I wanna be DONE with music!

[acts2-38]

What do u do when its not fun anymore? It's not enjoyable. It's almost like a burden now.A job. An obligation. Nothin but drama. 

[csedwards2]

What do u do when its not fun anymore? It's not enjoyable. It's almost like a burden now.A job. An obligation. Nothin but drama. 

Ive pretty much enjoyed my time away from weekly music ministry, but everytime I go to church, I just keep thinking of ways to get back in. And I guess it worked, got a youth choir Im playing for now.


Essentially, for a while, if you can, go to church for yourself; not anyone else, and to the church you want

[acts2-38]

I have a problem with trying to stay loyal and support family ministry while everybody is in the way. We got too many people that know NOTHIN about music or singin adding their 2 cents in. I just cant take it no more. I've sacrificed my own playing ability to deal with younger kids developiing into church musicians. I seem to always get overruled or underminded.

[SavnBass]

Then you need to move your musical activity to another realm.

[csedwards2]

gotta step back and make sure you're being fed spiritually. And dont let offense build up.


 And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God. Phil 1:9-11

[phbrown]

ouch family ministries are always more difficult

[musicbishop]

I say find an outside group or choir to play for purely for the fun of playing. no pay, no obligation just play it seems to be more fun that way at least to me it does.

[gtrdave]

I say find an outside group or choir to play for purely for the fun of playing. no pay, no obligation just play it seems to be more fun that way at least to me it does.

Exactly. We can praise God with out talents outside the church and apart from our families. Many times we NEED to do this in order to keep from going crazy. 

[betnich]

I have a problem with trying to stay loyal and support family ministry while everybody is in the way. We got too many people that know NOTHIN about music or singin adding their 2 cents in. I just cant take it no more. I've sacrificed my own playing ability to deal with younger kids developiing into church musicians. I seem to always get overruled or underminded.

I feel for you - was in a similar situation about 2 months ago. We have a small choir, which I direct. Was getting criticism, bad ideas and nitpicking from our leadership at church - things like -

'You can't use the kids' room' (where the TV we use to run our tracks is)
'You should rehearse just one song per rehearsal' (instead of planning ahead by practicing for next time)
'You should rehearse all your songs on one night'
'Don't expect the people to listen to their practice CD's' (the CD's have their PART on them)
'You can't practice/warmup the choir a half-hour before important events like Easter/Xmas Eve service'
'You should let the choir pick the songs' - I choose the songs MONTHS in advance, and try to get them rehearsed at least a few times before singing on Sunday - I am open to them choosing between two songs we know and suggestions on new songs to do, but sorry, last-minute won't work.

And on and on. This and the belittling comments from the pulpit and lack of respect made me VERY depressed and discouraged. I was praying, "Lord, if I am doing the right thing in this ministry why are you letting me go through this?" Was ready to leave the church and give up playing for the Lord altogether.

Finally had a 'come to Jesus' meeting w/them, telling them my frustrations, and they have backed off the criticism...

[berbie]

It would be easier to take the wet from water, or the heat from fire, than to stop me from playing the piano.  You know the song.  I might quit playing in a given situation.  But there is always someone who will appreciate your talents.  Failing that, I would play for myself and in cases where I was invited.  And I really can't play that well.  Don't fail to lay out your frustrations to the parties involved. Then you have options, but quitting doing something you love to do and for which God has given you a talent and ability is not one of them in my mind.  What I am saying in a nutshell is that I might be done with some people, but not with playing the piano.(or with music)

[betnich]

Sometimes family don't appreciate you - like a prophet who is not believed or honored in his home town...

[csedwards2]

Sometimes family don't appreciate you - like a prophet who is not believed or honored in his home town...

amen

[Mysteryman]

I'm sure some of us have been through this many times over. What I found is I should have done more fasting and praying. Also you have to get over people and their condemnation if you are doing righteously.

[smalls85s]

My advice is to stop taking it personally. You might be doing the playing but you're not playing for yourself. Just realize that people in every avenue of public performance have to go through the same criticisms from people who can't even begin to do it themselves. Do you think Troy Aikmen or Brett Farve pout and get upset when an armchair quarterback try's to tell them how to throw a football. If anything, they pity them and their delusions.

Just realize that this isn't your concert.

Also realize that if you didn't take the advice of the outsiders looking in, how would they know it. Just stand up and say "I'm responsible"and do what you need to do.

[betnich]

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[ma1ne]

ouch family ministries are always more difficult

Or when all the musicians are your siblings. I def agree with playing for an outside group. That's what I'm in the process of doing now. I'll never lay down my gift, BUT that doesn't mean I have to play with everybody.