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Main => Gospel Music Lounge => Topic started by: blessedwoman on November 11, 2009, 08:59:13 AM
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So I met this guy about 2 weeks ago...truly tall, brown and handsome :D He gave me his number, I did likewise...cool. He calls me, we're talking, good convo going and before I even ask him about his religion, he say's "I am a Man of God, a Christian man" so on and so forth....so you know I'm like ;D now, lol.
I let him know from the door where I stood in my faith. I don't play games. I'm serious about my walk with the Lord and I dare not change that...Well he thought that was the best thing and was so tickled by it. Very nice guy :)
Why this dude call me while he's driving, I promise you I felt like I was thrown into a Def Comedy Jam show, lol...this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin :o I mean the worse ones too :( I was like Wa Wa WAIT A MINUTE!! WITW!!! He goes "Oh you don't like cursin? I can't cuss in front of you?" ANNNNNND then he goes "Oh and I'm a bouncer at a STRIP CLUB"
WHYYYYYYYYYY!!!!! I'm madd, lol no seriously, lol. I feel bamboozled :D He wanted to go out this weekend, but that will not be happening :( :-\
My sister says I shouldn't be mean to him, who knows I can be the one to help him ::) yea ok....so tall and handsome too, ugh :'(
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Man looks on the outer...... :-\
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1. A lot of people - men and women - consider themselves to be "of God" and "Christian," but don't necessarily live a holy lifestyle.
2. I agree and disagree with your sister. You shouldn't be mean to him, but ummmm... you can help him by praying for him. LOL! I wouldn't waste my time on this one... BTJM. (<--- will explain that if necessary)
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Man looks on the outer...... :-\
...this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin :o I mean the worse ones too :(
Out of the abundance of the heart... :D
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Wow ?/?
'Church Folk' for you.
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1. A lot of people - men and women - consider themselves to be "of God" and "Christian," but don't necessarily live a holy lifestyle.
2. I agree and disagree with your sister. You shouldn't be mean to him, but ummmm... you can help him by praying for him. LOL! I wouldn't waste my time on this one... BTJM. (<--- will explain that if necessary)
I'm not wasting my time either. I told him, on a spiritual note, we're not compatible. I told him, I'm not perfect, but I'm striving to live a holy life everyday. I wasn't mean..
I guess I would have been more understanding if he said, I'm a Christian, but I'm working things out in my life...for some reason when I hear "Man of God" I expect more :-\
Yea you right SJ...even though the outer was really REALLY nice LOL, I'm much more concerned about the inner man and what and who God has for me...
He says I'm prejudging him ::)
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...*waiting for Steve Harvey's reply.* lol
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I'm not wasting my time either. I told him, on a spiritual note, we're not compatible. I told him, I'm not perfect, but I'm striving to live a holy life everyday. I wasn't mean..
I guess I would have been more understanding if he said, I'm a Christian, but I'm working things out in my life...for some reason when I hear "Man of God" I expect more :-\
Yea you right SJ...even though the outer was really REALLY nice LOL, I'm much more concerned about the inner man and what and who God has for me...
He says I'm prejudging him ::)
I'm with you on this one, little sis.
And you're not judging him. It is perfectly acceptable (IMO) to have preferences about a person's inner "appearance", just as it is to have preferences about a person's outer appearance. Some people like 'em tall and dark, some like 'em short and light... some like 'em holy. :D :D :D
About a year ago, I was "getting to know" this guy that I went to school with in NY (we reconnected through FB). He's Roman Catholic, and didn't understand why I wasn't trying to go any further with him once I found that out. His lifestyle included moderate partying and drinking with friends, occasional clubbing, video game parties, and a LOTTTTTA rap and hip-hop. I'm not opposed to that stuff, but it just doesn't fit with my lifestyle -- which is pretty much church, church, church, and more church. LOL! It would never work. So why bother?
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...*waiting for Steve Harvey's reply.* lol
"errybody caint be da pasta or da deacon or da 'vangelist, SOMEBODY got ta be tha strip club bouncer that know 'bout some God...."
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You can play with the devil like he is if you want. I know I'm going to make some people mad but that's ok. lol Pray my strength in the Lord. lol I know people mess up but dude sounds like he's just fronting.
