Anyone that knows me or knows about me will tell you that I practice hard. I have high standards for myself. So high that they are unrealistic. I am never satisfied with the level that I am at. I trash my musical ideas because they are not hot enough. In fact I sometimes hate the way I play because its not the sound that I am striving for. I am my worst critic and that has made it difficult for me to accept compliments because I dont feel like I deserve them. Im not there yet, I need to work harder, I could have been cleaner etc.
I will say that I do understand where the clinician was coming from. I can see accountability, responsibility, initiative, proactive, all of those things. I understand the message he was trying to get across and I dont think that you meant any harm.
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(1) I used to have this outward gung ho mentality, trust me. But, I had to dumb it down because I was starting to push people away. Its still haunts me.
(2) I walked in a church last Thursday night and asked the drummer if he would help me out, because my drummer or bass player was not going to be able to make it. He shook his head nervously and said, "No, um that guy over there is way better than me. Im not on your level man." I put my hand on his shoulder to try to calm him and said to him, "Listen,I think you will do a fine job. All you have to do maintain eye contact with me. The songs are very easy. I wont leave you hangin." Even though he knew the songs, he still didnt feel confident enough to do it so he passed. I have never met the kid before, never seen him im my life. It was my dumb reputation that got to him, before he even met me in person. Mind you, the kid could play his behind off, but he didnt want to help me because of what he heard about me. "They say you dont play around, you aint know joke blah blah." That didnt make me feel good.
I said all that to say this. We can sometimes be careless. We need to be careful how we say what we say, to the who's we say them too. Me and you and can sit around a table talk to eachother because we are both passionate about our craft. You told me that if my hands were hurting from doing the Hannon exercises, then it was because I was doing something wrong. So, you know what I did, I figure out what I was doing wrong and have not had that problem since. Everyone is not going to be receptive to that stern to the point "get your crap together" correction/encouragement.
All I know is that this:
"3rd day is one of the best musicians I have heard."
meant
a lot to me coming from you.

Jeff Davis is one of my Favorite drummers, hands down. I love his sound. Very seasoned, very humble, very down to earth. I wish that I was there to hear what he said and how he said it so that I could have understood the both of you in a greater way.