([url]http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii314/Jlaws318/yougongetbanned.gif[/url])Scuze me, Vonne. U13 You know good and doggone well you ain't seen 13 in quite a few, stop frontin'!
I honestly dont think there is an effective way to talk about this, w/o being explicit. Well I'm only 13 years old so I'ma stay out grown folk bidness([url]http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii314/Jlaws318/walking2.gif[/url])
Scuze me, Vonne. U13 You know good and doggone well you ain't seen 13 in quite a few, stop frontin'!
Okay, Vonne, you may proceed. I think grown folks who've been married more than 10 years can keep it clean...
the fire burning? You guys its a dawg gone shame but around here in central Georgia, subjects like this are forbidden. But we continue to find that more and more married Christians are splitting apart because they were unable to keep their love alive and passionate. They are seeking that love in other places instead of with their spouse. So I want to know especially from those of you who have been married for more than 10 years...how have you been able to keep you relationship fresh, alive and passionate. If this has already been discussed plea (int) forgive mayeee (int) ;D
For example do you try to go on a romantic gettaway every ______
Do you step outside the normal box and try new things_____ [Lawd Jesus I hope this don't get locked..cause I aint tryin to do nuffin wrong] :-[ :-[
NOTE: I don't want you to talk about what you do in the bed room because I don't want this thread locked...I am just honestly asking this question so that we younger married folks can learn from those who have already been where we're trying to go. OK? I hope this doesn't offend anyone either...I just need help.
The most important thing to remember is that as time goes by, our needs and tastes and desires can change. This is why it is so important to communicate with each other. By doing so and tapping into what the other is saying, you can do those things that the other enjoys and also the things that you both can enjoy together. That's how you keep it fresh and hot. 8) 8) 8)
The most important thing to remember is that as time goes by, our needs and tastes and desires can change. This is why it is so important to communicate with each other. By doing so and tapping into what the other is saying, you can do those things that the other enjoys and also the things that you both can enjoy together. That's how you keep it fresh and hot. 8) 8) 8)
I think that is the key. Young people who arent married, have no problem telling thier partners what they want and how they want it, So why do so many married folks settle for something that isnt satisfying for them. And agree with the others, yall gotta do stuff togather, It seems like when some folks get married all the fun stops.ummm.... how long you been married? LOL
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL
I think that is the key. Young people who arent married, have no problem telling thier partners what they want and how they want it, So why do so many married folks settle for something that isnt satisfying for them. And agree with the others, yall gotta do stuff togather, It seems like when some folks get married all the fun stops.
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL
ummm.... how long you been married? LOL
Well I do have a few close friends and mentors who are married.
*in best Braxton voice....one finger in the air*
Aaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!
So I want to know especially from those of you who have been married for more than 10 years...how have you been able to keep you relationship fresh, alive and passionate.
The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.
The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.
We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!
Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of "What have he/she done for me lately?"
Well played!! :D :D :D :D :D :D
Fam!!!!
Is that you in the pic?????
I considered you "The Gooch" of LGM until now....
(Stand up Different Strokes fans)
:D :D :D :D :D
I knew you existed....
But I never saw you... :D
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh MANNNN!!!!! NOT THE GOOCH!!!!
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
**standing up to rep the Diff'rent Strokes fans**
Yeah, it's the Lyrical One in the (cyber) flesh. :D :D :D :D
What she said. :D :D :D :D
Well....Since my homie did it...
I may have to come out of
the Witness Protection Program myself..... :D
Well....Since my homie did it...
I may have to come out of
the Witness Protection Program myself..... :D
For real though... ::)
Some of us miss your smile! :-\ (Not me, though... just saying some of us do.... LOL) :D :D
Yeah, g'head and brang those Arsenio gums outta retirement. :D :D :D :D
Ya know I had to get'cha for that Gooch cracc.
Nooo...Never you. ::)
Well since its not you....
I'll do it for the OTHER beautiful young lady
I met and had breakfast with in Atlanta
AT IHOP on the morning of January 27, 2008. ;)
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!
*cough*
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!
*choke*
*choke*
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!!
:D :D :D :D :D :D
Arsenio gums???????
Cuz...that was totally uncalled for. :D :D
You gotta warn me before you
decide to say stuff like that!!
I could've been in church having communion???
