Nice questions...im jus gonna go pop some corn i'll be right back when this is jumping. ;D
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
I'll have to answer these in shifts because I'm in the middle of teaching a class.Cosign
Let me ask this, if question #1 has different parts, why not label them a, b, c, etc.? ::)
So, to #1:
Who determines whether or not you look a mess you or the man trying to talk to you? *quirks eyebrow like The Rock*
Part B: You probably look more natural in your "after the gym" state, then with when you're "done up". MAC ain't necessarily your friend ( I don't care what LaneedsmymakeupRue says ::) :D).
Part C: Everyone, male and female, should make an effort to look presentable. But, when one "overdoes" it, it can be detrimental.
Question #4 (In reality, #2): I have no idea. Perhaps, you're trying too hard with the ones you like. Remember, "HE that findeth a wife, etc."
Question #5 (In reality, #3): You know how women lie about their age, men try to do the same thing by trying to talk to younger women. :-\
Question #6 (In reality, #4): That's not true. It's only your perception thereof. ;)
Who cares how I numbered them. Someone always has to be smart. ;D
Let me ask this, if question #1 has different parts, why not label them a, b, c, etc.? ::)
Who cares how I numbered them. Someone always has to be smart. ;D
I don't go after men. But I do let the ones I like know I like them in my own subtle way.
Let me ask this, if question #1 has different parts, why not label them a, b, c, etc.? ::)
There's something oxymoronic about this statement to me. ?/? :-\
Part B: You probably look more natural in your "after the gym" state, then with when you're "done up". MAC ain't necessarily your friend ( I don't care what LaneedsmymakeupRue says ::) :D).
Dude, you're just all up in my head today... LOL
Well, for the record... as I've explained before, I have the utmost respect for my sisters who have that natural beauty and look just as good (if not better) in sweats and a ponytail as they do with the help of a little MAC. I'm just not one of those sisters... I need the extra help... I can't help that. It just is what it is... :-\ I was taking a nap when the Lord was handing out "natural" beauty, so instead I had to take the "MAC Starter Kit." :-\
MAC is my friend. :P :D :D :D
I was taking a nap when the Lord was handing out "natural" beauty, so instead I had to take the "MAC Starter Kit." :-\This had me rolling. ;D
MAC is my friend. :P :D :D :D
Question #1
Wouldn't that be more of a compliment? If he's interested in you when you're not looking your best, can you imagine the love you're going to receive when you all "did" up??
IMO.. Less is more (and I'm not taking about your wardrobe) Don't get me wrong, I love the Mac Face.. but when the Mac face turns to a Stacked Face or Mac 'n Chesse Face, and one has to chisel to get your face off at nights.....then >:( Houston, we have a problem.
Question #2
Again, not speaking for all men.. but, we'll holla regardless. However, I'm willing to wager that if he did holla.. It would turn into: "Whatever! He's only trying to holla because I'm all did up. I bet if I just came out of the gym, and was all sweaty from jogging 'n stuff, he wouldn't have a thing to say to me?... hmmmm, *SMH* ::) Women?? Damned if you do, Damned if you don't.. but I got made love for y'all. ;)
Question #3
Of course we are.. but when what you think is said over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over....... we, let me change that, I tend to zone out.
And once I start hearing that white noise, it's a RAPP!! I guess that's why women are always repeating themselves, because y'all feel we ain't listening. And we ain't listening, because you all keep repeating yourselves... Huh... what a vicious cycle.
Question#4
Really can't answer that one.. Life is weird. It does appear that way. When you're not looking, you'll find ALOT to look at.. but nothing, when you are... that's LIFE!
Question#5
I have no idea. Someone your grandpa's age has to 'get at you' with the answer for that. ;D Why do young women like older men?... Is it their SSI check? ?/?
