NRC but I have a friend who is really stressing me out.
I just don't understand why people can be so difficult. I understand that everyone has issues and hang-ups and isms and all that. God knows I have issues a-plenty. But if you're going through something, and you reach out to me for help/shoulder/advice/prayer or whatever, don't give me a hard time and resistance and drama and games and all that. I just really can't take it. Like I can't even express how frustrated I am right now. I might have to actually type out the story just to get it off my chest.
I've had friends like that. I've learned, over time, that certain people have mindsets that get them into these predicaments. Moreover, that same mindset (call it a stronghold, if you will) keeps them from approaching the proper solution to get them out of the situation without a chance of returning to it (or a similar one). The end result is that they'll be on your doorstep (or phone, or e-mail, or text...) again and again.
As a result, I've learned that I can't bring the increase in their lives that they need. All I can do is plant or water. If I do that, I've done my job as a friend and Christian. With that in mind, I can move on in thought and deed, without getting frustrated when they don't listen or they end up doing the same thing again, or end up getting into similar trouble. When that time comes (and it surely will), I just seed or water as it applies without an "I told you so", and pray that God gives the increase.