:D :D
YOU HAD BREAKFAST WITH SOME OTHER CHICK ON MYYYYYY TURF?????? OH HECCCKKKKKKK NAW... LEMME TELL YOU SOMETH **lightbulb flashes on**
Oh wait... you talkin 'bout me? :D :D :D Oops... *giggle*
WHAT 'ligion has communion @ noon on a FRIDAY?! :D :D :D :D
None that I know of.....
But thats not the point!!!
:D :D :D
Yea, the point is you shouldn't be lookin' in on LGM while at chu'ch taking communion. ;)
Still not the point.....
The point is that
I coul.....Wait,
Actually that is the point. :-\
*walks away*
WOW! The Friday insanity is on and poppin today huh? :D :D
Y'all got me rollin in here.... communion fam?? :o
Sorry Vonne... this has been officially JACKED!!! :D :D
Send the kids to Gramma's for the weekend...then you'll have the house all to yourselves ;D.
WOW! The Friday insanity is on and poppin today huh? :D :D
Y'all got me rollin in here.... communion fam?? :o
Sorry Vonne... this has been officially JACKED!!! :D :D
Sister T and i are the only ones who added any useful input into this thread.
Wow, is that right?
Wow, is that right?
Especially considering the fact that he's NOT married. ::)
Wow, is that right?
I KNEW i should have added a smiley face to show that i am just kidding. My sense of humour tends to border on the cynical at times.
Not married????
And giving advice in a
"Married folks" thread???
I'm confused.
I think she wants to know what to do AFTER the kids have left for grandma's house.
Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed ([url]http://www.themarriagebed.com[/url]). But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things. It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated. Men just want to get....you know. But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life. Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you.
The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.
The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.
We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!
Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of "What have he/she done for me lately?"
Well played!! :D :D :D :D :D :DLook at MR LT!!!!!!!! ;D
WOW! The Friday insanity is on and poppin today huh? :D :DTell me about it ::) ::) ::) ::)
Y'all got me rollin in here.... communion fam?? :o
Sorry Vonne... this has been officially JACKED!!! :D :D
Obviously, so is the unmarried person trying to dispense marriage advice. ::) :D
Men just want to get....you know. But the bottom line is...THE BOTTOM
Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed ([url]http://www.themarriagebed.com[/url]). But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things. It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated. Men just want to get....you know. But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life. Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you.
This preacher I heard some years bacc called this "Makin' That Deposit". :D :D
The only way to keep the marriage fresh, alive and passionate is by placing yourself on the altar everyday. In other words, you got to sacrifice your own selfish desires and GIVE. Love is all about giving.This is the wisdom of a diva...thank you so much for your help. This is exactly what I was looking for. My husband and I are still newlyweds (6 years) and I want to keep it that way. So many CHRISTIAN homes are being destroyed over the little things that we sometimes omit for selfish reasons. We are concerned enough to want to do everything that we can to avoid the pitfalls that have been set up to destroy our marriages.
The way I take care of Big Daddy is by seeking to meet his needs. I ask him everyday "What can I do to make your day. I take care of him because I WANT to. Even though I do this without seeking anything in return, I do reap benefits from my sowing. He takes note of my needs and meet them. In other words, I seek to meet his needs without expecting anything in return and he seeks to meet my needs without expecting anything in return. Regardless of what the other do, we each do our part.
We are each givers in our relationship, therefore our marriage continues to be fresh, alive and passionate. Being givers yeilds good communication, intimacy and great sex! Great sex doesn't make for a good marriage, but a good marriage makes for great sex!
Bottom line, no one in a marriage can have the attitude of "What have he/she done for me lately?"
Hmmm, well since we don't want to violate the terms and conditions of LGM, she might want pay a vist to The Marriage Bed ([url]http://www.themarriagebed.com[/url]). But even before sending the kids off to wherever, you have to do little things that eventually lead up to biger things. It really seems like women want to be told that they are beautiful, that the are loved and appreciated. Men just want to get....you know. But the bottom line is that you must make your husband or wife a priority in your life. Don't let your job, ministry, or even your precious children rob you of the opportunity to show your significant other what he or she truly means to you.