Question#6
I'm glad you use the word "SEEMS".. because those great guys weren't always married. ;)
There's something oxymoronic about this statement to me. ?/? :-\
She is juxtaposing the idea that she does NOT go after men with the idea that she subtly goes after certain other men. So, the second part of her statement completely negates the first part. What she should have said in the first part was "I do not go after ALL men." This way it does not contradict with the second part, hence creating a sentence that makes sense.
This is not so much oxy-moronic as contradictory.
You just reminded me of all the reasons I'm moving to NY... :D :D :D
Actually, I don't think that's the case at all. I think she meant what she said when she said that she doesn't go after men. BUT, I don't think she equates letting certain men know that she likes them in subtle ways to going after men.
Hence, the perception of an oxymoronic statement.
One might argue (as my sister may) that harmless flirting, or certain kind gestures, eye contact, special smiles, etc. is not the same as "going after" a man, and I suspect that's where Littlelamb is coming from. Personally, I think it's all the same, there are just degrees...
How is a dude, who's never really met littlelamb, or any women for that matter, supposed to know a woman's "special smile"?Sounds rather passive-aggressive to me. I'm just sayin' ;D
Actually, I don't think that's the case at all. I think she meant what she said when she said that she doesn't go after men. BUT, I don't think she equates letting certain men know that she likes them in subtle ways to going after men.
Hence, the perception of an oxymoronic statement.
One might argue (as my sister may) that harmless flirting, or certain kind gestures, eye contact, special smiles, etc. is not the same as "going after" a man, and I suspect that's where Littlelamb is coming from. Personally, I think it's all the same, there are just degrees...
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
A. How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
B. Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
;) :D ;D
2. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
3. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
4. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
You got it my friend. I don't bat my eyes at every guy that comes along. I only let the ones that I think already like me know that they have a chance with exactly the strategies LaRue said above.
Makeup is to enhance. I think there are rare people that don't need any, some need very little, some need a lot more. I don't think you should wear so much that your husband is afraid the morning after your honeymoon. I didn't start wearing any until 2 years ago and I'm 30 now.
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
Actually, I don't think that's the case at all. I think she meant what she said when she said that she doesn't go after men. BUT, I don't think she equates letting certain men know that she likes them in subtle ways to going after men.
That whole "natural beauty" thing, is that your perception or have dudes said that to you during your life?
How is a dude, who's never really met littlelamb, or any women for that matter, supposed to know a woman's "special smile"?
That only comes after being with them for some time, does it not? :-\
No one has ever said that to me, thank goodness.... LOL. I guess you could all it perception...
Noooooo, no way, bruh.
Most men can tell when a woman is smiling in a "more-than-friendly" way. That "special" smile is usually accompanied with some other body language that screams "I'm flirting, you idiot, ask me for my number!!!!" ::) That body language that accompanies the "special" smile might include some intense eye contact, or a strategically timed biting of the bottom lip, or batting the eyelashes, raising the eyebrow, or giggling, or a twirl of the hair, a mock biting of the fingernail, or one of those other silly flirtatious things we women know how to do.
But, none of that was my point anyway.... lol. In that post, I was saying that she might believe that she's not "going after" a man because all she did (hypothetically) was smile at him, but to me, that's still going after him. It's just in a more strategically subtle way.
Part of my question is answered:
I think that if I get my hair done, I put makeup on, I shave my legs, I shave under my arms, I look presentable then really I'm doing it FOR me because it makes ME feel good. It's a part of my self esteem. Self esteem equates to confidence. If I feel good I will exude that confidence and people who are around me will pick up on it.
But I can't assume that what makes me feel good is what is automatically attractive. But since I feel attractive that is what matters. I'm sure people would notice if I had low self esteem and didn't feel attractive. I know how I am when I've got my glasses on instead of contacts and no makeup on and my hair isn't really done. I'm a little shy and I don't encourage anyone to look at me.
Part of my question is answered:
I think that if I get my hair done, I put makeup on, I shave my legs, I shave under my arms, I look presentable then really I'm doing it FOR me because it makes ME feel good. It's a part of my self esteem. Self esteem equates to confidence. If I feel good I will exude that confidence and people who are around me will pick up on it.
