Ladies, which of the following is the most important aspect of a guy?

[phbrown]

I got this from the men's health magazine website. And decided to change it around for a woman's perspective


A man who can hang out with you and the gals?

A man with a successful career?

A man with a great sense of humor?

A man who can cook?

[nessalynn77]

For the record, I don't want a man that can hang out with the girls, so that one isn't even in the running, lol.  The other three are all good.  I'm going to settle on great sense of humor, for the sake of answering for this thread.  In real life it may in fact be the career or the cook, lol.

[LaylaMonroe]

I think those four options would have to be manipulated a bit to fit the question. But I'll use my imagination a bit for the sake of answering.

I would have to go with #2 - but add to it a man who is responsible and motivated to build and maintain a stable career.

What's not listed:

1. a man who loves God, is as committed to his prayer life as I am to mine, and knows the Word.
2. a man who knows his role and embraces it. I cannot stand a wimpy, henpeckable, jellyback, whiny, unsure, irresponsible, punk man.
3. a man who knows my three "S"es... he makes me feel safe, secure, and stable.

There are a bunch more, but those are the main ones in my mind right now.

[nessalynn77]

I took it as which out of the four is the most important... of those four... LOL

[LaylaMonroe]

Hush Nessa. I knew that but those "four" didn't make sense for a woman. So I answered his question, then added my own. :-p

[MissRiss]

I think those four options would have to be manipulated a bit to fit the question. But I'll use my imagination a bit for the sake of answering.

I would have to go with #2 - but add to it a man who is responsible and motivated to build and maintain a stable career.

What's not listed:

1. a man who loves God, is as committed to his prayer life as I am to mine, and knows the Word.
2. a man who knows his role and embraces it. I cannot stand a wimpy, henpeckable, jellyback, whiny, unsure, irresponsible, punk man.
3. a man who knows my three "S"es... he makes me feel safe, secure, and stable.

There are a bunch more, but those are the main ones in my mind right now.

Thanks LaRue. You are all over it!

A good sense of humor, a stable job, the ability to be flexible and  he definitely has to be NICE!!!

[B3Wannabe]

Thanks LaRue. You are all over it!

A good sense of humor, a stable job, the ability to be flexible and  he definitely has to be NICE!!!

I just noticed that LaRue didn't say anything about looks! Can she be one of those how-did-she-end-up-with-him women?

LOL

[nessalynn77]

I just noticed that LaRue didn't say anything about looks! Can she be one of those how-did-she-end-up-with-him women?

LOL

No, she ain't.  If she even implies that she's ly--- uh, tellin' stories.  LOL!

[LaylaMonroe]

Didn't I tell you to hursh, Nessa?!!! LOL!!

Actually, looks are someone important to me, but without those other things I mentioned, you won't get too far with me.  I can prove that. LOL. I've ended a relationship or two with guys who had the "look" but had ZERO ambition or didn't open the door for me (and couldn't seem to pick up the habit... lol) or just didn't make me feel my 3 S's.

For me, looks are not that important (though they DO matter to an extent). Basically, I just have to feel an attraction, and I HAVE been attracted to guys that don't have "the look." I'm picky when it comes to the inside stuff, but not the outside stuff. I just need him to either (a) have a strong fashion sense or (b) allow me to dress him; be a few inches taller than me; have clean and trimmed fingernails (C'MON GUYS... JAGGED, LONG, OR DIRTY FINGERNAILS ARE JUST GROSS. SERIOUSLY). Grooming is a must for me.  Those are the only "must-haves."

I like big arms and shoulders, only because it makes me feel safe. I don't like skinny guys. I don't like beer bellies. I don't like grown men who think farting and burping are hilarious.

I once went on a date with a guy... when I met him, he was in uniform. Tall, intelligent, seemed to have his life together... well groomed... broad shoulders, all that... I had on a casual (but fly) black jersey sundress with a short-sleeved summer sweater, nice jewelry, hair done up, make-up the whole nine. It was my comfy-but-hot look.  He gets out of the car and he's wearing a polyester shirt with big blocks on it (in earth tones) with letters on each block, and some weird-fabric camel colored shorts (WHO WEARS SHORTS TO DINNER???). I have no idea what it was supposed to mean, but it was the ugliest shirt I had ever seen in my life. Just plain hideous. I really don't know if he was nice or not because I was so distracted by that godawful shirt... LOL. Nah, I'm exaggerating a little. There were other things that irked me, but chances are, if he was well dressed, I would've overlooked the other things. The most distressing part is that he really thought he looked nice. 

[B3Wannabe]

Didn't I tell you to hursh, Nessa?!!! LOL!!

Actually, looks are someone important to me, but without those other things I mentioned, you won't get too far with me.  I can prove that. LOL. I've ended a relationship or two with guys who had the "look" but had ZERO ambition or didn't open the door for me (and couldn't seem to pick up the habit... lol) or just didn't make me feel my 3 S's.