..Chris Rock had it right....Ya dont need sparks!...the 3 S's Sex, supper and silence does it for me!.....Take care of the basics and a cruise wont be needed!....dont make me ask for it either!I hope this isn't your recipe for marital sucess...please tell me you're kidding ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
Just be each others best friend no matter what! Im finding that there's no friendships anymore its just married and that's wrong. I honestly hate not having a best friend and just a wife! Friendship is way more important then sex! Fall in love with and marry your best friend!Sounds gr8 BBD!! Thank you for sharing this! God bless!!
I hope this isn't your recipe for marital sucess...please tell me you're kidding ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
....I am dead serious!....Unfortunately because most women dont believe what I just said...They wind up with straying hubbies!....If you take care of your men in those ways ...he will take care of you...or at least try!
Most men are like little pets...they dont need much...so while you are confusing your version of his needs with what he really needs....he is out subliminally looking for the basics to be fulfilled.....and all the time wondering why you dont get it!
.....Women need to read the book about men from Mars and women from Venus....(might be the other way around)....Just cuz you think my answer isnt Politically correct....or Sensitive enough for the modern woman doesn't mean it isnt dead on point....
.....Women...you want to keep your man....Treat him like the base animal that he is....get the Basics right...(ask grandma..she had it right!)...and the rest will follow!....Remember men are like little puppy dogs....feed em....rub their belly and dont yell at em....and he will obey!...get any of those wrong...and expect to get bit!
I hope this isn't your recipe for marital sucess...please tell me you're kidding ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
The average man and the average woman are so vastly different. IMO, it's a miracle when it works, really something special. If you have it, do everything you can to keep it going, because I've found it's quite rare.
The average man and the average woman are so vastly different. IMO, it's a miracle when it works, really something special. If you have it, do everything you can to keep it going, because I've found it's quite rare.
....I am dead serious!....Unfortunately because most women dont believe what I just said...They wind up with straying hubbies!....If you take care of your men in those ways ...he will take care of you...or at least try!If that's what you do in your marriage that's fine.....but to make a woman cook, have sex, and keep silent sounds like the dark ages to me. Why would a woman want to get married just to still be alone. Your man don't wanna talk to ya...he just wants you to slave...GIMME A BREAK!!! ::) ::)
Most men are like little pets...they dont need much...so while you are confusing your version of his needs with what he really needs....he is out subliminally looking for the basics to be fulfilled.....and all the time wondering why you dont get it!
.....Women need to read the book about men from Mars and women from Venus....(might be the other way around)....Just cuz you think my answer isnt Politically correct....or Sensitive enough for the modern woman doesn't mean it isnt dead on point....
.....Women...you want to keep your man....Treat him like the base animal that he is....get the Basics right...(ask grandma..she had it right!)...and the rest will follow!....Remember men are like little puppy dogs....feed em....rub their belly and dont yell at em....and he will obey!...get any of those wrong...and expect to get bit!
If that's what you do in your marriage that's fine.....but to make a woman cook, have sex, and keep silent sounds like the dark ages to me.
Okay, I've been married 34 years. It hasn't always been easy, in fact it's been pretty tough, and still is sometimes. Luckily I'm kind of passive and she's very overpowering. It's good to be different - especially in a marriage.
Some advice I've given my son-in-laws, as my daughters who are all head strong, just like their mother, is to learn that we are all totally different. We can't always win every disagreement, we can't always have the last word, we have to be concerned about feelings and future.
Always listen with your heart, try to listen very little with your ears. My wife says things that blow me away sometimes, but when we finally discuss the situation it's always "what I meant to say was" so now I try to listen with my heart to her heart - not how it's coming out of her mouth.
I can't tell you how she's put up with me over the years, but I know she's had quite a difficult task - although I think I'm an OK kinda guy I know I have failures, bad habits and an overall lack of concern in alot of areas.
Always remember that even though the grass may look greener on the other side, that eventually it will dry up, turn brown and wither away.
I find it much easier to work on what I have, both of us knowing our short comings, than trying to start over again.
Okay, I've been married 34 years. It hasn't always been easy, in fact it's been pretty tough, and still is sometimes. Luckily I'm kind of passive and she's very overpowering. It's good to be different - especially in a marriage.YOU ARE MY HERO!!! It is so refreshing to hear from a person who's already been where we're trying to go. 34 years???? WOW!!! :o :o :o :o :o What a mighty God we serve. God bless you Sir and may your marriage be blessed and everything else. Thank you so so so much!!