But I can't assume that what makes me feel good is what is automatically attractive. But since I feel attractive that is what matters. I'm sure people would notice if I had low self esteem and didn't feel attractive. I know how I am when I've got my glasses on instead of contacts and no makeup on and my hair isn't really done. I'm a little shy and I don't encourage anyone to look at me.
I think (thats new for me :)) you have answered your own questions. A lot of men are very insecure about beautiful women, or women who look beautiful. Women are supposedly more approachable when they don't look their best.
It takes a very secure man, or a man who feels he is secure, to approach a lady who is dressed to the nines.
Awww Thanks!!! Rue
Anyway sis, just in case no one told you today, you're BEAUTIFUL! ;D
Well, there are many of us that aren't intimidated by beautiful women. I personally wouldn't mind having a lil lamb in my life. And I'm not singing, "Oh Lamb of God I Come" either. :D
Did I just put that out there like that? :-[ *sighs* Man, I need to go pray.
As for LaRue, just mention the words "Michelle Obama" and watch the reaction. ;) :D
It's an interesting issue for me because I was a late bloomer and I'm in a new season of my life. No one tried to talk to me for the longest. I barely got a date to the senior prom. I was quite shy. I'm a good writer so I express myself on paper really well but in person I'm much more reserved.
+1
Anyway sis, just in case no one told you today, you're BEAUTIFUL! ;D
:o :o :o WOWWWW, you putcho stuff out there like DAT???? You been hanging around HD too long... :D :D :D That's alright, though, you betta work that thang out! :D
As for that name you mentioned.... >:( >:( >:( >:(
I can't stand you. >:(
:o :o :o WOWWWW, you putcho stuff out there like DAT???? You been hanging around HD too long... :D :D :D That's alright, though, you betta work that thang out! :D
As for that name you mentioned.... >:( >:( >:( >:(
I can't stand you. >:(
Awww Thanks!!! Rue
Here's an excerpt from a blog I put on my myspace about where I'm at right now if anyone wants to read the whole thing my address is www.myspace.com/raedini_the_one. It's called Blossom.
Okay, I can see your "Friends Invites" box blowing up right now. ;)
You's SO wrong for 'dat!! :D :D :D
With your request in there :D :D :D
Uh oh.... wait a minute, that didn't come out the way I meant it. :-\
**okay, I just typed out a "what I meant was" explanation, but it's just way too much... lol** I feel paranoid, and paranoia ain't my style. :-\ :D :D
Cosign...I been known to go hard...but NJ goes harder..hahahaha
With your request in there :D :D :D
Nooo Keys, you cannot be commenting... you're working with a record bruh. ;)
Nope... God said, "NO!"
...and Jonathan stop being his "Amen" section!! >:(
As for Ms Rue again, her "so wrong" comment was based on that hate residue from me saying, MICHELLE OBAMA!!
Ok.
What's wrong with Michelle Obama? Or, more to the point, why the hate residue from your saying MICHELLE OBAMA?
She knows why. 8)
I'll say this, can there be such a thing as a "beauty nemesis" :D :D :D
Awww Thanks!!! Rue
It's an interesting issue for me because I was a late bloomer and I'm in a new season of my life. No one tried to talk to me for the longest. I barely got a date to the senior prom. I was quite shy. I'm a good writer so I express myself on paper really well but in person I'm much more reserved.
Here's an excerpt from a blog I put on my myspace about where I'm at right now if anyone wants to read the whole thing my address is www.myspace.com/raedini_the_one. It's called Blossom.
These days compliments are rather frequent (and always welcome) but I must say that being beautiful isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. It’s highly overrated, actually. What a beautiful woman gets from men is more quantity and less quality. You can still only be with one at a time. I could have several men in the rotation but the player’s game is not for me. The other thing is I’m still saved. My values are the same now as they were when no one wanted me. In essence I’m still on the shelf to be taken down only when my future husband comes calling.