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+1 to all yall. After I told him that, suprisingly he called the next day like "Soooo you're really saying you don't wanna hang out with me?...I'm not a bad person" "I really wanna get to know you, profanity isn't a problem I can't fix"
I said bruh Don't do it for me, do it for yaself :-\ Whew I sure am glad I'm not the old me, my "used to be naive self" would have been a serious sucka n/j (no joke) Stupid all over the forehead :D
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Amen, sister. If you gonna claim it, you ought to be living it. There are way too many definitions for being saved, Men/Women of God, and christian going around. Da proof is in the puddin. A person ought to be "livin the life like it's golden" ;D ;D
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LOL! I had a guy proposition me one time, and when I declined he got all mad and said he knows the Lord, too, and God intends for us to enjoy ourselves, etc. LOL!!! I was so tickled at him bein' mad!
But yeah, people profess holiness but many times it doesn't go a lot further.
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So I met this guy about 2 weeks ago...truly tall, brown and handsome :D He gave me his number, I did likewise...cool. He calls me, we're talking, good convo going and before I even ask him about his religion, he say's "I am a Man of God, a Christian man" so on and so forth....so you know I'm like ;D now, lol.
I let him know from the door where I stood in my faith. I don't play games. I'm serious about my walk with the Lord and I dare not change that...Well he thought that was the best thing and was so tickled by it. Very nice guy :)
Why this dude call me while he's driving, I promise you I felt like I was thrown into a Def Comedy Jam show, lol...this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin :o I mean the worse ones too :( I was like Wa Wa WAIT A MINUTE!! WITW!!! He goes "Oh you don't like cursin? I can't cuss in front of you?" ANNNNNND then he goes "Oh and I'm a bouncer at a STRIP CLUB"
WHYYYYYYYYYY!!!!! I'm madd, lol no seriously, lol. I feel bamboozled :D He wanted to go out this weekend, but that will not be happening :( :-\
My sister says I shouldn't be mean to him, who knows I can be the one to help him ::) yea ok....so tall and handsome too, ugh :'(
Maybe you should give him a chance. People do change. Sometimes it just takes the right incentive. And you just might be that incentive....
Before yall go saying, "Why she got to change him??!" LOL. I'm talking about for the good. Like maybe he'll work on his cursing and eventually stop. Maybe she can help him to be more spiritual.
His cursing doesn't necessarily make him da' devil. He could be a great person, with character and moral values. He just may have a bad habbit of cursing.... Habbits can be broken. He said he's willing to work on it. Now if he has other flaws in his personality that you know would be a problem....you may want to call it quits...
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I know a few people who live a holy lifestyle (or strive to), but struggle with cussing.
Not one of them would freely use that language in front of someone they just met, let alone a LADY, let alone a LADY who is saved and living a holy lifestyle.
There's a lot to be said about that. It doesn't sound like a habit he's struggling with. It sounds like it's just a part of who he is, and he's quite content with it.
And I can't speak for BW, but if it were me, it wouldn't so much be the cussing, it would be the fact that he's not the person I thought he might have been. :-\
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I know a few people who live a holy lifestyle (or strive to), but struggle with cussing.
Not one of them would freely use that language in front of someone they just met, let alone a LADY, let alone a LADY who is saved and living a holy lifestyle.
There's a lot to be said about that. It doesn't sound like a habit he's struggling with. It sounds like it's just a part of who he is, and he's quite content with it.
And I can't speak for BW, but if it were me, it wouldn't so much be the cussing, it would be the fact that he's not the person I thought he might have been. :-\
Yeah but she just met him two weeks ago... How can you say what a person is about in two weeks? LOL I mean at least give it a month. Of coarse if she already knows she don't want to waste the time then that's fine. But is she's not quite sure.....then maybe another couple of weeks??? :-\
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If I was your blood brother I'd tell you no!
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So I met this guy about 2 weeks ago...truly tall, brown and handsome :D He gave me his number, I did likewise...cool. He calls me, we're talking, good convo going and before I even ask him about his religion, he say's "I am a Man of God, a Christian man" so on and so forth....so you know I'm like ;D now, lol.
