chains, but now I'm free. Free to love and to live and to be the father and husband (and everything else) He created me to be. I am finally free.
Now that I have my freedom, there are things that want to come into my life to put chains on me again, things that on the surface don't appear to be wrong. Things that were actually told to me that are supposed to help me. Things that were told to me that are actually thicker and stronger chains then I had before, and these chains are harder to see. These chains have the word RELIGION stamped on them.
Religion is a set of rules that we think we have to follow in order for God to accept us. We have to follow this set of rules to get on God's good side. We have to make sure we follow them TO THE DOT, or we're on a straight and quick slide straight into the pit of hell.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying to I use my freedom to sin (then I really wouldn't be free anymore).
I am saying this, plain and simple, to ALL.
To the adulterer... God loves you. To the drunkard... God loves you. To the drug dealer... God loves you. To the homosexual... God loves you. To the fatherless... God loves you (He's my Dad!). To the religious... God loves you!
Matthew 11:28-30
28“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
To the religious... Enter into His rest. Ask Him what His rest is. He is faithful. He will teach you.
To me His rest is a rest from doing. I don't have to run around trying to get God to accept me anymore because I know that in Christ I am already accepted. Knowing this gives me the freedom I need to become who He created me to be without worrying about crossing the T's and dotting the I's.
If that's how you live, and you can honestly say that you're happy and experiencing 'life more abundantly', then good for you! Go for it.
As for me, I would rather walk in the fruit of the Spirit
Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and selfcontrol. Against such things there is no law.
You see, religion is about everyone else. He's a drunk, he's an adulterer, she's a fornicator, he's a homosexual. Christianity isn't about everyone else. It's about me and Christ.