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Title: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Musician4God on December 19, 2011, 08:46:18 PM
Is it just me or does is seem like female musicians aren't as close as male musicians? Male musicians always seem to hang, shed, etc together. Female musicians don't seem to even really associate with each other. I myself am a female keys player, I know other female keys players but we are not friends don't know why we aren't close.  Maybe its a Memphis area  thing.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: phbrown on December 19, 2011, 08:47:45 PM
its not a musician thing ....
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: under13 on December 19, 2011, 09:19:59 PM
its not a musician thing ....

Exactly. It's a female thing.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Musician4God on December 19, 2011, 09:50:48 PM
Well within the choir scene, majority of the singers hang together and they are females
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: under13 on December 19, 2011, 09:55:50 PM
Well within the choir scene, majority of the singers hang together and they are females


And I bet they'll have no problem talking about another female member behind her back when she leaves the room. lol

Maybe it's because musicians are more competitive than singers, and the fact that there are so few of them makes them even more competitive. :-\
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: baggettcindy on December 19, 2011, 11:34:31 PM
IONNO...i think there aren't as many female musicians as male.  Maybe if there were more, you would see more fellowship.  I never thought of this though....good topic. There are plenty of singers though.  Are you counting singers as a part of musicians?   Have you thought about initiating a shed? 
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Musician4God on December 19, 2011, 11:50:18 PM
As far as musician I mean physically playing an instrument.  I have learned more chords and licks from local male musicians than females.  Where I am located I could count the number of women musicians  20-30 age range on one hand. The strange thing is our churches congregate together but that's pretty much it. I pretty much am the baby of the bunch, playing wise. I wouldn't even know where to start as far as  sheds etc.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 07:09:34 AM
Well if you can count the female musicians on one hand, how much fellowship can you reasonably expect?? Maybe you should ask one of them to mentor you, and take it from there. Or just hang out with the guys. *shrug*
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: sjonathan02 on December 20, 2011, 07:17:06 AM
Well if you can count the female musicians on one hand, how much fellowship can you reasonably expect?? Maybe you should ask one of them to mentor you, and take it from there. Or just hang out with the guys. *shrug*

I concur.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: lordluvr on December 20, 2011, 07:45:34 AM
Well if you can count the female musicians on one hand, how much fellowship can you reasonably expect?? Maybe you should ask one of them to mentor you, and take it from there. Or just hang out with the guys. *shrug*
Took the words right out of my mouth, sans the shrug.  :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 08:05:33 AM
Took the words right out of my mount, sans the shrug.  :D

There's a joke in there... but it's kinda tasteless.... and at best, not appropriate for such a Christian site as this... :D :D :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: lordluvr on December 20, 2011, 08:08:04 AM
There's a joke in there... but it's kinda tasteless.... and at best, not appropriate for such a Christian site as this... :D :D :D
Oh snap!  What a typo!  Correcting NOW!!!
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: sjonathan02 on December 20, 2011, 08:09:30 AM
Oh snap!  What a typo!  Correcting NOW!!!

Uh huh.  :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 08:26:12 AM
:D :D :D :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: nessalynn77 on December 20, 2011, 09:54:57 AM
I hang out with the males, lol.

But in my defense, there aren't any female musicians here, really.  Except for my former FL and she shows me stuff on the keys when we get together, but she's very busy and much older than the rest of us musicians.   
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Musician4God on December 20, 2011, 10:35:23 AM
Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk!  *mod edit*
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: MissMusic04 on December 20, 2011, 10:40:07 AM
*sigh*

Anywho...I only know 2-3 female musicians, lol.

And they don't know eachother, lol.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 10:44:24 AM
Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk!  *mod edit*


Ummm. Huh?

Did someone offend you? Did I?? I hope not; I surely didn't mean to. :-\

*goes back to re-read thread*
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: betnich on December 20, 2011, 10:58:52 AM
IMO, it takes extra effort to reach out and fellowship w/musicians in other churches, especially if your leadership tend to give you the side-eye for doing so. Do stuff like:

Go to Christian events and concerts
Participate in community events
Take/start a class (like choir, band, orch - to see how the other half lives)

If you're lucky enough to have a local musicians' fellowship, go and listen...
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: under13 on December 20, 2011, 11:03:30 AM
Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk! *mod edit*


wait wut?
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: lordluvr on December 20, 2011, 11:12:22 AM
Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk! *mod edit*
Gee, I hope my typo didn't offend you.  It was truly an accident, an embarrassing one at that.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 11:12:34 AM
wait wut?

doggone?

dang?



Wait, you know what?????

Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk!
 *mod edit*

Newbies call it LGM?? Hmmm.