Some advice I've given my son-in-laws, as my daughters who are all head strong, just like their mother, is to learn that we are all totally different. We can't always win every disagreement, we can't always have the last word, we have to be concerned about feelings and future.
Always listen with your heart, try to listen very little with your ears. My wife says things that blow me away sometimes, but when we finally discuss the situation it's always "what I meant to say was" so now I try to listen with my heart to her heart - not how it's coming out of her mouth.
I can't tell you how she's put up with me over the years, but I know she's had quite a difficult task - although I think I'm an OK kinda guy I know I have failures, bad habits and an overall lack of concern in alot of areas.
Always remember that even though the grass may look greener on the other side, that eventually it will dry up, turn brown and wither away.
I find it much easier to work on what I have, both of us knowing our short comings, than trying to start over again.
If that's what you do in your marriage that's fine.....but to make a woman cook, have sex, and keep silent sounds like the dark ages to me. Why would a woman want to get married just to still be alone. Your man don't wanna talk to ya...he just wants you to slave...GIMME A BREAK!!! ::) ::)
Again, if that works for you and your cosigner..MO PAHBAH TO YALL but thank God that my husband allows me to be who I am....
....no one wants the woman to be silent...but the endless yapping and nagging and pushing and required listening..is just intolerable!...
Okay, I've been married 34 years. It hasn't always been easy, in fact it's been pretty tough, and still is sometimes. Luckily I'm kind of passive and she's very overpowering. It's good to be different - especially in a marriage.
Some advice I've given my son-in-laws, as my daughters who are all head strong, just like their mother, is to learn that we are all totally different. We can't always win every disagreement, we can't always have the last word, we have to be concerned about feelings and future.
Always listen with your heart, try to listen very little with your ears. My wife says things that blow me away sometimes, but when we finally discuss the situation it's always "what I meant to say was" so now I try to listen with my heart to her heart - not how it's coming out of her mouth.
I can't tell you how she's put up with me over the years, but I know she's had quite a difficult task - although I think I'm an OK kinda guy I know I have failures, bad habits and an overall lack of concern in alot of areas.
Always remember that even though the grass may look greener on the other side, that eventually it will dry up, turn brown and wither away.
I find it much easier to work on what I have, both of us knowing our short comings, than trying to start over again.
Then tell YOUR wife to stop. And, STOP assuming that other men's wives do that. ::)
I present for YOUR viewing pleasure, Exhibit A:
For the part in bold:
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....no one wants the woman to be silent...but the endless yapping and nagging and pushing and required listening..is just intolerable!...
bah, why would anyone want to get married? crazy peeps yoLOL!!! This had me dyin'!
AMEN SJON....AAAaaaaaaaaaaamen!!!!!!
No one wants a man to yap and nag either my friend. Either way, marriage is a two-sided thing...both parties must respect each other PERIOD! No need to fight over whether its a man or woman, the only thing we need to know is what God says. Marriages are ruined everyday because the woman wants to take the womans side and the man wants to take the mans side. There should be only one side.... GOD'S SIDE!!!
NOTE: I don't want you to talk about what you do in the bed room...
..Say what you will...I speak from many mens points of view!...I have had the opportunity to interview many men who wanted advice and I stick by what I say.....and that Gods Way remark should be taken with care because it is the departure from Gods way that has put marriage where it is today!...Ain't no harm done man....do you really think that I'm going to get in a back and forth with you about what you do or don't know? Of course not, I don't question what you know and who you've spoken to. If what I said offended you then I'm sorry. That's all I'll say because we've already misunderstood each other enough. I'm sorry...forgive me.
Gods way doesnt allow women the right to be the head of her husband or even equal!...Marriage is NOT equality....it is a lovely notion...but God set the order and obviously TODAY we dispute it!....Those societies that take heed to GODS order in Marriage dont have this ridiculous divorce rate!
....So statements like GODS WAY should not be stated lightly!.....Maybe it would be nice if you stated what you mean by Gods way!!!....then Match it up against the WORD!
Ain't no harm done man....do you really think that I'm going to get in a back and forth with you about what you do or don't know? Of course not, I don't question what you know and who you've spoken to. If what I said offended you then I'm sorry. That's all I'll say because we've already misunderstood each other enough. I'm sorry...forgive me.