I let him know from the door where I stood in my faith. I don't play games. I'm serious about my walk with the Lord and I dare not change that...Well he thought that was the best thing and was so tickled by it. Very nice guy :)
Why this dude call me while he's driving, I promise you I felt like I was thrown into a Def Comedy Jam show, lol...this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin :o I mean the worse ones too :( I was like Wa Wa WAIT A MINUTE!! WITW!!! He goes "Oh you don't like cursin? I can't cuss in front of you?" ANNNNNND then he goes "Oh and I'm a bouncer at a STRIP CLUB"
WHYYYYYYYYYY!!!!! I'm madd, lol no seriously, lol. I feel bamboozled :D He wanted to go out this weekend, but that will not be happening :( :-\
My sister says I shouldn't be mean to him, who knows I can be the one to help him ::) yea ok....so tall and handsome too, ugh :'(
BEWARE!!! If she or he is wearing a "I'm a Christian" or an "I'm a Man" or an "I'm a Woman" T-shirt (in other words if the 1st thing outta their mouth is an announcement as to who or what they are) run the other way and charge them double your normal price.
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"Oh and I'm a bouncer at a STRIP CLUB"
Furthermore, after having been released from the bondage of strip clubbing years ago, Brother man has a long way to go. Do you honestly want to date a person who works in an industry rife with prostitution, sexual immorality, drug use, sexual abuse, infidelity, sadness, meaningless relationships, the objectification of men and women, wasted time and money, disease, death? I didn't think so.
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So I met this guy about 2 weeks ago...truly tall, brown and handsome :D He gave me his number, I did likewise...cool. He calls me, we're talking, good convo going and before I even ask him about his religion, he say's "I am a Man of God, a Christian man" so on and so forth....so you know I'm like ;D now, lol.
I let him know from the door where I stood in my faith. I don't play games. I'm serious about my walk with the Lord and I dare not change that...Well he thought that was the best thing and was so tickled by it. Very nice guy :)
Why this dude call me while he's driving, I promise you I felt like I was thrown into a Def Comedy Jam show, lol...this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin :o I mean the worse ones too :( I was like Wa Wa WAIT A MINUTE!! WITW!!! He goes "Oh you don't like cursin? I can't cuss in front of you?" ANNNNNND then he goes "Oh and I'm a bouncer at a STRIP CLUB"
WHYYYYYYYYYY!!!!! I'm madd, lol no seriously, lol. I feel bamboozled :D He wanted to go out this weekend, but that will not be happening :( :-\
My sister says I shouldn't be mean to him, who knows I can be the one to help him ::) yea ok....so tall and handsome too, ugh :'(
Let it go.. That's what I'd tell anyone of my 5 daughters.. aged 19-33.... especially if he has to ask.. it would be different if he volunteered an apology.. and then... working in a strip club/man of GOD ... enh enh...
If you stay in touch with him and try to minister to him... it's dicey 'cause.. blessed women need love too... arms length.. with a broom. For a good while.
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Oh yeaaah, I forgot about the bouncer at the strip club statement...
Well, he might need to bounce on!! ::)
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I feel ya b-dub. When I wasn't saved I used to cuss a lot. Now that I'm saved, I wouldn't dare get in a relationship with any woman who uses that kind of language.
It doesn't bother me too much if people use it, but not someone I'm gonna be spending quality time with. The person can say that they will work on it all they want, but it's gonna come out, and usually at the wrong time. There are so many other words to use than profanity. It really shows a lack of intelligence.
If u wanna keep the guy as a friend do that. As far as a relationship, don't waste ur time wit this one b-dub.
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I feel ya b-dub. When I wasn't saved I used to cuss a lot. Now that I'm saved, I wouldn't dare get in a relationship with any woman who uses that kind of language.
It doesn't bother me too much if people use it, but not someone I'm gonna be spending quality time with. The person can say that they will work on it all they want, but it's gonna come out, and usually at the wrong time. There are so many other words to use than profanity. It really shows a lack of intelligence.
If u wanna keep the guy as a friend do that. As far as a relationship, don't waste ur time wit this one b-dub.
Good input T as always I appreciate it. Helps a lot :)
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this joka started cussin like it wasnt nothin I mean the worse ones too
I have to say, arent all of them bad, or now there is a level for each...???? you know i had to ask the question lol
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you serious?