All of that pondering brings me to this revelation. I think that God allowed me to blossom late so that he could save me from the perils of beauty. He was shielding and protecting me from the world of relationships which I was probably much too naive to handle. It is much easier to keep yourself when no one wants you. The other part of that revelation is, I think that the attention of men has picked up because it’s getting time for my husband to come find me. I almost wish it was like it was in the old days when I had no prospects. I think it would make it easier to figure out which one was the one.
Very profound indeed.But why did you jettison your former signature? 1977 Kids rock or something like that.It was always the icing on the cake when i read your posts.And that's because i'm a '77 kid tooI guess I thought it was not holy enough. And nobody was sayin "Hey, I'm 77 too!"
Girl, just learn to take a joke and KIM. Well, at least, MY jokes. ;) :D
Ok.
What's wrong with Michelle Obama? Or, more to the point, why the hate residue from your saying MICHELLE OBAMA?
Nooo Keys, you cannot be commenting... you're working with a record bruh. ;)
Nope... God said, "NO!"
...and Jonathan stop being his "Amen" section!! >:(
As for Ms Rue again, her "so wrong" comment was based on that hate residue from me saying, MICHELLE OBAMA!!
Point taken.
But, that wasn't really an explanation for you, it was for HD. I didn't want him to feel like I was teasing him or anything... :-\ But still, point taken. ;) (along with that annoying "clicking" noise people make when they wink. LOL :D :D :D)
On Tuesday night, when Barack and Michelle entered the auditorium to make his speech, I couldn't believe how drop-dead gorgeous Michelle looked. That suit was to die for. I mean, it was just to die for. Her hair looked awesome (esp since I really hate her normal retro hairstyle). Her makeup was flawless, her swagger was super-confident, and her smile was blinding. But more than anything else, that suit was just to die for, and she wore it well.
I couldn't get over it because, I mean, she's a nice looking lady... always well dressed, but not really a head-turner, IMO.... and Tuesday, I just couldn't believe how stunning she looked. Just totally classy. Stylish. Successful. I was proud of how well she represented black women... but still kinda hatin on that suit.
So, I became jealous of her, and decided to hate her. And NJ thinks it's funny. >:( :-\
:D :D :D
Well, I dont know abotu anyone else, but I think some guys could appreciate seeing a woman, without make up, and maybe less than perfect sometimes. I found that it takes a lot of energy to walk around looking like you are going to the prom everyday, than it does to just keep it real. Dont get me wrong, men like a woman that can take care of themselves... Me personally, I go to the nail shop once a week to get my nails, feet, and or eyebrows done... I get my hair done once a week... I stay dressed nice all the time. But I dont sit around with a face full of make up looking like a manequin all day.
I think that if a man thinks you look gorgeous with your gym clothes and looking sweaty and all, he is a keeper. ;) He loves the real you... and will appreciate the made up you still...
Total cosign. It takes work to do all that, and that's probably a part of the reason I'm such a recluse. It takes so much effort to do all the hair and makeup stuff every day.
I am most comfortable in jeans, pumps and no makeup and a ponytail or headband or a hat or something like that. BUT, I don't feel as good that way as I do when I'm all done up.
I guess what I'm saying is I feel my best when I'm done up, but it's not comfortable.
I don't feel my best when I'm not done up, but that's when I'm most comfortable.
I think that if a man thinks you look gorgeous with your gym clothes and looking sweaty and all, he is a keeper. ;) He loves the real you... and will appreciate the made up you still...
Something's just not right about this picture, right ;chea!!
Most things that women do are painful or uncomfortable in some way. Men don't notice really until you don't do it and then they appreciate that you did. I get my eyebrows waxed. PAIN! Bikini wax hurts. (So I've heard). Sitting under the dryer for like 2 hours is not fun. As a matter of fact, anything black women do to their hair is in some way uncomfortable. But Ohhhhh the end of the thing is better than the beginning! AMEN!!!