For me, looks are not that important (though they DO matter to an extent). Basically, I just have to feel an attraction, and I HAVE been attracted to guys that don't have "the look." I'm picky when it comes to the inside stuff, but not the outside stuff. I just need him to either (a) have a strong fashion sense or (b) allow me to dress him; be a few inches taller than me; have clean and trimmed fingernails (C'MON GUYS... JAGGED, LONG, OR DIRTY FINGERNAILS ARE JUST GROSS. SERIOUSLY). Grooming is a must for me.  Those are the only "must-haves."

I like big arms and shoulders, only because it makes me feel safe. I don't like skinny guys. I don't like beer bellies. I don't like grown men who think farting and burping are hilarious.

I once went on a date with a guy... when I met him, he was in uniform. Tall, intelligent, seemed to have his life together... well groomed... broad shoulders, all that... I had on a casual (but fly) black jersey sundress with a short-sleeved summer sweater, nice jewelry, hair done up, make-up the whole nine. It was my comfy-but-hot look.  He gets out of the car and he's wearing a polyester shirt with big blocks on it (in earth tones) with letters on each block, and some weird-fabric camel colored shorts (WHO WEARS SHORTS TO DINNER???). I have no idea what it was supposed to mean, but it was the ugliest shirt I had ever seen in my life. Just plain hideous. I really don't know if he was nice or not because I was so distracted by that godawful shirt... LOL. Nah, I'm exaggerating a little. There were other things that irked me, but chances are, if he was well dressed, I would've overlooked the other things. The most distressing part is that he really thought he looked nice. 

LOL

My wife used to laugh at me, because I wore corduroy all the time. I just liked it. I was never hot either, so there.

Another time is was flannel. What?! I was in construction! It came with the job!
cordoroy
Then another time....Never mind....

[LaylaMonroe]

It all comes down to what you value.

I value outward appearance very much. I saw this guy on the train a week or so ago. He looked SOOOOO nice. Whew. I was fanning myself and reminding myself to behave. LOL. Well groomed... trimmed nails, tight haircut, perfect goatee, crisp, white french-cuff shirt with fly cuff links, and a BADDDD Brooks suit. An orange/red/purplish paisley tie to make you wanna slap ya mama.  I mean it was BAD too.

Then I looked down at his shoes. His dusty, hideous, boxy-shaped shoes... and it was a wrap. My hot flashes turned to chills. LOL

C'mon guys. Seriously. Shoes complete the look, dudes. Get it together. Please.

[B3Wannabe]

It all comes down to what you value.

I value outward appearance very much. I saw this guy on the train a week or so ago. He looked SOOOOO nice. Whew. I was fanning myself and reminding myself to behave. LOL. Well groomed... trimmed nails, tight haircut, perfect goatee, crisp, white french-cuff shirt with fly cuff links, and a BADDDD Brooks suit. An orange/red/purplish paisley tie to make you wanna slap ya mama.  I mean it was BAD too.

Then I looked down at his shoes. His dusty, hideous, boxy-shaped shoes... and it was a wrap. My hot flashes turned to chills. LOL

C'mon guys. Seriously. Shoes complete the look, dudes. Get it together. Please.

Bah.

[phbrown]

It all comes down to what you value.

I value outward appearance very much. I saw this guy on the train a week or so ago. He looked SOOOOO nice. Whew. I was fanning myself and reminding myself to behave. LOL. Well groomed... trimmed nails, tight haircut, perfect goatee, crisp, white french-cuff shirt with fly cuff links, and a BADDDD Brooks suit. An orange/red/purplish paisley tie to make you wanna slap ya mama.  I mean it was BAD too.

Then I looked down at his shoes. His dusty, hideous, boxy-shaped shoes... and it was a wrap. My hot flashes turned to chills. LOL

C'mon guys. Seriously. Shoes complete the look, dudes. Get it together. Please.

what color was his suit?

[LaylaMonroe]

what color was his suit?

My favorite: navy blue. I love a man in navy blue. Does my heart good. LOL

[phbrown]

My favorite: navy blue. I love a man in navy blue. Does my heart good. LOL

hmm, I can't do navy blue oh well

[T-Block]

My thing is just because you see a man dressed nice one day doesn't mean he dresses that way all the time.

It all comes down to what you value.

I value outward appearance very much. I saw this guy on the train a week or so ago. He looked SOOOOO nice. Whew. I was fanning myself and reminding myself to behave. LOL. Well groomed... trimmed nails, tight haircut, perfect goatee, crisp, white french-cuff shirt with fly cuff links, and a BADDDD Brooks suit. An orange/red/purplish paisley tie to make you wanna slap ya mama.  I mean it was BAD too.

Then I looked down at his shoes. His dusty, hideous, boxy-shaped shoes... and it was a wrap. My hot flashes turned to chills. LOL

C'mon guys. Seriously. Shoes complete the look, dudes. Get it together. Please.

That's cuz u like shoes, lol.

[JustBritt]

COSIGN on everything Rue said.