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I don't care what anyone says, "f" is the worst one, followed closely by "s."
Y'all can rank the other ones however you want. I don't care too much either way. IMO, "b" comes next, then "d" "a" and "h" because they're all in the Bible, so they're only "bad" when used in a "bad" way. :-\
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*oops* I forgot my smileys... lol.
:D :D :D :D :D :D
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Now if he was a bouncer at maybe a jazz club...lol
Naw, but cussing like a sailor...NO, NO, NO!
I'm more shocked at his behavior afterwards. Like so not understanding like he didn't do anything wrong. What a fool! Those are the worst kinds. If I had a nickel for every bone-head i've dealt with i'd be a millionaire...ok well a hundred dolllar-aire. You get my point.
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When I started dating my wife, I was a bible-toting Apostolic. I probably looked like I seeped Jesus!
My wife cursed. Not just cursed, though. If they beeped her curse words, it'd sound like one of those emergency tests that they do on TV! I told her that we couldn't be serious if she cursed. I'm not having it around my kids. She started working on it, and now, people would never know. I think she was finally delivered in 2003, seven years after we got married. Her last words were "hell" and "heifer". ;D ;D ;D
Thank God for deliverance!
I'm with Rue, as well.
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Is Heifer a cuss word? She doesn't say it any more? I didn't know that was a cuss word.
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Is Heifer a cuss word? She doesn't say it any more? I didn't know that was a cuss word.
No. I think that's what he's saying. It's not. :)
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Heifer isn't a cuss word. It may be considered harsh by some, but it's not a cuss word.
I'm LOLing a little bc when I was little, we weren't allowed to say "sucker" "pee" or "lie" because those were all cuss words. There's another one but I can't think of it right now. Oh well.
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Heifer isn't a cuss word. It may be considered harsh by some, but it's not a cuss word.
I'm LOLing a little bc when I was little, we weren't allowed to say "sucker" "pee" or "lie" because those were all cuss words. There's another one but I can't think of it right now. Oh well.
So you guys could only say "#1" or "urinate"? LOL
How about "punk", "sucker", "pony down"...LOL Don't ask about that last one! ;)
Heifer isn't a cuss word. It may be considered harsh by some, but it's not a cuss word.
Is Heifer a cuss word? She doesn't say it any more? I didn't know that was a cuss word.
Well...heifer is the only one she'll slip on...but she only uses it with our cat...a female cat.
"Heifer" is the same as using "bitc...". Same gender. Different animal. If the former isn't a curse word, then neither is the latter.
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So you guys could only say "#1" or "urinate"? LOL
How about "punk", "sucker", "pony down"...LOL Don't ask about that last one! ;)
Well...heifer is the only one she'll slip on...but she only uses it with our cat...a female cat.
"Heifer" is the same as using "bitc...". Same gender. Different animal. If the former isn't a curse word, then neither is the latter.
That was such a "Temperance Brennan" answer, LOL. They are different in their "slang connotation" and how society views them.
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That was such a "Temperance Brennan" answer, LOL. They are different in their "slang connotation" and how society views them.
Maybe to you, but some could view them as the same. I do, and my opinion is the only one that counts. So there! ;) LOL
I need to look up what "temperance brennan" means.
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Maybe to you, but some could view them as the same. I do, and my opinion is the only one that counts. So there! ;) LOL
I need to look up what "temperance brennan" means.
LOL, Temperance Brennan is the anthropologist from the show Bones. She's very logical... and that's an understatement, lol.
Naw, it's cool. I think those words are somewhat culturally defined, but I try to steer clear of them across all cultures. Heifer was something my Aunts and Uncles used a lot, and I also tend toward a few pseudo cuss words that I try to consciously eliminate.
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So you guys could only say "#1" or "urinate"? LOL
How about "punk", "sucker", "pony down"...LOL Don't ask about that last one! ;)
Well...heifer is the only one she'll slip on...but she only uses it with our cat...a female cat.
"Heifer" is the same as using "bitc...". Same gender. Different animal. If the former isn't a curse word, then neither is the latter.
In what circles, neighborhoods or country? :-\
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So you guys could only say "#1" or "urinate"? LOL
See 1Kings 21:21.