I'd be careful not to characterize your issues as solely relating to it being a Baptist church. Having said that, many church organizations tend to be more tradition-oriented in their approach to administration, whereas others have little to no structure at all and do things in the name of "the spirit leading them". I'd suggest getting to know the vision of the church. Everything done should be in line with the vision of the pastor. From what I recall, you're still in new members class, so perhaps some of the answers to your questions will surace there. If not, that would be a great forum in which to pose those questions.