Relationship management in the choir
The church choir is indeed a community of several individuals both males and females, except in some few that are composed of just the same sex.
The effect of the relationship index of the choir members in respect to each other and involving others outside is of a great consequence to the effectiveness and efficiency of the choir.
Open and a free opportunities for choir members to get along with themselves has created its own share of problems, this is so because many choir members have not be taught on handling relationship issues. Many choirs have experienced setbacks in their development and effectiveness because they found themselves in situations where almost everyone is in a form of relationship with the other person in the choir. A relationship always comes with its own issues.
In as much as love and unity is encouraged for the effective delivery of a choir, the need for restrictions and constraints in the way relationship are carried out must be addressed with all seriousness.
There was a particular situation in which a female choir director was in a relationship with a male choir member. Along the way the relationship did not work, she now started behaving very hostile to the male she was involved with in the presence of everybody. No one in the choir knew they ever had a relationship together.
I strongly believe that the church choir must have and maintain a deep level of spirituality and sanctity, in the mist of the joy and harmony that is expected from them.
It really does the choir no good neither the church, when it is reported that acts of sexual immorality is found among members of the choir. It discredits every ministration they will eventually carry out.
Relation issues in the choir must be regulated by the church’s leadership not by selecting partners for the choir members but by making sure things are done orderly and in accordance to God’s command.