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Main => Gospel Music Lounge => Topic started by: 1cutey4u on December 14, 2006, 03:52:47 PM
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someone you know starts talking down about your church not knowing when they are starting to talk about it that it is the church you attend.
I had a co-worker that we talk just about everyday about different stuff and she knew the church I went to but I guess in the midst of the conversation we were having she forgot that I attend the church she was bad mouthing. So when I said that is my church she kinda cut it short and was like oh um well i'm not going to go into any more details that such & such told me....But the person that told her was not even a member of our church...
I didn't respond I just said well everyone has there own opinion but inside I just wanted to go off on her ....
How would you respond????
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the same way you did, but I would not be thinking about it anymore.
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I would of walked away. Leave her talking by herself. :D
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If there are more positives for you (about your church) than the negatives she mentioned then DON'T be phased be some flapping lips.
That's what gossip is... just a bunch of flapping lips. Don't let it destroy you. Just because they think bad of your church doesn't mean you do.
And just like MikeGee said - don't dwell on it because that's how Satan causes seperation in the troops. You are committed to the church stay focussed & enjoy it.
God Bless.
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I would've flipped the script. She was talking about all the bad stuff. I would've been like....'man that sucks. At my church.....'
And after listing all the positive things, she would've asked 'wow what church do you go to¿' After you named the same church she was badmouthing....you would've saw her mouth drop ;)
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My opinion of this may seem very controversial to a lot of people but this is my opinion. What you should do is dependent on your spiritual maturity. If you took what she said so personal because you are a member that you cannot be objective, then you should ignore her and try your best to avoid conversing with her about your church. But if you have the ability to make a true assessment of the validity of her comments without allowing it to effect you negatively, then you should be able to agree with her that your church, like every other church is imperfect because it is made up of imperfect people. Then take that as an opportunity to tell her of the good things about your church and why you are a member inspite of the imperfections. If you give her the impression that you either don't know that your church is capable of faults or that you don't care, then your credibility and the credibility of your church are both compromised. The best way to disarm your enemy is to quickly agree with them. But let them know that you are keenly aware of the grace and mercy of God and his willingness to readily forgive. You can then start to talk of the great things that God is accomplishing in your church because of the members that ARE on fire and his ability to use even the ones whose fire is not so hot.
Now if the Holy Spirit tells you that this person is full of bologna (or baloney if you prefer) and that there is no validity to what she says, then follow the first advice and ignore and avoid her.
It is understandably easy to be sensitive to criticism of a church family that you are inextricably tied to. But I have seen many people become so sensitive that they allow themselves to become blinded. They then become so resistant to criticism that it becomes almost impossible for God to bring about the changes necessary to cause the growth that He wants. I heard a pastor say recently that he listens to all his critics and then analyzes (through the Holy Spirit) the validity of the criticism. He then either measures up to it or tosses it out into the dung heap.
Peace
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I would've flipped the script. She was talking about all the bad stuff. I would've been like....'man that sucks. At my church.....'
And after listing all the positive things, she would've asked 'wow what church do you go to¿' After you named the same church she was badmouthing....you would've saw her mouth drop ;)
LOL! brilliant!
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I would've flipped the script. She was talking about all the bad stuff. I would've been like....'man that sucks. At my church.....'
And after listing all the positive things, she would've asked 'wow what church do you go to¿' After you named the same church she was badmouthing....you would've saw her mouth drop ;)
I LIKE THAT!!! (HOPE I REMEMBER IT) ;)
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I would've flipped the script. She was talking about all the bad stuff. I would've been like....'man that sucks. At my church.....'
And after listing all the positive things, she would've asked 'wow what church do you go to¿' After you named the same church she was badmouthing....you would've saw her mouth drop ;)
Your new team of comedy writers seem to be working out well for you. :D
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LOL! brilliant!
That's my line.
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Your new team of comedy writers seem to be working out well for you. :D
LOL! :D
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Your new team of comedy writers seem to be working out well for you. :D
You don't know how much this means to me....... :'( :'(
YOU BUM!!!! :D :D :D
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LOL! :D
And what are YOU.........
::Looks at who he's quoting::
::Rubs eyes::
Hey SISTERT!!!! Good to see you on the boards this mighty fine day. ;)