OAN: It may be a good idea for someone (or a few someones) to start a Female Church Musicians group on FB. We have an ATL musicians group on FB that is VERY active. That's a good way to build relationships and interact with other female musicians.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: SirTJ on December 20, 2011, 11:19:47 AM
Funny story: I read Page 2 of this thread before Page 1, so when yall quoted "Musician4God" saying this is her last day on LGM, all I saw was "Music" and immediately thought it was "MissMusic". I almost got ignant in here for no reason.  :D :D :D

IRT: doesn't seem like we gave her the answer she wanted.  :-\
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: sjonathan02 on December 20, 2011, 11:20:51 AM
Funny story: I read Page 2 of this thread before Page 1, so when yall quoted "Musician4God" saying this is her last day on LGM, all I saw was "Music" and immediately thought it was "MissMusic". I almost got ignant in here for no reason.  :D :D :D

IRT: doesn't seem like we gave her the answer she wanted.  :-\

And, that's the biggest problem for many recent newbies. *sigh* *kanyeshrug*
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: SirTJ on December 20, 2011, 11:21:18 AM
Newbies call it LGM?? Hmmm.

Sherlayla Holmes, ladies and gents.

And I KNOW that *mod edit* don't stand for 'dang'. You got to take that language somewhere else, ma'am!  >:( :D :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: baggettcindy on December 20, 2011, 11:24:56 AM
I concur.

Me too.....that is what I meant by there not being a large number of female musicians. Like I said before, maybe you can initiate contact and see what happens...start a support group...LOL.  I would love to see how this turns out.  You may even have to go outside your circle of churches....
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: MissMusic04 on December 20, 2011, 11:30:20 AM
Funny story: I read Page 2 of this thread before Page 1, so when yall quoted "Musician4God" saying this is her last day on LGM, all I saw was "Music" and immediately thought it was "MissMusic". I almost got ignant in here for no reason.  :D :D :D

IRT: doesn't seem like we gave her the answer she wanted.  :-\

LMBO! :D

Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: LaylaMonroe on December 20, 2011, 11:31:16 AM
IRT: doesn't seem like we gave her the answer she wanted.  :-\

That's exactly what I was thinking.

That, and the fact that this probably isn't a newbie at all.

*pursed lips*

Sherlayla Holmes, ladies and gents.

And I KNOW that *mod edit* don't stand for 'dang'. You got to take that language somewhere else, ma'am!  >:( :D :D

:D :D :D :D
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Fenix on December 20, 2011, 11:44:51 AM
Its like one black person meeting another black person in a place where there are very few black people. They tend to not want to hang out together or be seen together.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: sjonathan02 on December 20, 2011, 12:31:07 PM
Sherlayla Holmes, ladies and gents.

And I KNOW that *mod edit* don't stand for 'dang'. You got to take that language somewhere else, ma'am!  >:( :D :D

Indeed.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: nessalynn77 on December 20, 2011, 01:20:27 PM
LOL!!!  That's what I get for having a morning meeting. 

But to the original poster, I don't understand why you were offended, but if you care to explain please do, so we can clarify.  Other than being unable to stay on topic, which is our MO, these were all pretty decent answers.  As far as the modified "SMH" acronym, we censor those because profanity is prohibited in the site rules. 

We're a pretty friendly, though slightly touched, bunch.  Hope you hang around.  You'll certainly find fellowship with both genders, all races, all walks of life, and everything in between.

If you have questions, or want to talk in private, hit me up.



Signed,

Your friendly Moderator :)
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: T-Block on December 20, 2011, 05:27:19 PM
Well that was my first and last day on LGM, so cslled church folk!  *mod edit*

Give it up for Sexual Chocolate. Come on yall....















Too soon?

wait wut?

That made me BOL for some reason.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Buck Phittie on December 23, 2011, 08:26:45 PM
I was hoping that person would've come back to clarify what was the matter. The one thing I saw has already been acknowledged as a mistake and included a public apology. Nothing else seemed remotely offensive or "un-Christ-like" to me. But that's what "I" saw, sometimes others see things differently and I don't like to see folks bent out of shape over small stuff--but I also acknowledge that it happens.
Title: Re: Lack of fellowship/friendship female musicians?
Post by: Rshay on December 24, 2011, 10:50:03 PM
IDK, strange question and a hard question to answer....because as for me, I learned more music with my fellow-females
than anybody.  My piano teacher who taught me for about 3 yrs, (she was IT*) and my mother, she's our church pianist,
(she plays in way to make you H-A-P-P-Y!!), and my sister she knows music very well (she has the quick fingers! I mean really quick!), and my cousin she took lessons along with me, (she her own unique style of playing, great*)...I know this is mostly family....but we're all females, and we're always helping each other out, giving each other pointers, singing & playing together, fellowshipping together... I got some male family members who play and all, but I mostly learned from da' sistahs! lol :D