TMI :-X
And women dont have to do any thing spcial with thier hair to look good. There are plenty of (confident) woman who have short natural hair, and look just fine
::)TRUE DAT! LaRue. Squash that misnomer before this thread turns into a natural vs. chemically treated showdown. In some ways we think a relaxer is easier but it's all work. Black is beautiful ...
(And I'm not rolling my eyes at you specifically, moreso at that sentiment).
If women didn't have to do anything special with their hair, hair care wouldn't be a multi-billion dollar industry. The length or texture of the hair is irrelevant to this discussion. I've cut my hair practically BALD on more than one occasion; I've also cut it very low. I've worn my hair natural for the majority of my life.
Short hair and natural hair still requires care.
::)And my $20000 in tuition would really have been a waste..
(And I'm not rolling my eyes at you specifically, moreso at that sentiment).
If women didn't have to do anything special with their hair, hair care wouldn't be a multi-billion dollar industry.
The length or texture of the hair is irrelevant to this discussion. I've cut my hair practically BALD on more than one occasion; I've also cut it very low. I've worn my hair natural for the majority of my life.
Short hair and natural hair still requires care.
...AND God said, Let there be...
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...AND there was ;D ;D
TRUE DAT! LaRue. Squash that misnomer before this thread turns into a natural vs. chemically treated showdown. In some ways we think a relaxer is easier but it's all work. Black is beautiful ...
:o :o :o :o :o
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:D :D :D :D :D :D
LOL...classic!!!
I may be the only man on the world that likes this but, I think women with natural eyebrows look really nice....as long as they don't touch. I just don't like the trimmed look. Sheesh, I just like the natural look in general!
1. Could be how you look in what you got on. Or Body chemicals?
I would be more attracted to a woman who was comfortable in her skin even when she was a hot mess. I love to see my wife in her most humble moments. She is just as beautiful in the early morning hours as she has dressed up for a night out with the furious one...
I can't stand a quiet woman.
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
Guys always find a way to turn you off. Whether it is something they say or do
since I lose interest rather quickly.
It's either you've been around those with no respect for women or you have a short fuse.
Wait.I think i have a clue...
1. When a guy approaches me at my worse I assume he has low standards. That makes me somewhat disinterested. On the other hand, it can be sort of a compliment.
I would never be caught outside (or inside) wearing sweats and a do-rag.
Sweatpants are the single most unattractive item anyone can wear. That is just not my style.
Some men make great strides after 30. At 32 approaching 33 my love and appreciation for my wife as changed. My wife is very pretty, feminine, sexy, smart and funny in her own little way. If I were ever a single guy again I'd choose an India Arie type of girl. I would be more attracted to a woman who was comfortable in her skin even when she was a hot mess. I love to see my wife in her most humble moments. She is just as beautiful in the early morning hours as she has dressed up for a night out with the furious one... Mrs Furious can be very fierce with her feminine wiles. An intellectual like me would loves a woman who can argue her point of view.
I can't stand a quiet woman. I've dated some in the past. It was nothing worst than dating a fine woman who had little substance outside of her looks. It took me sometime to grow out of my Beyonce attraction. That is the definition of my twenties. I loved a fine woman. She could worship the moon but if she was fine.... Ok don't act like I'm the only one. NOW I'm in my India Arie state of mind. She's the kind of woman that I could fall hard for if I were a single guy. I love her musical brilliance. Her lyrics makes a guy believe that she could handle a very passionate relationship. She's the kind of woman who'd have me eating out of her hand. My wife is a lot like her.... Mrs. Furious has a brother sprung... Its definely a beautiful thing..
Awwwwwwwwwwwwww, that's beautiful. Your wife is blessed to have you. There you go again with the perfectly composed post. I think you hit on a good point which is ... the looks may be what first attracts a man but after that there's got to be much more depth to keep the interest alive. So, once he's fallen in love with you for your beauty AND your substance then when you're not looking so great he still thinks you're beautiful because he's sees beyond the surface.
