I agree with everything that has been said. I tend to find myself ministering to people with all kinds of issues, so I always wonder first what's up with the person before I assign the victim role. Sorry, that's just me.
My first reaction with this young lady is that she could possibly be a wearer or a drainer, one of those people that just sap you of all your strength and energy, leaving you empty and worn out. Or maybe she's one of the attention hoards, who does stuff just to get attention. There are a lot of young people out there who create or exaggerate problems just to get attention.
So that's my first line of thinking.
Nonetheless, I agree with Hasmo, Mztee (heyyyy sis!), RJ, and Jonathan: she should try to find a church where she can be active, and this so-called friend shouldn't just drop her like that. I know what it's like to minister to someone who claims they're trying to do right, but you can tell they really don't want to live holy. Just last week I had to call a friend for counsel because I made the decision to drop someone for that same reason. I'm not going to drive myself nuts trying to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I had thought and prayed about it for a while, and then sought counsel, and then made my decision. This person was left in good hands, so I feel fine about it. The young lady who posted that thread above doesn't sound like she was left in good hands at all. But then again, maybe she knows the way and just wants to be coddled. I really don't know. It's hard to say with only one side of the story.
But for some reason, my heart goes out to her. I can feel her pain, and it really hurts. Sad story.
