LOL You should hear the deacon drummer we have! We were shedding after a concert and he came over and said "let me get some" to the drummer..I was on the keyboard shaking my head (no)! But he somehow persuaded the drummer to get up.. so I went with it for like 10 secs...and he thought he had..but I couldn't take it..I just slowed down..then my husband unplugged his bass and the other keyboardist started breaking down his equipment...well within 5 mins the shed was over! LOL..we all just gradually left!!
What do you do with those drummers that just don't cut it??? LOL
I think you gotta cut them some slack. A friend of mine pastors a church and all of his sons play instruments. They are really good, but the thing that strikes me about them is that they take time out to work with anyone who wants help. There's a young man who's about 20, but he has some mental issues, but he wants to play drums so bad. Everybody kind of blows him off (even me in a nice way, I mean I encourage him, but not much more than that). These young talented musicians meet with him every week to show him stuff and work with him. I was so impressed by that.
And yes, deacon drummers are generally not that good. I think they pursued being a deacon because drumming wasn't going anywhere, LOL!