...I aint mad at ya!...I just get coo-coo when people say GODS WAY and the scriptures arent right behind it!...There is this dude...oops...Preacher on TV that always shoves Gods Way down your throat as if his scripture is the only one in the word!....and then Gods Way never interferes with his walk...only yours!...Makes me fume!I gotcha...LOUD AND CLEAR ;)
I've been away from this thread for a few days...mmmmm....BEEFY!! 8)
And I've read some posts....
Some I agree with....And some I don't...
But I will say this....
I was reading some of the views on the woman's role.
And how they should treat the husband.
I'll say this....
and this is only in some cases.
I think that SOME women....(Ladies of LGM don't kill me)
Emphasis on SOME....
They have forgotten the old way.
They have gotten so caught up in this modern way of thinking,
that they've forgotten how to be a good wife.
There's nothing wrong with being strong,
and having a career....and holding your own.
But never forget that you are a WIFE.
and that comes before anything, and everything.
I hear so many women say....
that grandma's way of being a wife doesn't work today.
But I think it works fine, if you know what a wife SHOULD be.
And being a wife does NOT mean you have to be a slave.
And a GOOD, God fearing man wouldn't want his wife to be a slave.
He just wants his wife to be willing to do anything for him.
Simply because that husband is willing to do ANYTHING for
his wife, to keep her happy.
A wife should know her place....
and before ya'll flip out on Ya man REDY.
A wife knowing her place...doesn't mean anything bad.
Because a husband should know his place also.
mmmmm....BEEFY!! 8)
Yeah man....
But I got a feeling that somebody's
gonna string me up
on this one for sure.. :-\
Why? It speaks to husband and wives submitting TO ONE ANOTHER. A factor that a LOT of couples miss too many times, sadly. :-\
Exactly....
I hope everyone else got that. :-\
Why? It speaks to husband and wives submitting TO ONE ANOTHER. A factor that a LOT of couples miss too many times, sadly. :-\
I've been away from this thread for a few days...
And I've read some posts....
Some I agree with....And some I don't...
But I will say this....
I was reading some of the views on the woman's role.
And how they should treat the husband.
I'll say this....
and this is only in some cases.
I think that SOME women....(Ladies of LGM don't kill me)
Emphasis on SOME....
They have forgotten the old way.
They have gotten so caught up in this modern way of thinking,
that they've forgotten how to be a good wife.
There's nothing wrong with being strong,
and having a career....and holding your own.
But never forget that you are a WIFE.
and that comes before anything, and everything.
I hear so many women say....
that grandma's way of being a wife doesn't work today.
But I think it works fine, if you know what a wife SHOULD be.
And being a wife does NOT mean you have to be a slave.
And a GOOD, God fearing man wouldn't want his wife to be a slave.
He just wants his wife to be willing to do anything for him.
Simply because that husband is willing to do ANYTHING for
his wife, to keep her happy.
A wife should know her place....
and before ya'll flip out on Ya man REDY.
A wife knowing her place...doesn't mean anything bad.
Because a husband should know his place also.
Well...... actually, a husband shouldn't be submitting to his wife, a husband should be submitting to his Lord. Biblically speaking, that is.
You get a TOTAL COSIGN from me, with a wave of the hankie on the part in red/bold.
Very good stuff, Redy. You gets no fuss from ya sista!!!
The bottom line (if I may reiterate what you've already said so perfectly) is that God's order is that the wife should submit to her husband, and her husband should submit to God. This is the way God set up marriage, and if we heed to His plan for marriage, we'd be a lot more successful in our marriages.
Uriah wasn't altogether wrong, he just didn't take the time (as usual) to make his posts sound appealing to the masses. The truth of the matter is that while it appears to us that he wants his wife to sit down and shut up, as long as Uriah is submitting to God, he is going to give her EVERYTHING she needs - physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, sexually, naturally, and completely.
Well...... actually, a husband shouldn't be submitting to his wife, a husband should be submitting to his Lord. Biblically speaking, that is.
You get a TOTAL COSIGN from me, with a wave of the hankie on the part in red/bold.
Very good stuff, Redy. You gets no fuss from ya sista!!!
The bottom line (if I may reiterate what you've already said so perfectly) is that God's order is that the wife should submit to her husband, and her husband should submit to God. This is the way God set up marriage, and if we heed to His plan for marriage, we'd be a lot more successful in our marriages.
