@Jeremy - Dang...I haven't advanced to that level yet. No wonder you get all the gigs:)
I'm just trying to be like you! Your groove is impeccable!
how is it that people learn songs in 15 mins to a few hours and it takes me several days? i wonder, are we defining "learning a song" in the same way? or just maybe different songs we are learning.
I think this is a good question to answer, so I'll address it with my perspective.
Step 1.When I learn a song I break it up mentally into sections.
1. Intro
2. Verse
3. Chorus
4. Vamp/hook
When you break it up that way it's a lot easier to remember what the progressions are and you'll soon find that a lot of songs are all using the same progressions in these same areas, but just played with a little different timing.
I DO NOT learn note names when playing/learning a song with the exception of knowing what Key I'm in. The progressions take care of what notes I play, so I don't worry about it at all unless we change stuff up on the fly and even then I translate that to a progression and forget about what notes I'm playing. Now if I think about it I can tell you what I'm playing, but I'm more focused on playing music than knowing exactly what note I'm playing.
I don't think that ANY of us should be learning songs to the T! If you're worried about learning a song lick by lick then you are seriously hindering your growth as a musician IMHO. Now you might be asking why, so here's a few reasons.
1. Even the people that played the original version aren't going to play it exactly the same way after they cut the record. It's just not going to happen. There will be similiar concepts, but rarely if at all will you hear someone play their own song the same way twice.
2. Why learn it to the T and it's more than likely never going to be sang exactly how the record is? We all have been there when things vamp out, or they repeat a verse, or whatever and one of two things happens.
A) we repeat exactly what we did on the last verse and it becomes a carbon copy (I HAVE BEEN THERE AND NEVER WANT TO GO BACK)
B) We ignore our natural musical voice and become a copy of someone else rather then being your own "musician".
Now with the 2 points above I'm not saying that we shouldn't study licks that others have done or try to figure them out, because that helps us learn and move around our instruments, but when it gets to the point that all you can do is mimic what you hear and you can't apply any of your own personality to the music, you've become someone that isn't someone.
Step 2.I apply a groove/feel to it and this steadily evolves as I get more and more comfortable with the feel and how the other musicians are approaching it.
Don't feel that you have to have the feel right off bat. It's not going to happen for most of us (especially when you're hearing it for the first time).