It's an unfair assessment to say that if she doesn't want to go to THAT church she doesn't have a relationship with the Lord. She doesn't want to go to another church either. In fact toward the end she even said "i just got to thinking maybe it isnt for me". 
Not going to church is only PART of it. When I read her wording and thoughts on the matter I can see what she's saying and what she isn't. I know so many people who speak that way.
She said she was going for other people. She says her mother is "so emotional about religious things" because she tried to get her to go to church and the girl refused.
She never said she reads and never says she prays. She does say she tries to live "closely to the bible". That's the kind of thing that a carnal person would say and another carnal person would think "gee, that sounds about right." 
1st part in bold - to clarify, are you saying that if a person doesn't want to go to church, they don't have a relationship with the Lord? (Just trying to get to your bottom line on that).
2nd part in bold - could also be a person who believes she lives holy, but hesitates to say "I live by the Bible" lest someone should nitpick the statement saying "no one is perfect, no one dots every i, no one keeps every law," etc. I think carnal people tend to stick to the whole "I'm not perfect, but I love God," or the "I may have my faults, but everybody sins so don't judge me" lines.
The second part is not really a biggie for me. I'd really like some clarity on that first one, though.
