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Offline sjonathan02

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #100 on: March 10, 2008, 11:54:42 AM »
Word sis.....
No room for egos in ANY relationship.

Troof. Forgot to 'cosign' that part of LaRue's post. :-[
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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #101 on: March 10, 2008, 12:25:24 PM »
I gotcha...LOUD AND CLEAR ;)

These are the scriptures that my husband and I study on a daily basis.. Ephesians 5:21-33 (Amplified version)

21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord.

23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.

24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,

26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,

27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].

28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.

29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,

30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.

31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.(D)

32 This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church.

33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. [I Pet. 3:2.]




I totally agree with this but I would like to add one thing in this also.  I believe you have just shared the foundation for a great marriage.  Please forgive me for being long winded but this is a passion of mines because I have been learning a lot lately and have some major changes to make.  God has been showing me where I have been building my marriage on the wrong things and he has shown me some major changes I need to make. 

I think that the biggest problem is that we as married people look so much for our house to be so decorated that we don't really seek to make sure the house has no cracks in it.  We build them on the expectations so much that the foundation is very much not even there.  We put so much extra expectations on marriage that when they are not met the marriage is destroyed because of unmet expectations instead of a proper foundation.

I believe going out on dates and vacations are like having furniture and decorations in your house.  They are somewhat necessary but not mandatory.  Furniture does you no good if you don’t have somewhere to keep it and it only takes up resources if you don't have a house or somewhere to stay because you have to put it in storage and its only taking up money because you have no house at the time.  A lot of us get married buy our furniture first and then try to build our foundation and that is dangerous and doesn't really provide a lot of good use when it comes to long term relationships.  Dates only last for a short while and you need another one.  But if you both play your roles that fruit from both of your roles really provides a wonderful taste on a daily basis don't you think? 

If your fire is gone then you should check and see if your foundation is proper. 


I would like to share a quick example of a great foundation built on God even though it is not a marriage relationship.  But it shows that strong foundation which was keeping our word and fearing the Lord at all times.  It’s an example of when we go through life together it just forms a bond between to people.  Perfect examples are David and Jonathon.  They didn't have to do anything special they just went through life together as friends and were open and honest.  They understood each other and respected each other no matter what was going on. 

I especially like the way Jonathan went all out of his way to make sure he understood David’s situation with his Father Saul.  He could have gotten mad at him.  He could have just not believed him.  There are many different ways he could have reacted.  But he followed through and sought to understand David’s situation and that formed a great relationship between the two of them.   Jonathan didn't even let money, power, or anything else come between them.  All he did was submit to the Lord and the Lord granted him a great relationship with a wonderful future King of Israel.

Jonathan was one man surrendered to God and he knew that he would never have a Kingdom but he still drank the Cup of the Lord and that is one thing I love about Jonathan.  I think that we just need to drink the cup of the Lord and let nothing else stop us from drinking that cup all the way through.  Not just some parts of it but all of it and then the rest will come into place just as the scriptures say in Matthew 6.  Everything else we do is icing on the cake.  I think if we seek to drink our roles together with passion which is the way we can drink the cup of the Lord all the way through and then as we have mastered that I believe God will bless many marriages tremendously no matter what trials you go through. 

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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #102 on: March 10, 2008, 01:48:24 PM »
I've been away from this thread for a few days...
And I've read some posts....
Some I agree with....And some I don't...
But I will say this....
I was reading some of the views on the woman's role.
And how they should treat the husband.
I'll say this....
and this is only in some cases.

I think that SOME women....(Ladies of LGM don't kill me)
Emphasis on SOME....
They have forgotten the old way.
They have gotten so caught up in this modern way of thinking,
that they've forgotten how to be a good wife.
There's nothing wrong with being strong,
and having a career....and holding your own.

But never forget that you are a WIFE.
and that comes before anything, and everything.
I hear so many women say....
that grandma's way of being a wife doesn't work today.
But I think it works fine, if you know what a wife SHOULD be.

And being a wife does NOT mean you have to be a slave.
And a GOOD, God fearing man wouldn't want his wife to be a slave.

He just wants his wife to be willing to do anything for him.
Simply because that husband is willing to do ANYTHING for
his wife, to keep her happy.

A wife should know her place....
and before ya'll flip out on Ya man REDY.
A wife knowing her place...doesn't mean anything bad.
Because a husband should know his place also.

Redy as long as your wife gives you what you've just written then you've got it made my friend. ;)


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Re: What can we married folks do to keep........................?
« Reply #103 on: March 10, 2008, 01:54:51 PM »
Why? It speaks to husband and wives submitting TO ONE ANOTHER. A factor that a LOT of couples miss too many times, sadly. :-\
You and I think too much a like...this is getting scurry! (just kidding) ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D




As an aside though, when we went through pre-marital counseling the counselors (husband and wife) told us that the husband's role is not to be the BIG BOSS MAN but HEAD of household means to be the one held responsible. This is what impressed me so much the fact that we had both a husband and wife counselling us. A man can only say things from what he sees and feels and a woman can only say what she sees and feels....eventhough as I said earlier both men and women's views should line up with the Word of God (Eph 5 & 2 Peter 3:2 etc)
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