Ahhhh, what a lovely thing to ponder.
5. I had man with a cane track me down and hand me his phone number. He looked like he was 70 yrs old. Besides that, older men approach me, both white and black, and seem alot more confident then the young guys. "Duds" seem to have more confidence to approach you as well. I mean those thuggish ruggish guys with the gold toofus. I always want to say, why me. Anyway, I agree w/whoever said there is a shortage of black men. I believe the ratio of black men to women is lower than indicated. There are alot of jailed and or gay black men (sad, I know).
Littlelamb, I can relate to you as far as being a late bloomer. It does help to keep you chaste and virtuous! The guys were few and far between, now they are banging down the doors. You really do meet a lot more duds in this process. I don't think I have met a good guy that was single yet. There always turns out to be something terribly wrong!
You know, I'd swear that you said that was a problem when cats would approach you after coming from the gym or what have you? ?/?
Anyway..... :-\
This thread is just severely flawed.... :-\ :D :D :D
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
#6. The great one are married already because they ARE great. While you're geting your hair, makeup and nails done all of the time, those women are out there snatching the good ones up. You snooze, you lose baby!!!!!!!!
PPWWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! :D :D :D
To answer #'s 1-3, I just personally dig a woman with natural beauty. I cannot stand a woman that is overdone. I do not like weave, too much makeup, fake contacts, way too tight clothing with an attitude, etc. Aint nothing like a hot, sweaty woman. You can't get anymore natural than that.
#4. Only you can answer that. Maybe you secretly like that type of guy that comes at you. Go on and get you a Romey-Rome.
#5. That just what you call an old PLAYA!!!!!!!!! The second part of it is why do young girls hook up with older men? Mainly it's about money.
#6. The great one are married already because they ARE great. While you're geting your hair, makeup and nails done all of the time, those women are out there snatching the good ones up. You snooze, you lose baby!!!!!!!!
Just about the best thing you've ever posted on LGM. Real Talk.
All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...
All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...
We seem to be on a trend of asking questions of the opposite sex this week. Here's my contribution:
1. How come men always want to talk to you when you look a mess? I’m talking bout just came out of the gym and sweaty with no makeup on and a jogging suit and hair tied up. (Maybe it’s that you’re sweaty already).
One could ask: If you didn’t come from the gym or from moving out of your house, then why did you come out looking like that?
2. Part B to #1: How come when I really try hard and get my hair done and dress up there are less men trying talk to me? Is it that they think they don't have a chance? When I look so-so (in my opinion), then they want to holla’. What the deal?
3. Part C to #1: Are guys really interested in what we think they’re interested in OR could we all save a lot of money and not get our hair and nails done and just go out with no makeup on. (I don’t have nails because I play the piano but I “gets” that hair "fix" religiously and put on makeup).
4. How come guys I like don’t like me but the ones I don’t like are all over me? Am I looking for the wrong thing and missing out on a good one?
5. Why do old men always try to talk to women that are way younger than them? I know I look young and I get some old dudes who really think I’ll give them my number. Is it that I look young and naïve and unused and fresh and STUPID? Let me qualify old before someone gets offended. Somewhere in the age of my grandpa if he was still alive and I’m 30 yrs old.
6. How come it seems like the great ones are married already? Or is it that their wives fixed them up and now they got it together? I’m not dating a married man, no way/no how. Just curious.
I wish I would have gotten here earlier.
For the record.........that whole sweaty not funky but just coming from an evening 3 mile run with the ipod on the sleeve and the nike jump suit with the fresh nike shocks on look..hair pulled nice and neat in a bun or a nice natural..........teeth all white and shiny..........still cute even with no make up...........still got a couple of leftover white chunks of powder fresh deodorant under the armpits .......not on all women but some women........Its kind of uuummmm....................... well......
Why yall lookin at me like that!!!! >:(
All of my posts become a joke. Nevermind ...
still got a couple of leftover white chunks of powder fresh deodorant under the armpits