Aussie Request and advice

[mark1987]

Hi to you  all,

Once again thanks for the encouragement you gave me in my last post.

I know this is the prayer board, and my request is a combination of prayer and advice.

I don't want to burden you all with a sob story as there are millions out there, but I must provide you with some background.


A few years ago my only son died from a car accident. I moved to Europe to start a new life and remarried. Ever since my son died I wanted to have another child, however my new wife is not interested. This causes some complications in the relationship.


Early this year my younger sister committed suicide, and just recently my older sister who was on treatment for addiction to heroin was badly burnt in a house fire. She is now in intensive care and the doctors are saying that there is no  more they can do for her. She has started talking to relatives that have passed on. So we are guessing the end is near.


So I am requesting prayers for her please.

The advice I need is that she leaves behind two very troubled sons in their twenties. Their father is on heroin and both boys are on crack.However having said this I know that before they went off the track they were talented and smart boys.

I am not a great believer is God however I feel that as I could not help my sister who I was very close to....maybe I should be trying to help these boys.


I know as a fact that my wife will not leave her family in Europe and I love her like crazy.....however I am also not happy living in Europe and I feel that I have a duty to my sister to try and help her boys because I know she loved them so much.

I am in bad need of advice as there is no one here that I can talk to.


Thank you all in advance.

Mark

[phbrown]

sorry i'm not qualified to give advice for a decision such as this but i am praying that God will guide you.

[nessalynn77]

I am praying as well, Mark, and I encourage you to pray and ask God to show you the way for yourself and your own personal relationship with God, and as well as for your family, which includes your nephews, but also your wife. 

You can help in a lot of ways, and sometimes it's not the way you think.  Praying for clarity for you, healing for your sis, and deliverance for all involved.  God bless, and keep us posted.

[lordluvr]

Wow, bro, you have a lot on your plate.  There are a lot of variables at play, so I'll try to be careful with whatever advice I can muster.  Regarding your wife, the bible mentions that when a man takes a wife, he leaves his mother and father and cleaves unto her, and the two become one flesh.  Just has he "leaves and cleaves", so should she.  Part of the importance of this passage is the establishment of the principle that the spouse is the primary priority.  As much as you desire to help your nephews, you must first make sure home is taken care of.  They have a saying here in America "Happy wife=happy life".  On the flip side, your wife should also be in support of your needs and desires.  The key thing is to effectively communicate what's on your heart and come to a consensus regarding what you should do about your nephews.  You guys should also find some common ground on the issue of children as well.  Unfortunately, THAT discussion likely should have been had prior to marriage.  Nonetheless, the two of you are now one and should approach decision-making as a unit.