Uriah wasn't altogether wrong, he just didn't take the time (as usual) to make his posts sound appealing to the masses. The truth of the matter is that while it appears to us that he wants his wife to sit down and shut up, as long as Uriah is submitting to God, he is going to give her EVERYTHING she needs - physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, sexually, naturally, and completely.
I agree sis....
If you have a saved man...
He should be yielding to God's plan.
And as long as he's doing that,
He won't ask anything of his wife
that isn't in line with the word of God.
So if the wife has to take a submissive position.
That is in God's plan.
The problem is that some women hear "submissive",
and automatically think "servant".
Which brings about the "I ain't no slave" mentality. :D
And when women get that way....
You're out of the will of God.
But you're only a slave if your husband treats you that way.
But if you're Husband treats you as an equal.
Then you should honor him as YOUR head.
Don't look at me like that....
I'm in the Word. :D :D
Don't look at me like that....
I'm in the Word. :D :D
Got me on the technicality. ::) :D
Got me on the technicality. ::) :D
Stay right there, Pastor!!!! Preeeeeeach, PREACHER!!!!! My gawdt from Zion! **waving the hankie**
:D :D :D
HAHAHHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't you just hate when that happens...
Selfishness is forbidden and must be killed daily. Making your spouse feel like he is still the best thing since sliced cheese. And taking care of yourself so you can pour out to him.
See, FS needs to take notes. So much said in three sentences. My God, my God!! ;)
This site would be boring if everyone posted in the same style...
All we'd have is some 2-liners, followed by a bunch of "cosigns" and "amens...." Let FS be FS and let Redd be Redd. ;D :P
Now... for arguments' sake (if I may play devil's advocate), it's very hard to make your spouse feel like he's the best thing since sliced cheese if HE thinks he's the best thing since sliced cheese... LOL. I submit that based on a recent experience I had with someone who, in my opinion, has a bit of an ego problem, which pushed me to (subconsciously, at first) remind him that he's NOT really all as perfect as he'd like to think he is... which is just plain toxic in a friendship/relationship/whatever...
This site would be boring if everyone posted in the same style...
All we'd have is some 2-liners, followed by a bunch of "cosigns" and "amens...." Let FS be FS and let Redd be Redd. ;D :P
Now... for arguments' sake (if I may play devil's advocate), it's very hard to make your spouse feel like he's the best thing since sliced cheese if HE thinks he's the best thing since sliced cheese... LOL. I submit that based on a recent experience I had with someone who, in my opinion, has a bit of an ego problem, which pushed me to (subconsciously, at first) remind him that he's NOT really all as perfect as he'd like to think he is... which is just plain toxic in a friendship/relationship/whatever...
Word sis.....
No room for egos in ANY relationship.
I gotcha...LOUD AND CLEAR ;)
These are the scriptures that my husband and I study on a daily basis.. Ephesians 5:21-33 (Amplified version)
21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).
22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.
24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,
27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].
28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.
31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.(D)
32 This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church.
33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. [I Pet. 3:2.]
I've been away from this thread for a few days...Redy as long as your wife gives you what you've just written then you've got it made my friend. ;)
And I've read some posts....
Some I agree with....And some I don't...
But I will say this....
I was reading some of the views on the woman's role.
And how they should treat the husband.
I'll say this....
and this is only in some cases.
I think that SOME women....(Ladies of LGM don't kill me)
Emphasis on SOME....
They have forgotten the old way.
They have gotten so caught up in this modern way of thinking,
that they've forgotten how to be a good wife.
There's nothing wrong with being strong,
and having a career....and holding your own.
But never forget that you are a WIFE.
and that comes before anything, and everything.
I hear so many women say....
that grandma's way of being a wife doesn't work today.
But I think it works fine, if you know what a wife SHOULD be.
And being a wife does NOT mean you have to be a slave.
And a GOOD, God fearing man wouldn't want his wife to be a slave.
He just wants his wife to be willing to do anything for him.
Simply because that husband is willing to do ANYTHING for
his wife, to keep her happy.
A wife should know her place....
and before ya'll flip out on Ya man REDY.
A wife knowing her place...doesn't mean anything bad.
Because a husband should know his place also.
Why? It speaks to husband and wives submitting TO ONE ANOTHER. A factor that a LOT of couples miss too many times, sadly. :-\You and I think too much a like...this is getting scurry! (just kidding) ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D