Ok, so MOM's, I have a question. What do you do when you have a praise team member who makes it clear they do not want to be there? During rehearsal he does not sing, he just stands there with everyone else, staring at his phone texting, facebooking, etc. He does not listen to the director, and does not seem to take Praise and Worship seriously. He brings a spirit of rebellion, and just puts off bad vibes in general. Then when he finally does decide to sing, it's just not as good as it should be. When we have a new song to sing, he does not listen to it, does nothing, really, in preparation for learning the song. He's never there when it's time to sing for service, we always have to go running off looking for him, or he walks up in the middle of the song.
We really need to be united for this thing to work, and one undedicated person can mess it up for the rest. He really seems like he just wants to leave. I think he should, for the sake of the Praise Team, and for the sake of the worship service.
But he can't
Because his mother is forcing him to sing in some strange attempt at making him "use his talents for the Lord", for the sake of his Spiritual life.
I really don't know what to do. On one hand, it seems like he's already "not there" mentally, so his physical presence is a distraction, and it doesn't feel like he really takes anything about church seriously.
On the other hand, I don't want to push him away from serving the Lord, because I really care for this dude. It's really a hard dilemma, because there's not much I can do about it, because his parents are also my parents, and I want to honor there decisions.